What's your opinion?

Kelly - posted on 04/20/2012

J's school doesn't punish at school until you get to the second offence. First offence, they have to flip their stick from green to Yellow. Second and Third offences include loosing time from recess, a note home, and possibly a trip to the principal's office for a talk.

J has never gone past yellow, but I do discipline him at home depending on the offence. If he's been mean to someone, he makes them a card and writes an apology inside. If he was just hyper--jumping around, talking too much, etc.--he looses his video games so that he can expend his energy outside where it belongs, and he gets a low sugar, low carb breakfast the next morning (which he actually enjoys, but it does help his behavior). Thus far, those are the only issues we've ever had to deal with. Not sure what we'll do when it gets more serious yet.

Louise - posted on 04/20/2012

I think if the punishment has been given out at the school then thats the end of it. However I think it is important to discuss why it happend in the first place, and how your child feels now about what took place at school.

Talking things through at home in a relaxed atmosphere sometimes help a child put things into perspective.

S. - posted on 04/20/2012

I often think I bring home a different child from school sometime's lol. I have found by them just thinking if they play up at school they get punished at home they tend to be good at school.
My nephew on the other hand get's grounded for being in trouble at school and it dose no good on him he's always bad and disrespectful to his teachers, so just goes to show what works for one and all that.

Katherine - posted on 04/19/2012

I got double punished and grounded. I'm not sure what I'm going to do with my girls. My 1st grader does awesome in school but at home has complete melt downs.

S. - posted on 04/19/2012

My rule is if my oldest gets a detention at school she get's grounded at home she has only ever had one detention and it was for something I didn't feel was really her fault so I let it go and never punished her. She's really good so I don't have much problem with her thank goodness but I feel it's important to back the school. It all depend's on what she's done wrong.I tell my middle daughter if she's bad at nursery she will be in trouble at home but in all honestly it would depend on what she's done wrong like denikka said, again thou she seem's to be really good at nursery and only had good comment from the teachers.
My parents let me get away with disrespecting teachers and I was never aloud to do detention, teachers had no control over me and my education suffered.

Denikka - posted on 04/19/2012

As you said, depends on the crime. If it's something like not doing their homework, then no. They MIGHT get punished for lying to me if they had told me that they had done their homework. And that would depend on whether or not it had been an ongoing problem. Happens once or twice, whatever. But if this is the 15th time in the past 4 weeks...then yes, I would punish for that.

Something more serious (something that they got suspended for, just as an example. Something like drugs or a serious fight, etc) I would absolutely punish them for it.

If it's something small (Johnny pushed Sally, Billy took a toy away from Suzy), then absolutely not. I may have a small chat with the child to make sure they understood that what they did was not nice, but I wouldn't take privileges away or anything like that.