Michelle - posted on 04/28/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
Help! I am a stepmother to 3 children now aged, 20, 15 and 11. I've been with their father for 10 years, and we see them everyother weekend. They live with their mother and stepdad, with their 6 year old daughter. However recently when they the latter 2 come to see us for the weekend, I really can't stand to be around them. My whole body tenses up and I become very irratiable with them, especially the 11 year old, this affects my whole demeanour with all around me. I feel sometimes like I'm going mad, I'm woman of faith and I know having these feelings are wrong, I do pray to the Lord to change my atittude. I want to say to my husband how I really feel about his children, but I know he will be really upset. I do love them but at the moment I find them really irritating, especially the 11 year old girl. She doesn't like to do any housework when we ask her, it is her mothers fault, who i'm really have bad feelings about. I really do pray that the Lord changes my heart, but i do not feel happy when they are around. I forgot to mention I have a 2 year old daughter also, and I do feel having her has made my relationship change towards them, is that normal, right? I feel like I'm losing my mind and I don't want to feel the way I'm feeling. Any construtive advice is most welcome. Thank you.