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I have recently become a step-mom to a 16-1/2 year old that my husband signed away when he was a teenager and has now sought out his bio dad. My husband had never met this child or talked to the bio mom for all this time, since before the baby was actually born. The bio mom has admitted to still having feelings for my husband and is constantly emailing, IM'ing and trying to talk to him all day long, every day. She says things like how much she'll miss him when he logs off the computer. I'm feel like she doesn't respect our marriage and our family. I want to tell my husband to limit his conversations with her, that he's building a relationship with his almost adult son and not her. I understand that she is his mother and will always be part of this relationship in some way, but I think she is overstepping here bounds. Am I right to feel this way or am I just being paranoid. This step-mom think is very, very new to me. I don't even have any step families on either side of my family tree. How much contact should I expect between the bio mom and my husband in this situation? My husband says he does like to talk to her because it is an easy way for him to get background and information on his son, but I feel that he's just feeding her feelings that she still has for him.