I don't know how to do things for myself.

Tamara - posted on 07/02/2011

good luck :)

Shannintipton - posted on 07/02/2011

Great idea. And I wont tell anyone so encase I fail no one will be the wiser. I like it. I will try it and tell you how it works out. Thanks. :)

Tamara - posted on 07/02/2011

One thing you could try is doing something small quick and easy. that way if you mess up its not a big loss, if you succeed it will boost your self confidence, then slowly move up from there. just an idea.

Shannintipton - posted on 06/30/2011

Sorry I have to feed the kids. I will think about this question because it is a good one. Valid points I need to address and so on. Talk to you soon. And again thanks for the theraphy session. I already feel better. Thanks for listening. :)

Shannintipton - posted on 06/30/2011

Wow it is a small world. There are so many of us out there. And yes so many fall threw the cracks. I am very lucky to have my hubby. He is a control freak and he gets overwhelmed at times taking care of me. But he started it. LOL

Lissa - posted on 06/30/2011

Have you thought about taking some courses to help you get your confidence back? OK so your disabled, you are bi-polar, that is not easy but you can improve things for yourself mentally by empowering yourself.

Lissa - posted on 06/30/2011

My brother has a frontal lobe disorder, can be perfectly sensible but wont wash for instance unless you prompt him. He goes to make food, gets everything out then walks away but if you ask him he is convinced he ate. His sleeping is way off, we were told if we wake him as opposed to leaving him to wake on his own that the lights may be on but nobody is home. So he goes through fazes where he will sleep 20 hours a day or 2. We are told he was born that way but even though he had all sorts of help and special education he was 30 before he was diagnosed, even then it was actually by accident. He had a support worker that put him forward for a study about gaps in the mental health services, she felt he fell through the cracks as he didn't fit into a partcular group. The doctor who was doing the study was the one who figured it out and did something!

Shannintipton - posted on 06/30/2011

I meant to answer those questions. Yes I am bi-polar, manic-depressive not to mention the part of my brain that was cut out was in the frontal lobe. That is where your critical and logic thinking comes from. So in a nut shell I lack common sense and can be a little slow to catch on. Hence my saying the speed of stupid. lol
I have seem many many many doctors. I am on a ton of medication. Too many. I suffer from migraines too. And lets not forget the sciatica (or bulging discs) to boot. I am only 46 but what a mess. I don't know what else to say. But I have it pretty darn good compared to a lot of other people. I just forget that from time to time.
I am really happy to hear that your hubby isn't in a wheelchair. I have some ladies from my disabled community that are. And as you know that can be really difficult. You are so nice. I like you :)

Lissa - posted on 06/30/2011

No he's out of it now, just sticks a bad limp and a lot of pain, he is also diabetic and has fibromyalgia to boot.
Have you seen a doctor about how you feel? Have you considered depression, bi-polar, anything to do with messed up brain chemistry. Have you thought about a psychologist to help you deal with the fear?

Shannintipton - posted on 06/30/2011

OMG is he still in a wheel chair if you don't mind my asking. That is tough.

I think MOST of the time it is just a lack of confidence. But there are however some times that I get so mentally immobile that I am almost par-al-lized emotionally with fear and literally should not be driving. Then I have my moments when I am on top of the world and I can do anything. Mostly afraid of the unknown. Thanks for letting me share. I feel really great right now. Thanks.

Lissa - posted on 06/30/2011

I get your disabled due to the brain injury but seriously are you incapable of doing anything for yourself?
I'm sure you can and do plenty, so I'm going to ask straight out are you depressed, have you been to a Doctor? Have you lost confidence in your abilities rather than the ability to do things?
After my husbands accident he was in a wheelchair, could barely do anything and was depressed. I remember him talking about not even being able to make coffee and I said to him of course you can, you make it in the travel mug so you can cap it and wheel yourself with the cup and not get burned. Maybe you just need to find new ways to do things while accepting there will be limitations on some things.