How much time do you spend being mad at hubby or SO.

Constance - posted on 07/26/2011

We used to have our arguements that would onlylast for afew hours then it was make up time. The longer we were together the longer we stayed mad. Until we just stop talking and showing affection all together. We almost completel lost our marriage after 17 yrs. Until last week then over the weekend we completely reconnected and we are talking about everything including things we haven't thought about in years.

If I have learned anything in the past week is love isn't enough. Relationships take work. When you get comfortable you neglect your partner and before you know it there is nothing there but love. If you argue then make sure you don't stay mad too long. If it man yeling and screaming to get it all out just to be able to realize how much you want to be together and love each other. It can spiral out of control and you don't think it will ever get back to normal. It is the little things that do it. Anything a card, text message, or even just a kiss for no reason at all. That is how to remind each other how much you love each other and want to be together. Most important of all talk. Talk about anything not just work and kids.

Shannintipton - posted on 07/26/2011

OMG you sound just like me. I have to get it out and hubby just clams up. I hate it.

Welcome to Bitchin Ladies Raynae. :)

Raynae - posted on 07/26/2011

I do the silent treatment, and my boyfriend hates it! I hate it too because I just think of more things to piss myself off. Haha. But if do argue with him then he gets butt hurt and sensitive about everything... ugh.

I do feel better after I get it all out though instead of holding it in. And I do explode after a while if things keep building up, and that is not a pretty sight...

Shannintipton - posted on 07/22/2011

danielle, lol, i cant do the silent treatment. i would explode. i have to get it out. i will rant all day long. even to myself. ranting all the way threw the halls, in the bathroom you name it. he once thought i was on the phone i was ranting so much. ha ha

Shannintipton - posted on 07/22/2011

Oh nichole that would be fun. i would love that. oh lets try that. i cant wait. yeah. i am so happy. :)

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 07/22/2011

Aww. I'll be fine. I'm just not ready to leave him yet, hoping we can fix it all. We'll see. He is trying, he's just slow about it. He has a shitload of issues when it comes to the house. He's a bit OCD, even his mom mentioned how he used to line his toys up by color when he was little and spend hours putting toys away... so I mean, I just came up against more than laziness. I'm coming up against a personal dysfunction which he has to work to overcome. Like he said, when he does do something, he has to do it fully - like all the movies games and cds are alphabatized lmao I could care less about that.........

Maybe we can meet at Knotts after my butt delivers.. I'm such a wimp for rides though lol

Danielle - posted on 07/22/2011

I fight through silence. I'll say what I need to say and then won't speak to him or even acknowledge that he exists. I know this sounds crazy but I can't stand a smart mouth...I'm enough of a smart ass for both of us and don't need his lol. If he want's to piss me off he knows the only thing he has to do is pop off at me. That's why I do the silent treatment...if I don't speak then he can't make me any madder lol. The longest it's ever been would prlly be about three days. Our last argument was Sunday when I was suppose to go to an amusement park & he told me he had to work that day so I canceled my plans and then woke up that Sunday to find him in bed beside me. I haven't had a break from the kids in two mnths so you can imagine how pissed I was. The silent treatment lasted till bed that night lol

Shannintipton - posted on 07/22/2011

nichole. we will not be going this week. we have plans and next week is his birthday so i dont know. soon i am sure. and don't you love constant battles over the same shit. i wish he would get a clue. he does it just to piss me off but she gets hurt in the process. ASS

i hope things get better for you guys. i worry about you all the time. :(

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 07/22/2011

Seriously Shannin, when are you going to Knotts next? Because if I saw him do that to your daughter I would smack him myself :) yeah


I feel like the past year of our relationship has been an ongoing battle. Yuck......

Shannintipton - posted on 07/22/2011

We are going on day two. but 24 hours. it start mid day yesterday. all i can say if he wants me to help clean this house for HIS rock band party tomorrow, there better be a bruise on my butt from his lips pressing so hard. HA HA

Carolee - posted on 07/22/2011

We fight whenever he refuses to listen to me. He is the most stubborn person I've ever met. He doesn't always realize that, even though I'm 7 years younger than him, I have a TON of life experiences that he hasn't. We also fight when he just leaves everything up to luck. I have horrible luck, and he'd always had great luck. Since getting together, it's kind of gone to the middle. He constantly leaves stuff up to chance while I'm working furiously in the background trying to make things work. One example is that I had to find this apartment that we just moved to... in one week! It drives me insane! It will last until he sees that I am right, which has taken up to a couple of months.

Amanda - posted on 07/22/2011

It depends what shift he's on and how much overtime he's done. Also depends on what he's done. The longest I went without talking to him was a week, I'm very very stubborn so if I know I'm right I won't back down.
Even still no matter what he will always give me a kiss when he leaves for work even at 5am and I'm asleep.

Lissa - posted on 07/22/2011

Generally when we get really mad about something then get about two sentences into the argument then burst out laughing because it's so stupid! We just aren't very good at arguing :)

Kyleigh - posted on 07/22/2011

I thought my DH was the only one Shannin! He does that too LOL totally irks me!

Shannintipton - posted on 07/21/2011

We fight in cycles too. Or maybe it is my cycle. ha ha.

Lin - posted on 07/21/2011

It varies with us - it could be a 5-minute argument, or I could storm out of the house and take a 3 mile walk in the rain. Lately he knows to tread lightly, as he gets to work in a building with functioning AC and we're making do at home with multiple fans, cold baths, etc. (our AC quit as this lovely heat wave started). We go through cycles too; I think a lot of it is both of us dealing with stress that builds up and blows.



Edit: He just brought me a large cup of ice water.....it's like he knows LOL.

Jodi - posted on 07/21/2011

We actually rarely argue, but when we do, it can go on for a couple of days. Until my husband cools down enough to get the fuck over it, generally. But it really is only a few times a year. Occasionally we get a little annoyed at each other and have a couple of words, but it never goes any further than that. Mostly, we just mention our concern and move on. Not every disagreement has to be an issue. I think we just pick our battles........



Actually, I am the one who tends to pick our battles. if we have a bigger fight or argument, it is generally because I am the one who takes major issue with something that I can't just move on from. My husband would be quite happy if I just left it alone I think. But then, HE gets pissed that I made issue about it and he won't let it go......

Kelly - posted on 07/21/2011

We fight until I get what I want. I'm not kidding. Sometimes that is a compromise, sometimes he has to come over completely to my way of thinking. We pick our battles carefully, we're not going to waste time and energy fighting over something we can both live with, so we don't fight often. When we do, it can last up to a week or more. We have rarely worked through an argument in a single day.

Generally, I make a list of points I want to bring up, why I feel the way I do about them. I note his counter arguments and counter them. If I get too emotional on a topic, I cannot think about it, and thus, I can't argue it, so we do a lot of our fighting via email and letters.

I hate apologies. I think they are usually insincere--I've never had anyone apologize for anything they have not actually done again. IMO, if you are truly sorry, you won't do it again, so I tell my husband that his actions are my apology.

Tamara - posted on 07/21/2011

Its usually the first day off after graveyards, By that time I am tired his stupidness, He gets better for about a month then back to the same crap

Shannintipton - posted on 07/21/2011

I like that rule. Except our one arguement can and most times last all day. ha ha. Luckily that doesn't happen too often although we do seem to go in cycles. We will fight all the time and the weeks will go by without a fight. lol

Rebecca - posted on 07/21/2011

me and my hubby have a 1 arguement a day rule haha, theres always something one of us can bitch about. we make up in about 20 minutes give or take. we dont really have "real" fights about things that actually matter.