Father going on Vacation..what to do??

Nicka - posted on 12/22/2011

Thank you so much, Amy! I totally agree :)

Amy - posted on 12/21/2011

You asked him a question about going before or after his friends and he didn't answer....that's pretty crappy. At least come up with something like we'll see or who would watch our little one, but to leave it out there without responding at all that's a jerk move on his part.

I also have a problem that he never went to the doctors with you. My husband went to every single appointment for both of our kids, if he hadn't made any attempt to go to some of the appointments I would of been mad.

If I were you I would plan a girls weekend away when he gets back. If he won't take the time off to do something with you, that doesn't mean you shouldn't get a break. He's dad he can juggle while you take some time to think things over! But be sure to inform him beforehand that you are going to try and plan a little break away with some friends, let him know you'll be sure to give him the dates when you figure it all out.

Casey - posted on 12/21/2011

No probs - My best friend says You teach people how to treat you, and if you let him use you as a doormat, he will treat you as such. :)

Nicka - posted on 12/21/2011

Thanks Casey! That's what I was thinking myself!

Nicka - posted on 12/21/2011

Thanks Shannin! I'm excited and I will be there!

Casey - posted on 12/21/2011

Hi Nicka
My hubby has work colleagues who say stuff like 'they can't wait to get away' from their significant other - and how come he's happy tobe at homw. He said to them because apparently unlike you guys I LIKE my wife and LIKE spending time with her. Otherwise - whats the point if you are trying to escape your SO all the time? As Shannin said Red Flags! I understand the need to spend time alone with friends, (girls/boys weekend maybe) but a holiday in Vegas without you? Over christmas? I would be hurt and embarrassed myself if hubby didn't even attempt to do something with me first or want us to go together. Good luck!

Shannintipton - posted on 12/21/2011

Welcome to Bitchin Ladies. I hope you grow to love CoM as much as I do. If you have any questions are concerns please dont hesitate to contact me. Oh I hope we see you in Random Chat too. :)

Nicka - posted on 12/21/2011

Thank you! I understand what you're saying.

Shannintipton - posted on 12/21/2011

I see red flags. Sorry. I hope it gets better. I would definitely talk with him about this. If you dont now, it may only get worse and he may start taking you for granite. Good luck.

Nicka - posted on 12/21/2011

Thank you!

September - posted on 12/21/2011

I don't see it as a reason to leave him but I can understand why you're upset. I would make him committee to taking a vacation with you in the rear future and if he can't do that well then maybe you two need to evaluate your relationship. You deserve a vacation too!

Nicka - posted on 12/21/2011

That's what my family is saying. Thank you!

Carolee - posted on 12/21/2011

I'd change the locks while he's gone. If he truly wants to be with you, he needs to treat you with a bit more respect. If he begs enough and shows that he's ready to be a real man and be there for his family first, then give him the new key and let him bck in. You'd have to be prepared for him to walk away, though.