Stupid things people say to single mothers

Katherine - posted on 01/16/2012 ( 16 moms have responded )

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In reference to our children:



“Is his father in the picture?” Ugh. That’s so rude. Why would you ask that question like he isn’t? And even more importantly, why would you feel comfortable enough to pose that, like you’re inquiring about where I got my sweater or who did my hair? Rude party of one.



“Maybe she’s acting out because… you know… dad’s not around.” Maybe she is. So what’s your excuse?



“Who’s his daddy?” Wow. Well, since we’re tossing social etiquette to the wind: how much do you weigh? What did you bring home on your taxes last year? Make you feel uncomfortable? OK, that’s how we feel too.



All up in our love lives:



“No man is going to want you with all of those kids.” Mmm hmm. Mmm hmm. Thanks for making that point. And what, praytell, would you suggest I do with these kids now that I have them? Trade them in for the man? Or give up on the man and just resign myself to a life of singleness? Bigger than that, that’s just a really mean thing to say. Sheesh.



“I’ll pray for a family for you and your daughter.” Before you get into that, you might need to go on ahead and pray that my hand doesn’t accidentally land across the back of your head. Contrary to what you might think, my daughter and I together are a family. Yep, just us. Adding a man does not make us better. We’re doing just fine by ourselves.



“You’ve got all them kids and now you want to be celibate?” Blank stare. No comment.



About our lives in general:



“I don’t know how you do it!” I don’t either. But it gets done, so let’s not overanalyze the logisitics. I’m walking on water here and I’m trying not to look down.



“Where’s [insert name of child]?” You know, I actually stopped being pregnant 13 years ago. That was the last time we were physiologically tied together. Sometimes she does gnaw loose from that coffle that apparently keeps up attached at the ankles.



“You look tired.” That’s because I am. But thank you for your transparency and honesty. Care to watch over my household while I take a nap?



OK single mamas, what do people say to you that just grates your last nerve?

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Carol - posted on 02/09/2014

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Actually, I have a very hard time with all these single mothers complaining. That's what you get for not keeping your legs closed. There are NO excuses; you are simply reaping what you sowed. End of discussion.

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Charu - posted on 10/31/2012

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my best friend is a single mom and i can definitely say that she is a way better mom than i am..i respect her and look up to her.she has taught me so many thing all i would say is she is wonderful mom and best friend..

Jurnee - posted on 08/29/2012

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I hate when people feel sorry for you and assume that its all aloneness and drudgery. I liked being a single mom,and in a way, by getting divorce I did choose to be a single mom, and I loved it. I sometimes felt bad for my married friends who may have had more money, but had to clear everything with their husbands, but I never said. "I give you credit for putting up with the ass, it must be hard". Im living with someone now, so technically not single anymore, but I miss being single sometims.

Kelly - posted on 08/29/2012

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i have had the how do you do it question with which i responded with its not easy but we manage before i could finish the sentence he was quick to respond with well i guess you chose this life hmmmmmm let me see yes i chose to have kids knowing full well in advance that my relationship would breakdown and my kids would be lucky enough to see their dad every three years yes i chose to do this alone (WANKER)

Katherine - posted on 01/29/2012

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That is epic Jennifer! I would have said yeah and pay all these tickets too.

Jennifer - posted on 01/29/2012

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I had a cop pull me over when I was single cause my automatic seat belt didn't work. You couldn't tell from the front or back, only from the side, so I guess he thought he was some damn genius for seeing it, and started pulling me over every time he saw me. It was $850 to fix the seat belt, but the $20 tickets were adding up quick. Finally, I blew a fuse. I was driving home from work and hadn't picked up my kids yet. I let out a stream that would make a sailor blush. I pointed out that four local places had been robbed, why the hell wasn't he looking for them? He said something about getting it fixed, I pulled out the estimates for it, my budget, my check stub, and pointed out that I also now had $200 in fines. "how the fuck do you think I can ASSHOLE???" He looks at me, in all seriousness, dead calm, and says, "why not buy a new car then?"!!!!And that, ladies would have ranked him the dumbest idiot on the planet, but wait, there's more- as he handed me the ticket a few mintes later, he says, "I didn't know you were single, would you like to go out Sat night?"



Everything else anyone ever said to me paled in comparsion!

Emma - posted on 01/28/2012

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Im not a signal mom, but i am guilty of asking the how do you do it question.

As i Struggle to get through the day and i have my partners help.

Im asking as i want organisational tips lol

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/18/2012

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Good one, or...



"What if I don't want one?"

Shaz - posted on 01/18/2012

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pmsl! bahhahahaha shawnn i will have to remeber that one...



I have thought about telling them "why on earth would i wanna do that? I'm having to much fun on my own and besides if i need a man for something i'll just pay one!"

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/18/2012

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Shaz, have you ever felt to urge to reply



" I KNOW I'll find a good partner, but I'm concerned about YOUR prospects" ???

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/18/2012

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All I have to say is this: I know darn good and well that it's tough to be a single. I'm not, for which I am eternally thankful, but that doesn't always work for everyone.



To all of the single mommas out there, you have my utmost respect! I only had to be a "single" parent when my hubby was working out of town (Before we moved to his new job). I was at my wits end, or so I thought...and that was only for 3 months. (Ok, so I was a wimp, I know it!)



While I know I would survive as a single, and do it well, because after all, I am a woman...LOL...I sit in awe daily of singles who are not only raising their kids, but finishing school, or holding a demanding position, or serving our country...etc...I am reminded of how petty some things really are, and how thankful we should be daily for our situations.



Single moms, you are awesome.



Sorry for the off topic, but I get irritated at people who assume, simply by seeing a woman with children, that they are single!

Shaz - posted on 01/17/2012

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its such a shame.... I'm sure one day you will meet a nice guy who's willing to take your kids on...

(wanker)

Amanda - posted on 01/16/2012

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He was lucky I was as sick as I was coz he would have been the one needing a doctor after my fist had connected with his face.

I think he honestly thought he was being funny. Needless to say I haven't been back to him since

Amanda - posted on 01/16/2012

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I'm not a single mum, my hubby does shift work and works alot of weekends so he's not around much.

Anyway one day the xmas befre last I was really really sick, had tonsilitus really badly so I dragged myself and the kids to sit in the doctors at 7am on a Sunday for an emergency appointment (hubby was at work and I had no one to look after the kids) The doctor looked me up and down and immediatley said you're a single mum right?? Not that it was any of his business. I just glared at him and his response was only a single mum with no help would drag their kids to the doctors at this time on a Sunday morning. I told him only a very sick mum married to a shift worker would drag her kids to the doctors this time on a Sunday, then pointed out to him that he was at work on a Sunday.

Katherine - posted on 01/16/2012

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“You’ve got all them kids and now you want to be celibate?” Blank stare. No comment. LOL!!!

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