Julie - posted on 09/23/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
My ex is marrying a woman this coming sunday who he moved in with after only knowing 2.5 mo. they will be marrying a week or two? shy of their one year anniversary of meeting. She has been married, but no children - unable to. she has a niece she is VERY close to...she sees quite a bit. So... my ex feels bad and is pushing my daughter on her...letting her act as 'mommy'. I KNOW him....20yrs together, I know him. he is doing it to win her over. Has NOTHING to do with the well being of our child. So my 8 yr old isn't developing, but all of a sudden a month ago - upon school clothes shopping - i get asked twice about her needing a bra. wth? then he reveals that the soon-to-be-wife is doing all the school shopping. So i informed him that when it comes time for a training bra, or she gets her period, or sex talk...that's MY job as her MOTHER. She is mine, and those situations are special things between a mother and daughter and they are to be mine. I only live 1/2hr away. so I talked with my daughter and explained that it's a special thing to start wearing a bra, or getting your period, so i would really like to be the one she shares that with. She asked 'what if i'm with Daddy and XXX and they want to buy me one?" i told her...ultimately it's her body...it's her decision. if she wants to, fine..but if she'd rather do it with me, she is not to be scared , she can just say "no thank you, i want to do this with mom".
am I making too much of this?