Kerri - posted on 02/17/2009
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I have what I consider a large family. I have a 15-year-old son, 14- year-old step-son, 12-year-old step-son and an 11-year-old daughter, with me and my husband that makes 6 people under one roof. Things are actually fairly tame on most days. We are very structured and our children are generally very-well behaved (with the occasional sibling spat). They have to EARN privileges. They also get rewarded for exceptional behavior and punished for poor behavior (which is actually quite rare). The one problem behavior that my husband (her stepdad) and I seem to be constantly dealing with is her MOUTH. She is a straight-A, gifted student, no problems at school, involved in activities, etc. but she has a back-talking mouth that makes me want to curse. For example - Me: Kelli, please go fix your hair and brush your teeth so we will not be tardy to school. Kelli: God, mom okay, I AM going. Geez can I get a few freaking minutes to finish what I am doing? OR: Me: Kelli, your computer time is up, please turn it off and find a book to read. Kelli: Are you kidding me? Thirty minutes is not enough time on the computer. I am so sick of only thirty minutes. No other child in the WORLD is limited to thirty minutes on the computer.
Whew stresses me out just typing it.... Her constant problem areas are using these phrases as responses to me: God, Okay, Give me a minute, I will when I get done, can you not see I am doing something here?
She does not have a cell-phone, is only allowed to watch 30 minutes of TV a day, and only has 30 minutes of computer time every-other-day. She has daily chores that she does already. Spanking is not an option. I have tried every punishment imaginable to me and nothing seems to stop this.
Any advice on how I can get control of her mouth and her popping off to me?