Stefani - posted on 06/08/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )
I started dating my boyfriend 5 years ago. When we first got together we introduced our kids to each other right off the bat. His daughter was 6 at the time and my son was 3. My son's father left the picture when he was 2 years old. My boyfriends daughter has her mother in her life but i was told when we first met she wasn't around much and he had her pretty much full time. So I welcomed the little girl into me and my son's life with open arms. My son was so happy to have around. At the time we had her 5 days out of the week and I started to notice how spoiled she was. She didnt have to eat if she didnt want to. She got candy whenever she wanted. Stayed up till whatever time she wanted. She would tattle on my son for things she would set him up to do most of the time. He would never discipline her even when she would lie he would believe her. So her stay went from 5 days a week in my home to 3 days eventually turning into just the weekends. When the daughter would come over on the weekends she wanted her dad all to herself. She would always say rude things to me. Tell me how she likes her moms clothes much better then mine. She never wanted to play with my son. She would come over with two cupcakes for her and her dad. She would be rude to my mother and everybody else in my family. She would make up lies about my son all the time, and it didnt matter bc my boyfriend would believe her and scream at me in front of her. Anytime she was in the wrong for doing something Id tell her to never do it again and my bf would defend her and flip out on me. For instance she was jumping on my couch after i just yelled at my son for doing it and her dad stepped in and saved her. So she learned from a very early age how to treat me. From 7 to 9 she spent alot more time with her mom bc my bf and i were fighting about her alot and i kinda didnt want her around much anymore. Me my boyfriend and my son would be fine all week until she would come on the weekends and then all hell would break lose. His daughter would come over and tell me things taht she wasnt "supposed" to tell me about her dad almost as if i would get upset and leave him and she would win. She is always in competition with my son to get her dads attention when her dad loves her more then anything and were all aware of it my kid could care less about who my bf loves he knows that isnt his dad. This girl is so spoiled always asking for things behind my back trying to make him feel guilty bc my son has nice stuff. I tried to make her realize that when shes here with us we will get her things but when shes with her mom, her mom can buy those things. She'll still ask her dad behind my back. Anything new me or my son gets she comes over and asks her dad for say a phone case cus i got a new one. I cant stand her. I dont know what to do. The kid is getting older she is 11 yrs old now and she still doesnt like me. She always tries to put me down and tell me how she doesnt like what im wearing or my makeup or what im listning to on the radio. Funny thing i found out she likes the rapper Drake who I love so i made her some cds and i played them in the car and she just doesnt care. Im trying to get on this kids level and im afraid its too late. Alls ive ever try to do was blend a family together for all of us to feel loved. And she refuses it and just wants her dad. Her dad is finally after all these years bonding more with my son and sticking up for him and putting his daughter in her place and it still doesnt make a difference.. Her Mom doesnt correct her for anything she does and i know this has alot to do with her behavior. Its so ahhhhhh frusterating. Any advice??????