Possible Debate. Would you spank you child .....in public?
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Tah - posted on 07/23/2011
Well I guess those who choose to spank are glad you aren't the authority on what parenting is or isn't....and though I haven't spanked in a long time, I have and will again for whatever reason I think is necessary as they are my children and we get to choose the method in which I raise them. also, people who choose this method shouldn't have to defend it to people who aren't the authority on it, if people who use other methods don't. Hey we all have a bitch list...other peoples don't matter to me just as much as mine doesn't matter to them. So I see plenty of things that are on mine when I go out, I'm sure I will at trader joes, the car lot and the commissary today as I'm on my way out shopping, but unless it directly affects me or someone is having an emergency, I mind my business and mentally check it off, glad you do the same...
Johnny - posted on 07/23/2011
I think perhaps those of us who choose to ream parents who spank a new asshole just want to make sure they know how their kids feel...
Sorry I have pretty much zero patience for this. Spanking kids would definitely be on my bitch list. Working in child protection, as a child care worker, as an emergency foster parent and as a mom I just do not buy into any of the excuses, justifications and lines people use to defend their choice. I do not think it is abuse and unless it is going to be leaving real marks I am not going to be caling CPS. However I do NOT consider it a.parenting method, just a worthless cop-out.
Jenn - posted on 07/22/2011
No, I wouldn't. But you probably know that ;)
I hate when I see a mom hold her child by the arm and
spank them! It is humiliating to the child, the mother looks out of control and the situation only escalates from there. If anything, I have had to grab my child by the arm, pull her to the side and give her the Evil Eye with a barely whispered reprimand. If my child misbehaves in public, it isn't necessary for the public to see her punishment.
Carolee - posted on 07/22/2011
Shannin, it's not that it's a bad debate... it's that most mothers who spank know that they will most likely get reamed a new ass hole by those who don't. I'm not saying that it would happen here, but it happens in almost every other community I've been in.
That being said, yes, I have spanked my son in public.
Jenni - posted on 07/22/2011
Nope, I'm a PD parent and the P does not stand for perfect btw.....
I DID spank my son once. In a knee jerk reaction to being kicked in the stomach at 8 months pregnant, by a 2 year old, during a diaper change. Not one of my proudest moments. A mix of being a child who was spanked and pregnancy hormones and I lost control in that moment.
But I haven't since.... even though, you better believe there are moments when I'm at my wit's end with my son that I get the mental image of spanking his bum. But it would purely be for my own release of frustration, not to teach him any lesson. So that is one of the reasons I don't spank, one of many.
Christina - posted on 07/23/2011
Yep, I've spanked in public. And yes, it was called for. Yes, it was just a swat on the butt (nothing that hurt.) And yes, my children immediately corrected their behavior. I have only done it a handful of times, but if it is needed, I will do it.
Well, Johnny.... he was freaking out and fighting me and was about to drop out of my arms. No guarantee that he would've hit his head, but at the angle he was dropping... it was likely. One single, minor swat and he stopped fighting and I was able to get a hold of him to NOT drop him.
Sorry... can't draw you a stick figure on here. I can't draw anyway and since it was 6+ months ago... my memory isn't good enough to know exactly how it was at the time. I DO know that I did the only option I could see at the time and I'd do it again if need be, but what do you know.... my son has never fought me like that again, so I wouldn't NEED to. ;)
Rosie - posted on 07/23/2011
no i wouldn't do it anymore. i used to spank, realized i did it out of frustration and anger and decided i wouldn't do that to my boys anymore.
when i DID do it, yes i would do it in public. consistancy is the key to any discipline and well, if you have exhausted all other resources and spanking is what you would normally i do i would think you would have to stick with that.
Yeah... spanking is bad. I should've let my 2 year old son hit the blacktop on the back of his head instead. That would've been a lot better.....
Yeah, I know. No one is picking apart my response and I get that many people think that spanking equals hitting under any and all circumstances. Doesn't make it true though. ;)
Tah - posted on 07/22/2011
just because someone uses spanking doesn't make it any less parenting, im sure they call it parenting as well..just different parenting then yours..and if you ladies aren't in the store minding someone elses business as to how they are choosing to parent their children, judging them and ready to call cps when there is no abuse..which im sure you ladies aren't..then the comment wasn't for you...only those who are...i just thought id clarify because i see perfect thrown around alot and im pretty sure it was for my response...
Julie - posted on 07/22/2011
We're probably not the norm, but we do spank on occassion. We try to make the punishment fit the crime. My daughter will respond to discipline without being spanked. My step-son grew up in a house where there were no clear cut rules or discipline. His mom would scream at him if she got mad and that was about it. He has lived with us for about a year and a half and has came a long way. He's a little hard-headed at times, so yes, we have spanked him. He's 13 now, so he usually gets grounded from the Xbox and DS and things like that. My husband has always been the disciplinarian when it comes to him and his ex (they haven't been together since my SS was a baby) just looks at him as her baby, her little boy.
Julie - posted on 07/22/2011
I have given my kid a swat in public. Not a hard spanking, but more to get her attention and let her know she needs to settle down. She is pretty level headed and spanking isn't the best form of discipline for her. Usually all I have to tell her is she's going to have to stare at the wall if she doesn't quit. I know it's probably wrong, but we joke about hitting a lot. If she's being a little annoying or something (usually on purpose) I ask her nose or eye? She grins and tells me both or whichever one and I play punch her.
If you count out in public as outside my house... I have. Spanking in general is a rare occurance, but the time I'm thinking of.... my choices at that moment were to swat his butt or drop him in the parking lot (where he most likely would've gotten a lot more hurt). I chose the lesser of two evils. Other than that.... I can't remember any.
Amanda - posted on 07/21/2011
No I wouldn't. If the misbehave they are strapped into the stroller and not allowed back out for the duration of the outing. If we are in the supermarket they are confined to the trolley. If I go to do it with my 3 yr old he will now say I'm sorry mummy I wana listen and will sometimes tow the line. 8 out of 10 times though I will end up with 2 screaming kids strapped in and unable to get out, I get some disapproving looks about the tantrums but I don't care, I'm in control and they're not running ferral through the shops
Firebird - posted on 07/21/2011
I did once. When Rhiannon ripped out of my hand during a meltdown and ran out in front of a speeding car. She got one then and there for almost giving me a heart attack. Haven't needed to in public since. I do wish that more people in this town would drive the speed limit.
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