Sarah - posted on 05/04/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
I have been with my fiancé since his kids were very young. His daughter wasn't quite 2 yet an his son was 4. I am a huge part of their lives. I know them as well as I know my own child. So when something is "not normal", I notice.
Anyway, my step daughter did a great job with the curriculum in preschool. When she went to kindergarten things seemed well for her. She enjoyed it and made a lot of friends....she was a typical kindergartner. As the year has progressed and we near the end of the school year, her academics aren't where they should be. She has become very stubborn in that she thinks she can decide when she's done with an assignment or not. Her teacher was assessing her and L (my step daughter) was asked to count to 100. Problem is he stopped at 56 and remained silent....she silently refused to count any further! Now, we KNOW she CAN do it bc she has WRITTEN to 100 at home with us before! The same problems have arose with her sight words. Words she has successfully read before are suddenly words she "cant" read. She stares at the word for minutes and says nothing. As a result of her teachers assessment, they have recommended summer school for her!!!! Her stubbornness and refusal to cooperate has landed her in summer school! I'm so disappointed bc she is very smart...she just won't apply herself at school. She plays "dumb"---for lack of a better word.
What can we do to enforce how important school and learning is???
We have tried talking to her, rewarding her when she does great on her completed work, studying with her so that she's excited when she gets answers right and we give her encouragement.