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Shannintipton - posted on 08/23/2011 ( 260 moms have responded )

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Lets see how long I can stay off of CoM. LOL

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September - posted on 08/23/2011

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We did make up but not until this morning. I decided to give in and give him a kiss. However it does vary when it comes to who gives in first. We do usually say sorry because we can sometimes say hurtful things to one another in the heat of the moment that we don't really mean, so a sorry goes a long way in those cases. We both have a lot going these days which can make life a bit stressful BUT our vacation is just 4 days away...we both REALLY need it too! Thanks Nubian Queen! :)

Julie - posted on 08/25/2011

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Aww, thanks Shannin. His dad and I really do want him to succeed. His mom says she does, I just don't think she knows how to do it. Her daughter had to get her GED and if Nick graduates high school, he'll be the first one in his family in at least 3 generations, may be 5. Make that when he graduates. :) I think your boy will be fine. From everything I've heard you say about him, he's a normal little boy. And him doing the sports and swimming probably help him a lot. And he plays with other kids in the neighborhood. Nick lived out in the middle of nowhere and there weren't any other kids around. When Nick was about your son's age, his mom put him in wrestling. About two weeks later she took him out because he was getting in trouble for using his moves on the school bus. He had some pretty good teachers last year that kept us involved whether we wanted to be or not. LOL I'm a little sad that one of them retired, was hoping he would have her again this year. Nick never got to do anything besides the wrestling and I'm not sure that even counts. He wants to play soccer like his little sister does, but grades come first. I feel like I'm showing my daughter favoritism sometimes because she does soccer, cheer, and now girl scouts (yum cookies!), but even though she just started the 1st grade, she knows if her grades start slipping and she doesn't do her work, she doesn't get to do any of those things.

Julie - posted on 08/25/2011

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Thanks. He had some friends that were a bad influence at his old school. One of his suspensions were because he called a teacher a f***ing b***** in the 5th grade. I couldn't believe it. There is no way I would've used that language in the 5th grade. By the time I was in 7th, sure. Anyway, his teachers just passed him along cuz they didn't want him two years in a row. He's 13 now and doing 7th grade for the 2nd time. It's hard adjusting to a new school in a small town when you are in 6th grade and all the other kids have known each other since pre-school. Plus, his mom never took him anywhere because she was afraid how he would act in public. So instead of teaching him how to behave, she just never takes him anywhere. This has made him a little socially awkward. He's maturing, slowly but surely, but when you're in 7th grade (the first time) and you throw a temper tantrum in class because you don't get the reward the rest of the class is getting because you didn't do your work, people pick on you. He's also ADHD, but he's learned how to cope without the pills, they never helped him anyway, he only used them for a crutch and I'm not sure he ever needed them. That's a whole different debate and I do think there are kids that need them, I just feel that Nick needed guidance more than pills.

Constance - posted on 08/25/2011

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Our children always have to come first no matter what. You can love someone and not be able to be with them. I would make the same decision if I was in your shoes right now. Of course you don't want anything to happen to him but you will do what you have to do.

Constance - posted on 08/24/2011

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Money can defidently play a major roll in a disconnect between partners. When you are spending more than you really have the bills are still there. I know you go on a lt of cruises but that is your way that you relax and don't worry about all the things that bother you. Mainly your disability and the pain you are in. You both need to sit down and look at your money. Save every reciept for a month and see where you spend your money. Then decide what you can cut back on. The extras that you can live without. Youhave to do this for several monthes to figure it out completely but you can do it. But you also have to have the debt you have aquired over time and make a plan on how to pay it off.

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Shannintipton - posted on 08/25/2011

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I can do that. I will close this now and start a new one. Good Idea. :)

Shannintipton - posted on 08/25/2011

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Hey people anybody out there. I am home and all is right with the world. LOL

Shannintipton - posted on 08/25/2011

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It sounds like you are the best thing for him. Good job. It is great that there is someone there who is not going to give up on him. That is so wonderful. Yes that would be hard repeating the same grade. I hope that doesnt happen over here. I too have mental issues and find it hard to get out ans socialize. That scares me a little about what you said. The mom not taking him out to socialize and now it being a little awkward. Oh crap I hope I am not doing that to my kids. My son plays sports all the time and swimming. The neighbor lady takes him to the park all the time. But Oh I am scared now. Sorry you are going threw this but your story may have just helped another little boy to hopefully not go threw the same thing. So thank you and Good Luck. Your a hell of a mom. Good job. :)

Shannintipton - posted on 08/25/2011

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Oh that doesnt sound good. How old is he???? And I guess it happens. Do you know what the problem is. My son in first grade lived in the principals office. I was mortified every time the phone rang. He was hanging with the wrong crowd. IN THE FIRST GRADE. They split them up and he has been fine ever since. I didnt know what to do. He is going into the third grade now. I am crossing my fingers. Good luck with yours. :)

Julie - posted on 08/25/2011

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Nice. This boy's momma has let him run wild as a kid and he's actually straightening out now. He's lived with us for almost two years now and he's doing better, but it is only two weeks into the new school year and he's already got 3 days detention.

Shannintipton - posted on 08/25/2011

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I think I only did it once. The second time I was scheduled I was switching schools because my parents were mad. So I didnt go. What were they going to do, kick me out. lol

Julie - posted on 08/25/2011

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He did that a couple of times last year. Our rule is, if you make yourself have to be at school when you normally wouldn't have to be, you are responsible for getting yourself there. Well, he was twelve so he had to walk. I think he had to do that twice. The second time was freezing. He didn't get Saturday school again.

Shannintipton - posted on 08/25/2011

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I was soooo bad in high school I had saturday detention. All school day hours. It sucked.

Julie - posted on 08/25/2011

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It was. I love the italian herb and cheese bread. It always makes me wish I ordered the footlong instead of the 6 inch. I'd make myself miserable if I did tho.

Julie - posted on 08/25/2011

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That sucks :( hope you feel better. I'm thinking I might go to Subway.....haven't been there in a while.

Katherine - posted on 08/25/2011

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Well it just turned 12 here. I haven't felt well enough to eat.....

Julie - posted on 08/25/2011

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It's not afternoon here yet, but doing great. Thinking about what I want for lunch already and it's still an hour away. :(

Julie - posted on 08/25/2011

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Yeah, I was a good kid and I don't remember ever getting detention. My SS doesn't think it's that big of a deal I guess. We did have to make it clear that he will get in less trouble at home if he comes to us and lets us know he got in trouble b/c his teachers email us and we'd rather hear it from him than from them. This kid is gonna give me gray hair. Oh, he acted all surprised when he heard that his friend didn't tell his parents about the detention. We were like What kind of boy wouldn't tell his parents about detention?? Hmm...How did we find out?

And then my daughter tells the best part about having all day school is that the babysitter doesn't know if they ate all their lunch or not and gives them a snack anyway.

Laura - posted on 08/25/2011

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ahh.. detention..those were the days! actually i think i only spent about 2 hours in detention my whole childhood. too bad, i should have lived it up and been bad! lol

Julie - posted on 08/25/2011

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So yesterday after school, my 13 y/o texts me saying Guess who goes to my school? Turns out its one of my hubby's army buddy's kids. Anyway, I ask if they have any classes together. No, but we did have detention together. LMAO Well, we tell the guy about it this morning and dude is totally cluleless that his kid had detention. Guess we got him in trouble. Oops. Sorry, kid.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/25/2011

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Don't know when I'll be back on. Since I'm on my dad's computer, it depends on if he's not on it when I have free time.

Night night.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/25/2011

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Sorry, I have to get some sleep. So I'll be off by the time you get back.

Constance - posted on 08/25/2011

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Hey give me 10 mins. I will be right back. I am going to run to Starbucks they are open now. I really need a quad shot white chocolate mocha soy. BRB Don't go anywhere.

Constance - posted on 08/25/2011

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Protect your energy that is what will get you through this time and in the future.

Constance - posted on 08/25/2011

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You are doing everything nessary to protect your life without him. Remember to breath and take it one day at a time. One day things will come together.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/25/2011

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I don't even have the emotional energy to pray for him. I try to keep him out of my thoughts as much as possible other than to be vigilent about safegaurding my family. He is no longer family. I have totally put him in God's hands, he is not my responsibility. The safety of my family, the love within my family, the emotional, spiritual, mental and physical health of my family is my priority. He was the one who said we were over. He removed himself from the family.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/25/2011

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I still love my husband. Love never dies. Not if it was love in the first place. I know that he is hurting because of all of this and I hurt for him. He is sick. I can do nothing to help him. I could have been his biggest ally, but he ruined that. I still love him though. I have children who are my priority though so.....

Constance - posted on 08/25/2011

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Normally. I have a lot of those moments as well. He is an idiot but I love him. No matter what I love him.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/25/2011

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Yes, but you'll probably have to tell him where he left something of his because he won't remember where he put it and a guys idea of looking for something is a quick glance in the room and "honey, where's my......"

Constance - posted on 08/25/2011

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LMAO That is so true. Make my dinner. Wash my clothes. Have my babies and still wax for me because I love the touch of your smooth skin.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/25/2011

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No, he can't set his own alarm and wake up on his own. Didn't you read the fine print when you got married. You are suppossed to be wife and mommy to him.

Constance - posted on 08/25/2011

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My husband is going to drive me insane. He is sleeping right now which is fine. But he has decided he needs longer to sleep which is also fine. But damn can't he set the alarm on his phone so I can go to sleep for a little while. I am tired too. I swear he better let me sleep when he gets home.

Constance - posted on 08/25/2011

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Here something to laugh about. I have a ton of possiabl matches from EHarmony. I am so good I didn't even have to type in any information they just come running.

Constance - posted on 08/25/2011

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I know the feeling. Hubby should be getting back on the road soon.
Just remember to breath.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/25/2011

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I really need to get some sleep but I'm edgy right now. Gee I wonder why.

Constance - posted on 08/25/2011

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No I didn't stupid CoM didn't give me the alert I just finally checked myself.

Constance - posted on 08/24/2011

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I just read it and sent one back. Getting ready to read he second one.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/24/2011

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Going to send you a personnal message. It will take a couple of minutes.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/24/2011

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Good thing that I wasn't able to get on CoM. Shannin would have been unable to sleep if both of us were giving a play by play.

Constance - posted on 08/24/2011

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Elizabeth Are you sure you are okay? I'm worried about you. You seem like you are in areally bad place right now.

Constance - posted on 08/24/2011

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I think though the first weekend after it all happened I scared Shannin. I got super drunk trying to deal with him. Eveybody kinda got a play by pla of what was gong on.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/24/2011

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It certainly was. Hopefully one day I'll be able to look at it as more like labor. Brutal as hell, but bringing in a new life. I'm not to that point yet.

Constance - posted on 08/24/2011

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As weird as it my sound him doing this actually brought us back to each other. We lost each other for so long. He truelly thought I didn't love him anymore. I wasn't giving him what he needed and he wasn't giving me what I needed. He got a little bit of attention from someone and he had a momment of stupidity. I found the actual text messages and read them to him so he knew I Knew what was really said between them. She started the whole thing and had been trying for over a month. He just got stupid for a couple of days. It made him realize how much he loved me and how much I love him. We are acting like we did when we got together.

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