True Close Friends.

Shannintipton - posted on 07/28/2011 ( 24 moms have responded )

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Something happened to someone I know. And it got me to thinking. Do you have a close friend that you could talk to about anything, call anytime of day or night. There for you for anything. Would you be there for them too. Just wondering.

I don't. And it made me kind of sad. But I do have my sister in law. But she is more like family. Closer than my family. She is great. I hope everybody has someone.

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I have three true close friends that I can trust and really confide in and tell them anyhting. My best friend since kindergarten, my sister in law, and my older sister.

Carolee - posted on 07/28/2011

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I have 3 people that I can call for different things. One of my cousins is always there if I'm having problems with the kids and I need to know what to do. She's in another state, so it's not "hands-on" helping, just advice. I can call my sister for almost anything, especially relationship issues. She's gotten me out of some very bad situations. I call my friend (who I kinda "took" from my husband) that lives down the road for anything and everything. She is the one person other than Jason that I can tell every tiny detail about my life to and be okay that that person has that information about me. (My family doesn't know much about what's gone on in my life.)

I kind of like having 3 different people for different issues. I can be very needy at times, and I don't like feeling like people are getting "burnt out" on talking to me.

Amanda - posted on 07/28/2011

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Definatley my sister in law, aalthough she's family she's a pretty good friend too.

In the UK where I am originally from I have 3 or 4 very close friends that I can call on and are ther no matter what, I still call on them now and I live in Australia.

There are a few people where I live now that I would like to think I can call on if I needed them, and can talk to about anything.

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Shannintipton - posted on 08/02/2011

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Well look at you. Married with twins. Way to go. Decided to get it all done in one shot. ha ha. Or is the going to be more to the story. (meaning kids ha ha) Just kidding. None of my business. ha ha

Shannintipton - posted on 08/01/2011

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Yeah right like you had anything to do with their problems. To me that is not a good enough reason. It is to bad that you lost a friend. True friends are hard to come by. I hope things have improved for you since you left your ex husband. If anything ever happens between hubby and myself. I am NEVER getting married again. To much of a pain in the ass. I bet it is nice having your freedom. :)

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Shannin the only thing i can think of is that they were having marital problems at the time and looked at me as if I was the plague

Shannintipton - posted on 08/01/2011

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Heather, that was brutal. And you don't have idea other than you left your abusive ex husband. That doesn't seem quite right to be. But it sounds like you are better off with out them. Sorry to hear that. :(

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Nope! I had a friend like that. She stopped talking to me when I left my abusive alcoholic ex husband 3 years ago. When I had first moved out of the house I shared with my ex she and I made plans to get together. Well I ended up running late, called her to let her know I was on my way but only if it was ok with her, and she yelled at me telling me I was fucking up her schedule. I was so hurt. All she had to do was nicely tell me that the later time would be no good and plan on a new time, instead she chose to get nasty with me. I didn't speak with her for a few months after. I finally figured enough is enough and I called her. We had a pretty good talk and all seemed good.

I would call once a week to every other week and leave a message on her answering machine only to get no response.
I called her when I bought my own place and yet again left a message on the machine. No response. I called not too far after that and got her husband on the phone. Had a great conversation with him. It was brief but he seemed happy to hear from me and let me know that the start of '09 they were going to be stationed in Japan for 3 years. I told him to tell my friend to call me back when she had the chance and that I would like to see them before they go. Again I try calling about a week or so after I spoke to her husband and left a message. I figured they were busy so I waited another couple/few weeks befor I called again. This time I get through and speak to her husband. He is a complete dick to me, totally out of character. I asked him to have her call me and asked if she had gotten the message I had left with my new address and phone number. All he said was"I'm sure she did". said he had to go put he kids to bed and that was the last time I had spoken to either of them. I tried to call one last time after that to give her a piece of my mind for not returning my calls and for her husband being a dick on the phone but , you guessed it, machine. I said to myself fuck it. Who needs people like that.

After sulking for about a month I figured I'd try one last time and all of their phones were disconnected. They were gone. Left for Japan.

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I do. I have 3 extremely close girl-friends who I can talk to about anything, anytime. I just met a new friend a few months ago through 2 of my other close friends and we are quickly growing very close. I also have a very close guy friend, who is kind of like a father. I go to him when I just do not understand where my husband is coming from.

I have other friends too, but those 5 are the ones I know I can call about anything, and we can go months without talking and pick up right where we left off. I don't know what I would do without them because I do not have any close family....well, they are physically close by, but we just aren't the talk-about-it type family.

Merry - posted on 08/01/2011

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Yes, my sister. We talk almost daily, sometimes more! We talk about almost everything and she would do anything for me.
Also I have one friend. We don't talk on the phone but we text. We text alot :) we both parent the same and talk about our kids alot. We texted through our recent labors and coached each other through the hard times. We Facebook and text and I'm driving to seeker this month! Can't wait! She just texted me right now! Lol I'm going to go read it :)

Gina - posted on 07/29/2011

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I have my three sisters and my darling mum,I'm lucky we are all close. I don't have any friends,I've never been able to keep friends, I'm too crazy for people!

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 07/28/2011

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My best friend is my boyfriend. Which is why he's my boyfriend. He has to deal with all of me haha so he better like it! :D



I've had best friends on and off. We've moved though, and it's harder to keep touch when they aren't quite in your life anymore. Usually make 1 great best friend every so often. True friends are rare - or well, the ability to really find someone you connect to that well is rare I believe.



For now, it's my parents and boyfriend. Too much else going on to keep up with anything. Sucks. Joined a local mommy group and had to quit. They were nice, hoping to join again in a few months.

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Carolee... I am WAY too needy. Which would be one of the reasons I avoid calling my friends. I'm not sure how much of hearing the same crap over and over again they can take.... and I don't want to find out. ;)

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Yep. I have 2-3 that I could call at anytime day/night and if they couldn't help me.... they'd be more than willing to find someone who could (assuming it's a situation I CAN'T handle myself, of course) help. And of course, I can call them just to vent.

The question is whether or not I WOULD/DO call them.... ;) I certainly have, but I tend to avoid making phone calls at all costs.

Jayce - posted on 07/28/2011

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My best friend since grade 8. We've been there for each other through a lot of rough spots.

Constance - posted on 07/28/2011

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And I have my sponser. He is readily available 24/7 so it gves me an outlet when I really need it.

Constance - posted on 07/28/2011

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I have a couple my sister is my closest friend. I can call her anytime it doesn't matter when it is. Her roommate as well has become a very close friend. If my sister isn't availible he will let me talk as long as I need. I have another friend who has been my best friend for almost 20 yrs.He has always been there when I needed him. I don't call him in the middle of the night as much s I use to because he has a fiance. She knows we are best friends and she knows we have never been more than that,so if I do call n the middle of the night it is impotant and I need him. She is ok with it and I sat down with her whn he wasn't around so we could get to know each other. He is one of the most important people in my life but I was not willing to destroy his relationship. If she wasn't ok with it then I would't call.

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I still have my 3 best friends from high school who I can call any time. My sister and I have also been getting closer these last few years and it's been really nice :) I also have a really good group of women on here that I go to for advice/support/everything and I am forever grateful for them.

My biggest problem is that I don't have anyone where I live. My 3 best friends are scattered (1 lives in our hometown, 1 moved about an hour away from our hometown, 1 moved to Florida with her husband who's in the Navy and I moved 2 1/2 hours away from our hometown), my sister lives near our hometown and my friends on here live all over the place (one in Australia, one in Canada and two here in the states). Sometimes it's hard not having anyone close by, but I am grateful for the supportive friends I do have :)

Brie - posted on 07/28/2011

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I have a few aquaintances but no actual friends but one...
I have one best friend and she is freakin amazing! i love her to death... we have been best friends for a little over 14 years now... we both know the other will be there for anything!! so glad and lucky to have her!!

Tamara - posted on 07/28/2011

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Nope not really, I can talk to DH but not about all things so its just me :D

Shannintipton - posted on 07/28/2011

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I don't have many friends either. Sometime it is sad, but most of the time I am okay with it. That is sad in itself. ha ha

Amanda - posted on 07/28/2011

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Pretty much just my man! I know I don't have a lot of friends. It does frustrate me at times and makes me wonder what is wrong with me. My husband says it's not me, but I can't figure out any other common denominator!

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