Lies, lies, lies!!!!

Christina - posted on 10/09/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I posted this same thing in Custodial Stepmoms, but I'll do the edited version right now.

We pay child support. Hubby got behind about 2.5yrs ago because he lost his fulltime job and could only get a part time job making $300 a month. He has been making consistent payments for a year and a half again. We have our son (Sorry, I can't call him my stepson) 7-9 days every other week, she has him 5-7 days every other week. We still pay child support.
BM has consistently called my husband or sent text messages to hubby and ME asking if we have sent her in any money. It is at least twice a month. She will also tell us the AG keeps calling her asking where my hubby is, that they are going to arrest him for being behind, AND demanding to know (from her) when he is making another payment. This has apparently happened about three times in the past four months.
Of course we called and it was all a lie. AG told us they would NEVER contact her asking her info about us, even if they were issuing a warrant. They also told us they are very happy with his payment history for the past 1.5yrs and have problems with when he sends his money in during the month because he pays not only his entire payment, but sends extra in for the back support. And there has never even been a motion filed to start the proceeding for an arrest warrant.
So how the hell do we get this girl to leave us the hell alone, and to quit lying to us about the AG? We have even started sending in her entire monthly payment, plus the extra, on the first paycheck of every month hoping she will leave us alone, but now she is back to saying the AG is calling because he hasn't made a payment in 3wks (regardless that the entire thing was payed plus extra 3wks ago.)

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Christy - posted on 11/08/2011

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It seems she has him less time that y'all do. Why is CS required? Can you get a review and just stop paying the current and play catch up for the back support?

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You can give her phone number a special ring tone...when your phone starts ringing funny, just don't answer it. Let everything she has to say be said on a voicemail. Voicemail messages are admissible in court...you KNEW you were being recorded.

If she's calling the house phone...take your camera, zoom in really tight and take a snapshot of EACH entry on your caller id.

I carried a stack of pictures one inch thick to court. The judge accepted them. That PROVED her harassment....the judge started reading out the dates and times. "October 10...you called at 7:15, 7:18, 7:23, 7:29, 7:32..." on and on and ON. The judge accepted my snapshots of the caller id screen as evidence of the harassment.

Of COURSE keep every single receipt for what you've paid. Not just to the AG...but for the Christmas stuff, the clothes, the food, we had receipts for buying two CARS that weren't listed in Child Support. (she never MENTIONED that to her lawyer..he looked like a doof in court when we started showing all the money we had spent. He was fighting on the grounds that this poor little lady was getting NUTHIN.)

The judge looked through my receipts and SAW...we were providing her with MONEY ORDERS..with child support written on the "for" line, as well as providing both kids with clothes, toys, electronics, automobiles..and as they got older, cash deposited directly onto their own reloadable walmart cards. The judge accepted all of these receipts...and used that to determine we aren't giving her the minimum...we are paying her what we owed...and a serious chunk of additional money went to BUY the kids things they wanted...not needed.

Treat her like a thief..and keep one hand on your pocket. Protect yourself. Limit communication to what can be taken to court. Text messages, Voicemails...emails...things that you can HAND a judge.

Judges are really wise men..they don't get put in that position for just showing up on time. They have all seen decades of women abusing the system. They DO know what they are looking at. IF you show them.

Our judge settled our case in our favor. The $26,900.00 we had paid was considered beyond sufficient. We were only responsible for another 6 months of payments...at $65 a week. She was a VERY mad wet hen. She lost a LOTTA money dragging us to court that last time.

Load your guns...and push her into following through with her threats. If you've got the paperwork to prove your money...she's NOT going to be happy when she leaves court.



** I just re-read this and wanted to add..the things we gave the kids were GIFTS..the cars, the clothes, the cameras...computers...all that was considered GIFTS..and were NOT part of the child support payments. This money was NOT considered child support..but was only presented to the judge to PROVE that my husband was NOT a dead-beat-dad. He provided for their every whim and want. THAT was our intention when we showed the judge all the receipts in the GIFT folder.

Katherine - posted on 10/09/2011

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Tell her to take it up with the courts, otherwise say listen, we are going to file harassment charges against you if you don't leave us alone!

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♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/09/2011

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Christina, try legal aide, that's what I had to do a few times. I had a great lawyer for my custody cases and I won and have kept full custody of my older daughter.

Good luck

Christina - posted on 11/09/2011

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We have to go to court for that, and we can't afford the lawyer right now. It is crap.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/07/2011

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I'd keep and record everything. Sounds like she'll be fun in a few years or even months. And good luck

Kyleigh - posted on 11/07/2011

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I would totally ignore that womans phone calls leave it to the voicemail for her to say something with her threats, thats why there is a prosecutor / caseworker assignned to child support going by your "last name."

Katherine - posted on 10/09/2011

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But you may have to whether it's in his best interest or not. OR you could just not take her phone calls.

Christina - posted on 10/09/2011

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Yeah, we were told we could file harassment charges against her. I just don't think that is in the best interest of our son.
At least we know for sure that she's lying her ass off. It will be interesting to see what my husband does next time she asks where her money is.

Tara - posted on 10/09/2011

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I agree with Katherine. Basically you need to let her know that you BOTH have spoken with AG personally and have been told they are happy with his payment schedule and that if SHE has a problem with it then she needs to take it to court. Also tell her that if she doesn't back off with the constant calling you will look into filing harassment charges and consider a restraining order preventing her from calling about anything except your son.

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