Michelle - posted on 12/06/2008 ( 34 moms have responded )
We have seven kids and aren't planning to have any more. This was a very difficult decision for us, and while I am content with our plans, I would have also been happy to have more kids. I met a lady online once who had twenty-something kids (25, I think), most of whom were foster-to-adopt. That sounds awesome to me. I look at my youngest baby (4 months old) and I feel so lucky and blessed to have gotten to have so many newborns to love and nurse and care for.
On the other hand, ever since I started having kids (I took in my two step-children as toddlers when I was also pregnant with my first biological child) people have been telling me that I had enough kids and shouldn't have any more. When I announced my second pregnancy, my grandmother (who had four kids herself) told me that four kids would put me in an asylum and that she'd been praying I wouldn't get pregnant ever since we announced we were trying. I hate the attitude of the more kids you have the worse off you are, and the belief that everyone seems to have that no matter how many kids we have, even one more would be a tragedy. I always think that no matter how many we have, one more would be a blessing!
Whenever people ask me if we are done now, I hate to admit that we are. I don't want to sound like, "Oh, yes, I have seven and THAT'S ENOUGH FOR ME! We're finally done, THANK GOD!" Ugh. So I always make excuses like, "I'd like to have more, but it's a medical thing," (which is mostly true.)
Anybody else feel that way?