Stacy - posted on 01/23/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
My husband and I met in 2004 and my son was 7 and his daughter was 4. We married in 2005 and decided we would like to have an ours. So, in 2006 we had twin boys. So, at this point my son is 14, his daughter is 11 and our twin boys are 5. My husband and I get along great until it comes to my son and his daughter. In his eyes my son is out of control and his daughter does nothing wrong. Which he does not know because he works a lot and is not home much to really know. OK, now to add to the mix his parents live right next door to us (apartment above our garage) and his Mom does not know how to step out of the mother roll because she pretty much took care my step daughter before we got married. As it stands now, my step daughter stays with her grandparents during the week and stays with us on the weekends because she knows she can stay up as late as she wants. So, she has to do nothing....no chores. She sits on the computer... she is overweight and borderline diabetic and all that is said, "Oh, she is still growing she is fine." SO, I am one person trying to take care of a household of 6, well....5-1/2 .... I feel like it is not fair to put all of the chores onto my 14 year old son and she should do nothing at all. But..my husbands excuse is well..she is only 11... and my twins are 5 and still in the process of learning to keep toys picked up. Also, to add to the mix... My oldest son is ADHD and my youngest two are also believed to have ADHD... so my question is ...DOES ANYONE HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS TO THIS WHOLE MESS? If I do not figure something out I am going to lose my mind.