Jennifer - posted on 09/15/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
My stepson came to live with us last summer, just a few months after my husband and I got married. The thing is with this SS, he has lived down here before we got married, for a year, and it was very stressful; especially on my husband. I had no say so into his decision, which frustrated me, but went with the flow. I know my husband was doing in the best interest of his son; he was failing easy classes and skipping lots of days when living with his mom. He is 17, disrespectful, a compulsive liar, selfish, takes advatange of his mom & dad, and the list can go on. He was supposed to go back this summer, but failed and his dad so no go until he shown he could do better.
Now he was supposed to go back this coming summer, and I just got hit with a bombshell he might not leave - over a 14 yr old girl. This may or may not happen, don't know. Again, was not told or have any say so (or so it feels). I've had my hopes on trying for a baby (praying for a girl) and deal with my 2 kids who live with us also. They aren't a handful since we've taught them better, but ss's mom just never did teach them nothing. Feels like my plans are gone, cause my ss has no ambition to go to college or even get a job now; hard telling how long he will suck off us.
Sorry for my long rant; I need to get this off my chest before talking to the hubby; who is very hard to talk to as it is. My question is; how do I deal with this and talk about it personally with the hubby? This kid has been stressful since he has been here and I know when he turns 18 in Feb it just may get worse and I fear that our relationship will just continue to decline and I don't want that.