How does the blended family really work?
Ana - posted on 04/22/2014
It all depends on how you would accept it. I left my fiancé (ex) last night because he has been impossible with my 3 yo soon. At the beginning he was so fake and would get down to the floor and play with him and talk about "parenting" everything started to change when he started to be jealous of my son and saying I was babying him to much and saying that he was second in my list that my son was at the top and he was so hypocritical because he has other kids from his previous marriage and everything he used to tell me to to do with my kid he did even worse (like babying them) and if I said something about it I was just trying to give him "a hard time" or being awful and difficult. Anyways he was very immature and selfish. To make things worse I found out I was pregnant and he started saying he didn't want my son calling him daddy if he saw our baby calling him that. He said he would not treat them the same and our baby would be our baby. So therefore I left him and I'm getting an abortion tomorrow because I'm not dealing with this jerk for the rest of my life. no way! God forgive me for what I'm doing but I'm done making stupid decisions and having a kid with this man would be the worse mistake in my life (after being with him in the first place of course) He is not a good person like he used to tell me "I'm a good person, I'm a good person" I say good people don't go around saying that.
Brandi - posted on 01/19/2009
Absolutely it can work out and be very happy. I married a man with three children and we have 2 of our own. The ex is a constant part of our lives, which sometimes can be trying, but I've learned to better communicate with her so that I don't put so much pressure on my husband. The thing you need to do is understand eachother's parenting quirks and disciplines and make sure you agree on everything as far as the kids are concerned, or it will lead to some unhappy arguments. You just have to talk everything out and not get angry; it is so easy to do when you mix kids, but if you really want to make a relationship work, it takes work, with or without kiddos in the mix. There is NO doubt in my mind that a blended family works and it can be happy. I love my family and my step-kids are my kids just as much as my biological boys.
Vicki - posted on 01/18/2009
We have a total of 5, and found that routine, and time together away from life’s distraction work for us. Teens (4 teens, 1 young adult) are not happy when you remove their network, but they will get over it with patient and love. Removing their network, lets them find time together, and grow.
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