Is he crying out for attention?

Marcella - posted on 05/22/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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may 14 my fiancee's ex wife had her first weekend visits with the children that are in state's custody well while they were in her care the three year old burned the two year old with a hot lightbulb we do not know the whole story and of course we wont be told the story. The oldest tries to hurt the younger one when he is at his mothers or the foster home but when the children are with us they get along just fine. We are being ignored on this fact, with grown children of my own i feel there is something going on or the oldest is calling out for attentiona nd is not getting it so he is figuring negative attention is better than none the mother now post she dont know what to do am I wrong in saying that a little more attention paid to all the kids might help the situation we are seeking some counciling for the oldest. But the state wants to split the children so to me i feel they are punishing the children for the mother not watching them.

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Nicole - posted on 05/25/2010

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sadly she seems to need someone to blame..id ignore the comments because in the end shell look bad..

Marcella - posted on 05/25/2010

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I get along with my ex husband but his ex wife refuses to get along though me and him got together 7 months after they split I am accused of being the "other woman" or "taking him away" it is horrible for the children so I just keep my mouth shut for now.

Nicole - posted on 05/25/2010

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lolo your busy like us i have 7 children with my hubby and two with my ex and he has three with another woman..i get along with my stepkids mind you they are adults..and i get along with there mom.but i didnt have much luck with my exs wife...good luck to you..

Marcella - posted on 05/25/2010

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The state did make her and my fiancee take parenting and the thing is it seemed to help my fiancee but not her,she still does not know how to discipline or understand a child.Thank you together we have 5 children already 20y 19y 3y 22m and 8 mn but we want to have one more together

Nicole - posted on 05/25/2010

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i was just thinking why doesnt the state make her take parenting classes???it saddens me that people dont understand that children are a privilege not a right.I hope you and your new hubby have some nice babies..xooxo

Marcella - posted on 05/24/2010

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We are at our wits end we both have problems sleeping because we are so worried hopefully it is all over soon thanks xoxoxox

Marcella - posted on 05/24/2010

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Just pray for us to have strength and you know we have been dealing with this since we got together my fiancee told me everything why his children were taken showed me court papers and everything been on the up and up about it all, I hope she does say it is to much because i would love more than to take care of all those babies like they deserve to be taken care of. And i dont know how serious is serious to them all we get told is kids will be kids

Nicole - posted on 05/24/2010

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that is true the key question is how much is enough for it to be serious??maybe we can pray shell decide that parenting is too much for her and the kids will come to you guys i feel bad for you haveing to start new marriage off with all these probs..

Marcella - posted on 05/24/2010

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Your right we can only hope that she will but she is the kind that wants to get the children so she can hold on to my fiancee, we are going to do all we can to keep the children safe, my fiancee is very concerned about his sons and his daughter if the oldest is hurting the youngest boy what is going tohappen when they take the youngest out of the home place him with the mother, we are afraid the oldest will hurt himself severly next

Nicole - posted on 05/24/2010

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people wonder why so many "accidents happen"when kids are in state care..now the child may or may not be acting out due to some frustration about his life but someone other then his dad should be takeing notice before theres an accident..to too sad would it be bad for us to hope the mother decides to just give the kids too you??

Marcella - posted on 05/24/2010

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Thank you Nicole that is what we have been trying to get them to understand and we get told kids will be kids this is a little more than that I do believe

Nicole - posted on 05/23/2010

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i think the state needs to ask why he is acting like that and the younger child has a right to be safe..this is a weird situation with the state????

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