Donna - posted on 04/25/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
My problem is that my ex-husband and I have been divorced for 15 years and had remained friends, because of our children. We would share our kids special moments and holidays under the same roof and everyone got along just fine. He has always helped me with his share of the children’s expenses (i.e. medical bills, schooling and etc.) Our relationship over those years were better than when we were married and everyone was able to be together sharing happy times/occasions.
Now he remarried a woman 20 years younger than him, had a baby that is younger than his own grandson and his new wife forbids him to talk to me. My son just had surgery and I asked him to pay 1/2 of the medical bills and his response shocked me. He not only refused to help me pay, but he told me never to email him again, because his relationship is between him, his daughter and his son.
What I am angry about is that now all my children’s special moments will be ruin by the amount of hostility this woman has caused. My son is afraid that his own father will not come to his wedding because his new wife thinks that EX's should not get along or even talk. Yes, I am angry, but only because I am afraid what lies ahead for my kids and how this woman will make a happy occasion a miserable one. I am afraid that now all the family special moments will be ruined by her friction. My kids are mad because he is not allowed to talk to me anymore and the resentment has started. I tried to tell my ex that we can all be friends and even sent them baby gifts when his new daughter was born, but this girl (which she is) is sooo insecure that she will not even talk to me or make the situation even half way enjoyable.
I wish there was something I could say to my Ex’ new wife or something to send to her and my EX to show them that it is normal for the ex’s to be friends and to get along when there are children involved – even if the children are in their twenties.