Khadija - posted on 06/21/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )
My husband and I have 1son and he has 4 sons and 2-step-kids from his previous relationships. Two of his sons teenagers are supposed to live with shortly but my husband told me 2yrs ago that he promised his sons that they will never have or never call another woman step-mom. He likes them to refer to me as dad's wife. His stepdaughter refers to me as my dad's girlfriend and when I corrected her my husband scolded in private stating that he didn't tell them that we were married and if he told them it's not that important for the kids.
My husband (salim)also told me that I can ask the boys to do anything and everything when they live with us because i'm their stepmom. Salim ex-wife still calls my husband for money for her personal use even though my husband takes care of his sons plus the two step-kids teenagers also.
When i asked him why he still giving her money he says that, that's his friend and the mother of his kids. I get angry because the money he is giving her I could be using for legal services to legitimize my status here in the U.S.A. To make things even worse he once told our son that he can call his ex wife aunty sandra. Pissed off!!!
I feel like i'm a third leg in this relationship and angrier even more because the relationship he has with his step-kids is more money oriented than anything. when ever they call it's because they need money just like their mom. The only reason i'm in the states is because I want our son to have access to both his dad and I and now i'm stuck can't work until my papers get processed.
Hate this marriage, I love Salim but he just doesn't see me, he is 48 and i'm 35 and since we've been together we've been through so much together like being homeless twice in the 4yrs of our relationship. But not homeless on the street, we lived with his family, my family is in Canada.
I can't wait to go back to work and stop depending on him or better yet love him from afar. Is anyone out there in a similar place like myself?