Michelle - posted on 12/20/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )
I am luckier then many in having a good relationship with my in laws. But there is one thing killing me about them being here this week (it is otherwise an above average completely wonderful visit). It's my father in laws smoking. My husband used to smoke and quit when we got pregnant with my oldest. He comes from a long line of smokers. I am an asthmatic and come from a long line of asthmatics. I really don't want my kids to be around it and I really can't be around it. This has always been a problem. I have flat out explained this several times. I am thankful that my father in law will not smoke in the house or in the car, but that's all kind of wasted when he takes my youngest outside with him when he smokes or leaves the door open while he's outside smoking. The guest bed now smells like an ash tray (my husband was the first to notice when he went in there to get something) and the car's starting to smell too. I just can't seem to get my point across. The worst part is that since my husband was raised in that environment he doesn't see my problem with this. I've spent the past couple of days wheezing and glued to my inhaler (including being up half the night coughing). I am so glad that they came to see us and thrilled about how well it's going with the kids. But I don't know how much longer my lungs can take this.