Parenting agreements for parents who live far from their kids?

Courtney - posted on 05/14/2012

Thank you so much!!!

Nonie - posted on 05/13/2012

sounds like she is just being a Bitch to be a bitch...unfortunately the kids are going to suffer. Go through w/ your plans, moving, court, mediation.....don't worry about what she has said to you attorney, he /she should be take that to the judge, the"f off", changing her mind w/ the parenting agreement, etc...did the judge say he/she didn't want you back in court or is she just saying that to be bitch???? you can take her to court until you SS;s are 18.....put in a Motion for her to pay for the attorney fee's, as she is NOT agreeing to anything and making it very hard to get a agreement settle....in other words call her on everything she does....in court, so the judge can see it....but you must have proof, dates times, what she said, etc, judges wants facts not he said / she said B.S. You are going to have to get smarter then she is, to get what you want....Your husband can call child support, to change what he pays, they go on a % of what he makes and what goes out to bills, etc....in other words you guys have more power then you know. you just have to play the game right.....hope this is helpful....

Courtney - posted on 05/13/2012

Wow! She is NO where as nice as you!!! I wish it were that simple, but unfortunately she just told our attorney to "f" off when we asked if we could set up a day and time for mediation. As well as, "good luck taking me to cout". Seeing as how the judge does NOT want to see us back in court. The funny thing is, she came up with a parenting agreement, and as soon as we agreed to it changed her mind! She does everything in her power to make things difficult. We even told her...if you want child support (consistantly), then this move NEEDS to happen! She told us that we were "threatening" her!!! I love my SS's with all my heart, and my heart aches to know we will not be as close! However, we have a family to support and I have a diabetic son who requires 300+ per month to care for monthly on top of my 2 other sons. My ex husband does not pay child support, nor did I ever ask for much or expected that he would ever actually pay. I know it is silly, but I wish we could all get along!

Nonie - posted on 05/13/2012

As far as court goes, you could ask for or check to see if they will do "a day in court over the phone". Did that when my X lived in other state....i had my X pay for flights, he could have them when they weren't in school through out the year, (because i didn't ask for a lot of child support, for 2 kids) it worked out, no more fighting...you could put it to her this way, no work, no support or half the support..you can't get blood out of a grape.....Instead of seeing them every other weekend, or one weekend a month (becuz of cost), maybe you could do every other birthday, Thanksgiving, Christmas etc., but get them every summer, all summer, with phone call, say every night...I let my X call when every he wanted to, and when ever the kids wanted to call him.....I know this isn't perfect and the kids will suffer from not seeing their dad, but as they grow older, they might want to go and live w/ you/ him full time, my son wanted to live w/ his dad @ 14-15, i said ok, then you can ask for child support from her...all i am really saying is you have to do what is best for the kids and talk to them about how they feel...hope this helps a little, its hard very hard on everyone, but you need to go where the work is, pulse balance to see your step-kids....

Spikey - posted on 05/07/2012

Thank you. The judge might be starting to see her pattern. After his exes last big display in court...the judge ordered her and her family removed from the building and escorted us with children to our vehicle. the judge would not allow the kids to say goodbye or get their clothes. which was GREAT!!! and his ex was threatened was a possible 6month split of custody.
As of now she has started playing another game. She now tells the kids I'm a third party nobody, not to say my name, not to talk to me, and demands my hubby call her. Well, he refuses just has me text that we want them to call but she refuses. Each year a new challenge. But with prayer we will prevail again!!!
We have been looking into the law to see when we can fight for custody because of all the parent alienation she is trying to cause. We may incorporate it all together as a modification order in the custody, which will include being able to have phone conversations each month again. Taking 1day at a time.

Courtney - posted on 05/02/2012

I am so sorry! I hope that this time in court will be successful! We have never had any luck in court. My husband's ex is making this thing so difficult! She is not agreeing to the move, so we will be back in court soon! :-( It is so exhausting, but there is only so much we can do!

Spikey - posted on 05/01/2012

We understand how difficult that is. We are intending on putting in a motion to the court to divide travel cost. We're trying to save to reopen his case to do that. Hopefully, we can pay for 1 and his ex pay for 1. Unfortunately, we only see them in the summer and this may be the only summer we wont be able to see them::((
We also pay health ins and child support. And each time we've had to take her to court for contempt (not allowing him to pick them up) and we have to pay all court costs and travel costs.
We have opened a bank account with a card that gives flying points and that helps too.
Life is challenging and we can all pray things can get better:) Good luck.

Courtney - posted on 04/12/2012

Thank you so much!!! That really helps! :-)

Kay - posted on 04/12/2012

We live eight hours apart, so we alternate holidays, we visit them a couple of times a year, and we keep them for five weeks during the summer to make up for not taking them every other weekend like our parenting plan says.

Good luck!