Nichole - posted on 01/01/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )
My kids are 19, 10,8, and 3. My Nineteen year-old is my step-son, and moved in with us last summer. Since moving in, he has not done any household chores, AT ALL, including keeping his room clean. We have a small house with 3 bedrooms. For him to have his own room his other brother and sisters have to share the other larger room. He is working and going to school, and we haven't asked him to pay anything to live here except his internet because he insisted he had to have high speed.
I am so afraid of being the "wicked stepmom" that I am paralyzed to do anything, but I'm increasingly frustrated. I have talked to his Dad about making him do chores, Dad tells him to clean his room, he makes a rudimentary trash sweep and says he's done, but Dad never follows up. I've been on them both about it for six months.
What's worse is that the other kids are starting to view their household chores as a punishment because their older brother doesn't have any. His claim is that he is too busy with school and work to do chores, including his laundry, which he dumps on me to do at the end of every month. If I don't do it it sits and stinks up my dining room/laundry area. I am on the verge of losing it on Dad and son. Any suggestions that don't include a crowbar and duct tape??