Kricket - posted on 09/18/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )
To say the least my step son and I have issue. He is very sweet and doesn't have a behavior issues to anyone but me. It has caused a few fights between my husband and I. I love my step son but he is allowed to get away with little things that after a while it drives me crazy and I become very hurt and the bad guy. Example of things he's allowed to get away with his lunch bag gets forgotten at school all the time and when I tell him write a reminder note or you will have to carry the lunch without a bag (he's 12) my husbands says things like will when you pick him up check to make sure he has the bag make him open his back pack and show you. I would never check my bio kids bags to see if they are being honest if they didn't bring it home and they told me they did they would get in grounded for not telling the truth.
My husband and I let this kind of thing become hurt feels between us because this is child and if say your kid is being treated like a prince and the rest of the kids get the shaft he gets hurt and then everyone has to deal with the out come of the adults now at odds over this stupid lunch bag (yes this happen last night) he's hurt because I say thing out of anger and I'm hurt because I feel he's not hearing my point. So what should I do? Just not say anything? I'm I being silly?