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Katherine - posted on 03/19/2012 ( 23 moms have responded )

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I don't know when it started, but every time I look at a calendar, I'm reminded that there's a cause somewhere that needs my attention. October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month. April is National STD Awareness Month. May is Masturbation May. This month? Raise your glass, minus the "g" and the "l", cause it's bottoms up.



My friend and fellow sex educator Ducky DooLittle calls it "the equal opportunity orifice." And by it, I'm talking about the bum, and the hole we all have, whether we're gay, straight, or saving it 'til marriage -- okay, that's a really bad excuse. August is anal sex month.



And yes, August is almost over, but don't tighten up you butt cheeks just yet. If you're feeling adventurous, anal pleasure can drive you wild. Everyone should try it at least once. Here are a few tips on how to celebrate, pleasurably, before the month is out.



Anal sex hurts because you're just not ready, and other times it hurts because you're just not into it. Either way, rule one: Assk first.



After you've asked, or been asked, before you plunge on in, remember the butt has lots of really sensitive nerve endings, both in and around the entrance, so don't head to that hole straight away. We all need to get warmed up first.



Now, in order to get warmed up, you want, and need, lube. The butt is not like the vagina, it doesn't get wet on its own. Lube is essential and you want to find a sexual lubricant that won't dry out to quickly. Silicone lubes are a good bet for butt play.



A happy bum is a relaxed bum, so have your partner start by teasing around your opening, using the pad of his thumb or any other finger. He should gently circle around the entrance to the area. Only after the butt relaxes can you go deeper with comfort and ease. Honestly, we all walk around with tight butt holes. It you think about your bum, and try to relax it, you can, but otherwise, if you do nothing, you'll notice your butt is tight. Try relaxing your bum, anytime of the day or night, even if that's all you do for anal sex August. Heck, awareness is the first step.



Another thing to know is NOTHING goes up the bum if it's not attached to a body part or if it doesn't have a flared base. A flared base means the object is smaller in the middle and larger at the bottom, so it can't accidentally slip up inside of you. Light bulbs and flashlights (yes, this really happens) are perfect examples of what not to use, while a butt plug is a perfect example of what to use.



And if you're not ready, but he is, anal stimulation does not make a man gay. In fact, massaging the prostate (which you gain VIP access to through the butt) is one of the best ways to keep the prostate healthy. So, if you're not ready to go there, and he is, go there ... on him.



What scares you most about anal sex? Have you had it?

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Jenni - posted on 03/20/2012

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Yes, the poop is suppose to come out. It feels like my anus is just trying to reject the penis.

Liz - posted on 03/20/2012

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If it hurts, then either your partner hasn't applied enough lubricant, isn't going slowly enough or you're not relaxing your muscles enough. You also need to be well aroused prior to starting, or at least that is how it works for me. If my husband goes at it like a bull at a gate, then he's likely to get yelled at!

Liz - posted on 03/19/2012

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Often with my husband; we both like it as a balanced part of our lovemaking.

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User - posted on 03/21/2012

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So I read this that some people say hey I like it. My answer is still no and my man does not have a big dick. It is average and still no. Last time he asked, I told him I would just give him a blow job instead. You ladies are braver than me. I could not imagine his little finger up there let alone his Willy.

Jenni - posted on 03/21/2012

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It takes awhile to warm up to it in the vag, that monstrousity isn't going anywhere near my pooper. Good thing for me; he could take anal or leave it.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/21/2012

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No kidding. But man if I am in the right mood, there is nothing better.

Jenni - posted on 03/21/2012

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Little Miss, that is the exact reason why I told my hubby I'd never try anal sex with him. I don't even push out shits that big.

Sally - posted on 03/21/2012

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Little miss, mines got average size and i love it but if he wants to keep it theres no way his going near there. I used to like it once in a blue moon but you would be calling him joanna insread of jason if he tried and no oh it slipped or i thought it was in the right place is going work. After 3 kids its hard to miss. Lol

Sally - posted on 03/21/2012

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@ Haemorrhoids city. Its what there better know of here. I won't go in to the symptoms etc. Just no way is any man going waggle his dangley bit around there unless he wants me doing a bobby on him.lol

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/21/2012

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Yes I have but my husband has a big dick so it is not to often. I have to be wicked in the mood for it. It is really enjoyable once it starts...just getting to that point. I can count how many times it has happened. If his dick was smaller, maybe it would happen more often....but I like his dick and would not wish it to be smaller just so he could fuck me up the ass.

Sally - posted on 03/21/2012

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I have done but it stopped 23 years ago when i developed piles carrying my 2nd child. Not a chance . Id chop it of 1st. Lol

Katherine - posted on 03/20/2012

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Me too. I feel like I have to poop also. It's like do you really want me to POOP on you?

Katherine - posted on 03/20/2012

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Ha ha Jenni, it does hurt like hell. Not too fun. I've only done it a few times and screamed in pain.

Casey - posted on 03/20/2012

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There is a hole there for that purpose, why put it in the other one? All I think about is poo covered penises. Now I'm giggling. Great I look hysterical laughing at the computer. hahahahahaha

Stifler's - posted on 03/20/2012

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The pain. The fact that I want it in the front and not the back and don't get it nearly enough so why wuld I want it in my butt.

Jenni - posted on 03/19/2012

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I'm not a prude or anything but it freakin' hurts and just makes you feel like you've got to take a poop. And no I'm not interested in stretching out my anus to make it fit either.

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