Sophia - posted on 05/21/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
My family is a blended family. My husband has a daughter (3) from his first marriage, and I have a son (5) from my first marriage. Our family has successfully gelled and our kids are best friends. The biggest challenge that we have in our family is seeing our ex-spouses influence and personality traits exhibited in our biological children. As a result, I am a much more patient and caring parent to my bonus-daughter than I tend to be to my son, and vice-versa. Both of our children are with us 5 days a week and with our exes during weekends. Somehow, the other parents' negativity and helpless attitude resonates deeper with our children then our positive, problem solving and empowering environment. What do you do when your child presses all the same buttons of agitation that your ex did/does? How do you stay conscious of the fact that your child is a unique individual and not a replica of your ex? How do you look for the things that are like YOU or your current partner and not look for the ways your child is like your ex?