Christine - posted on 01/01/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )
We are a blended family, his: a boy 7, girl 11, mine: boy, 13, girl 11, boy 7 and a 2 year old girl together. Our own little Brady Bunch. 6 TOTAL. I have great difficulty with both step-children as they have acquired their mothers rude and ignorant behaviors to a point that they say absolutely nothing to me not even acknowledgment of presence and have learned to do the same to their step-siblings. Which has left my children perplexed. This family unit has been together for approximately 5 years and throughout these 5 years we have tirelessly attempted to be a family. However, our hopes are always dashed after the ex-wife catches wind that the children are getting along or that the children find that I am nice. She has even gone to the extent of trying to interfere with my marriage by contacting me to say my husband has begged her to move into her basement. She is unable to drop-off/pick-up the children off without a grand entrance and at least a 20 minute stay at my in-laws home and refuses to comply with visitation (time frames)
as ordered, as she excessively over-schedules. It is obvious to everyone she has no intention of letting my husband go (despite his remarriage to me) and for whatever reason she is threatened by me. As a result the children have learned through her to ignore me as if I was an inanimate object as well as their step-siblings which they withdraw from immediately, after their mother has wind that things are well. I don't have this trouble with my ex or my children, and I feel that over time the situation will become hostile as I have kept my mouth shut despite her comments and attempts to make scenes at the childrens sports events. Though she probably feels she has won at her game. I have since decided it best that she is unstable as are the children and in effort to protect my children there is now little to no contact between the two sets of children. I cannot expect my children to be insulted and hurt any longer and I will not permit it. The kids have also asked that they have no further involvement with his children because of this same disappointment. I keep scarce and have no involvement with visitation but I have grown quite tired of his ex over stepping her bounds. PLEASE HELP!