Rude or stupid things people say to you when you have a big family

Keshia - posted on 03/30/2013

Together my husband and I have six. I have 2 biological children and 4 step children. My husband has 5 kids, by 5 different women. (i think its crazy)....lolol...but anyways the first thing everybody mentions is CHILD SUPPORT...and how crazy I must be.

Sian - posted on 03/17/2013

My husband and I have only two of our own but many years ago on holiday with a group of friends in the lake district we walked into a pub for lunch with our 2 and 5 Yr old daughters, a 9 and 11 yr old set of sisters, their 11 Yr old boy cousin, a set of 7 and 9 yr old brother and sister, another unrelated 9 Yr old girl and 12 Yr old lad. Nine kids plus my husband and I. We marched in and took over a couple of tables, ordered our food and drink, had a lovely lunch all kids chatting and laughing, no one commented at the time but boy did we silence the place walking in!!! The kids were fab and its something we still giggle about.. The do you remember the look on those peoples faces,,, kind of thing..
To all those with large families. Please enjoy them... I know for me I really did...esp that day. Later that week we went back with a few less of the middle ones but an extra older one and the landlord just shook his head and said I could bring as many kids into his pub as I liked but were they really all mine? Just as I was about to explain, two of the older boys, listening in elbowed each other and commented loud enough for the whole pub to hear ' oh here she goes, mams denying us again!!!".
The landlords mouth fell open and I was laughing too much to tell them off as they were quoting cousins of mine from a story the night before when we had been relating to their parents the stunned silence and gawping at our previous visit.. I had foolishly told the boys the quote as my mother had taken 13 of us cousins age 3 to 15 shopping on her own on a childhood holiday only to be asked if we were all hers? When she had indignantly said ' how dare you of course not! to the shop keeper, two of the boys had rolled their eyes and one had elbowed the other to say loudly, "mam,s denying us again!!' He'd got a clip round the ear and the whole lot of us reproached my mother and all called her mam for the rest of the expedition!!! She has since seen the funny side. But that shopkeeper was convinced she had 13 kids and as for me the rest of the parents deliberately avoided that pub to try and make sure the landlord never realised that only two of the many children with me were actually my own!!!
So be proud of your families they grow up all too soon.

Angie - posted on 02/21/2013

One i have heard a lot from my city friends (we live in the country) is "Country bumpkins are breeders, isn't there anything else to do there?" No! All we do all day is lay around popping out babies (sarcasm)!
Another frequently asked question we get is "don't you have a tv?"

Angie - posted on 02/21/2013

When I had just given birth to my number 3 (i have 2 step kids so our number 5) a stupid childless woman said "Oh he's very cute, but no more kids now, ok! That's enough for you". I had no come back, i just gaped at her, who the hell has the right, other than a spouse to make that decision for us!? What a fool. I have since had another beautiful child! Take that bossy woman! Lol!

Nigeria - posted on 02/19/2013

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Kay - posted on 02/16/2012

I have not gotten that one. Which is good, as I would blow a gasket. We are a blended family, and no one ever stops to think of that before they make comments. Matt and I take turns trying to come up with the funniest reply...

Nicole - posted on 02/14/2012

well now doesnt people generally know how it happens??the one that peeves me right off is when they call us breeders..then i get nasty..people need to remember there manners..

Kay - posted on 02/13/2012

Nicole, I like that one! :)

Nicole - posted on 02/12/2012

my reply was no can you tell me??

Kay - posted on 02/12/2012

"You guys haven't figured out what causes that yet?"



My favorite response: "Yup, but he is just so damned good at it." :)

Lisa - posted on 02/10/2012

We "only" have four but want one or maybe (??) two more ... I'm dreading telling everyone that we are expecting if that happens : ( ... I don't imagine I'll get support from anyone except my husband who totally gets why we didn't stop at two or three. I had a mom of four say "so you're done right?" and when I foolishly told her we maybe weren't, she snapped at me"WHY would anyone have more than four?!?!?". I was shocked ... Such a hypocrite! Why would anyone have more than two? Sheesh.

Els - posted on 04/01/2010

i live in belgium and i have 6 kids : 2 of my own and 4 foster kids who live here all the time so its like they are your own.
I also get comments why i have so many kids , why i take so many kids. when we go out , everyone looks at us but then i look back and i am very proud that i have that many kids !!!
If i could i would have more, but 4 foster kids is the maximum that one can take here in belgium and my health is not good enough to get one of my own, i have terrible back problems.
that also people don't understand, i have a lot of back problems but still take kids in the house .. in the weekends often kids of my brothers or of my husbands sisters are here to play , mostly i have 8 kids in the weekends.
they also don't understand how we do it financialy, ... it is hard because my husband hasn't got any work since he has cut of 3 of his fingers by accident (2 fingers they have placed back but they don't work).
But we cope and i don't regret having that much children.
I love it when they tell me that they love me and when they hug me ...

Lauren - posted on 03/31/2010

My bf and I have 6 kids Im 25 and hes 30. We come from a small town and have heard just about everything. The most asked question I get is " How do you do it?" Well, I do it because I have to. If I wasnt able to take care of them all then we wouldnt have this many. None of our pregnancies were planned, the good Lord just dealt us with what he knew we could handle. My stepsons are 12 and 10 then our 4 lil ones are 5, 4, and 3 yr old twins. We get all kinds of looks and stares when we are in public but I just tend to ignore them. There are 3 boys and 3 girls and everyone likes to call us the Brady Bunch, lol. It looks that way too, 3 blondes and 3 brunettes, lol. I love my lil big family and wouldnt have it any other way.

Lauren - posted on 03/31/2010

My bf and I have 6 kids Im 25 and hes 30. We come from a small town and have heard just about everything. The most asked question I get is " How do you do it?" Well, I do it because I have to. If I wasnt able to take care of them all then we wouldnt have this many. None of our pregnancies were planned, the good Lord just dealt us with what he knew we could handle. My stepsons are 12 and 10 then our 4 lil ones are 5, 4, and 3 yr old twins. We get all kinds of looks and stares when we are in public but I just tend to ignore them. There are 3 boys and 3 girls and everyone likes to call us the Brady Bunch, lol. It looks that way too, 3 blondes and 3 brunettes, lol. I love my lil big family and wouldnt have it any other way.

Jewel - posted on 03/17/2010

OMG!!! what a rude comment that lady made. I have almost the samething happen to be years ago except at the time I only had one child, a girl and she was in a dress and a lady asked if she was a boy not paying attention to what she was wearing. Also now when my husband and I go to the store will all 5 kids and two are biracial (I have custody of my niece and nephew) we get stared at and then ppl come up and ask if our 2 year olds were twins (my two year old niece and my youngest son). I even get rude comments from my own family who at Christmas time is always asking if I able to afford the gifts for the family get togethers.

Rebecca - posted on 03/16/2010

I am a mother of 5. I love it when people ask if they "are all mine", "Do they all have the same dad?"; and all the financial comments. Some people feel like they can say whatever to you. I just try to respond respectfully letting them know that they are all mine; they have the same daddy, and we pay our own way.

Sarah - posted on 03/15/2010

reply to Amy Molander...



i love T-shirt like that i have 5 girls (3his & 2ours).yes there are good days & bad days but I love them all unconditionally.it was my choice to have a big family, I wouldn't want it any other way

Leah - posted on 03/11/2010

my hubby and i have 5. we are a blended family. i am only 27 and he is 35. he had custody of his 2 when we met and i of course, had custody of my 2 and then we had one more. so that makes 5. when i go to the grocery store people look at me like i am nuts and when we go out to eat, sometimes people stop and ask us how we do it or wow ya'll have your hands full. one day we were sitting there eating and a lady came up to us as she left the restaurant and asked the most common question, "are they all yours?" when i replied, "yes" she said "wow you aren't gana have any more are you?" i should have told her that i was planning to have a total of 10 or something but i just looked at her and said no, we are done. and she walked away.

Tasha - posted on 03/09/2010

I am new to this site,and reading some of the comments people say is crazy. more then likly they come from a big family too and just forgot how it felt having everyone stair at them and making their own comments..people stair like there is buggers and dirt and tails on our children. I am a young mother. 24yrs. and im engaged to a wonderful man. it a (mine, yours and ours). He has one child boy 8yrs. i have 2 kids. girl 5yrs. boy 3yrs. and we have one together girl 7mon. I would love to have one more but i have a desises in my female parts so i had to get fixed. so i cant have any more babys . I take all kids to the store with me and when we go out to eat. They are always well behaved and poliet. Thank goodness they know how to act in public. cuz at home they can be crazy! sure my hands are full with kids so close together but truthfuly i feel you dont know the real meaning of being a parent until you have more then one child. and that is what my fiance is really struggleing with . lol.. he never want any kids. then he had his son. and in '06 he went from 1 to 3kids all at once . and couldnt understand why my kids where loud and fight . (well hello because they are 2yrs apart.) his son is quite and layed back . dirt is gross and he cant get dirty. only child for 5yrs. and dont know how to shair, even after 3yrs). he is starting to understand all the kids and is getting a grip on parent hood! lol... Im a stay at home mom and love every min. of it. sure being home with 3 crazy kids all day can be tough but i wouldnt want it anyother way! i love my babies all 4of them. and i Clap my hands for all the familys out there that have more then 1 child and knows how it is to be a real parent! I get looks and comments at the store and from family about being so young and having so many kids. I just smile and keep going. my mom is a good one to make comments about "do you know what causes that" (she had 5). And i just say nope not yet still seaching for the cause. she dont say nothing more lol.. good luck to all the mommy's and next time someone says something rude or just a comment think of something really clever!

Angela - posted on 03/08/2010

I know exactly what you mean I have 3 children of my own one which is me and my husbands little girl and the two boys from a previous marriage then he has 4 other little girls from previoud relationships but anyways we have 7 total. So we were walking in Walmart and this old woman says to me why don't you put an aspirin between you legs it might stop whats going on here but little did he know that I only had 3 but I claim my husbands little girls. Some people can be so rude with out even knowing whats going on.

Yenime - posted on 03/07/2010

I have 7 children. My oldest is 19 and my youngest is 4 months. I also have gotten all of those comments through out the years but the one is harder for me to take is when my 19 year old is shopping with me and she is holding the baby. People think it's hers and not mine. I guess it makes me feel old at times but I just laugh it out.

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VERONICA - posted on 03/06/2010

Girl, I have 7 and 1 on the way...i get it all the time also...I feel that i have been blessed this many times for a reason..others who dont support me and my family..to the left, to the left...

Ariana - posted on 03/03/2010

I love Louisiana! Big families are common here, so I don't get much comments. We used to live in North Carolina though, and I would get a lot of comments, especially when we would go grocery shopping. At that time I had four steps and one with my hubby. It can actually be very helpful to have more kids. The older two would help me with the younger ones. I miss that now. The oldest are 17 and 19 and live with their Mom, so we don't see them much. My 19yoss is in a band, and my favorite comment is "you have enough to form your own band now!" LOL

Melanie - posted on 03/01/2010

i have 4 kids and would have more if we could afford it. but i really wanted to comment about the fact that im one of 7. and i can tell you stupid people will and have commented to your kids too. it can really get ridiculous. also i really love having my brother and 5 sisters.

Laura - posted on 02/26/2010

Me and my husband have 5 gr8 children i was 20 and my husband was 18 when we has our first we are forever being as if the kids are both ours. Also i've had people say they have a couple of bricks and they could stop us having anymore. All being joke said but it is not funny any more as i think they mean it sometimes. Also i've had people go on about the state paying for us our kids but me and my husband both work and pay for our own kids but what has it got to do with anyone else anyway.

Whitney - posted on 02/24/2010

One of the comments that really gets me...... " You have 10 kids !!!! Wow I can barely handle the 3 I have."

Ok... so my internal responce is usally wondering why if 3 children are so darn difficult do they even have them. My 10 are awesome kids, and there are days I question my own sanity, but I have never once thought I couldn't handle them.

Susanne - posted on 02/23/2010

I just left the welcome to circle of moms community after a bit of a to do. I was reading a post about only children and mothers being annoyed because they have to defend their right to have an only child. It was a perfectly nice debate until some woman came out with this comment that most of us women popping kids out left and right cant afford to support them and just want the rest of us to be in the same boat. I took offence at this and said so nicely to this lady at which her fan club came out who were moderaters and told me to shut up or they would block me for 24 hours lol. Well i told them to shove their community if thats the way they run it, i think her comment was out of order.

Sarah - posted on 02/22/2010

I love this! We are a foster family also. We are adopting all of our 7. I told some one I found them on Craigslist. Sadly I think they believed me.

Anita - posted on 02/16/2010

Yes, I get really annoyed by the stares and comments. As if they have to take care of my children or pay to support them! I have five kids three boys two girls all under 11..ouch!! I guess the norm is to only have two kids nowadays, oh well we aren't in style lol.

Susanne - posted on 02/16/2010

From strangers i get the trying to make your own football team are you? Or trying for a girl? What pisses me off the most is when my family and friends make comments like dont you know when to stop? havent you got enough now. Almsot no one believes that all my kids are planned that i wanted them. Ive even had paople tell me im ruining my life. I love my kids they are my world and thats the way i like it. By the way i have three boys and baby no 4 on the way i dont really consider that to be a lot but most people around me stop at one or two.

Stacie - posted on 02/15/2010

I had four, my husband two, and we have one that is ours. (They all live with us Full time) And I have heard it all from: "Isn't it about time to have another" or "when I need a babysitter I don't need to ask anyone, I'll just bring my son to your house and put him in your backyard with yours and you'll never know the difference". Even had this guy run across the parking lot at a mall just so he could ask me if I was "The old lady who lived in a shoe" who had so many children that she didn't know what to do... uuuggghhh.. So now when we head out on the town with all nine of us, I just SMILE because I don't care what anyone says~ I know I am truelly blessed with our 7 children and our Full time jobs to support them..I love my big family and the many joys and struggles it brings. :O)

Marciel - posted on 02/07/2010

My favorite answer when people ask us if we know what causes it is: MARITAL BLISS!!!Stops them in their tracks!!! I also hate the wow welfare must pay well comment!!!That one really bugs me!!!

BTW mother of 6!!! 11 years down to 8 months!! In Nevada!!

Lynnette - posted on 02/07/2010

We have been blessed to not get the rude remarks. We don't go out all together often so maybe that is why! What bothers me most is the people who treat me like I am super human. "You must be a saint." I once told a friend I am no different than she is I just have more kids. (We have 9.) A friend and her husband were approached by an elderly woman and asked the standard, "Don't you know what causes that?" Her husband looked the woman in the eye and in all sincerity said, "No, could you explain that for me?" Needless to say that was the end of that conversation!! When people find out I homeschool they often tell me I must be busy. To that I always say, "Might as well be." To some people the large family is beyond their comprehension but to us it is just who we are. God is so good!

Donna - posted on 02/06/2010

Amy, these rude people are the ones missing out,there is nothing better than sitting around a table with kids and chatting about their day and the good thing is there is always someone there to play with. My hubby and I have four children and that is plenty for our circumstances. I come from a family of 7 kids and my father was the youngest of 16. Family reunions etc. are a blast and one day when we're grandparents I hope our kids go forth and multiply! Too all large families out there I say "Good On Ya" and smooth sailing! cheers Donna

Donna - posted on 02/06/2010

Amy, these rude people are the ones missing out,there is nothing better than sitting around a table with kids and chatting about their day and the good thing is there is always someone there to play with. My hubby and I have four children and that is plenty for our circumstances. I come from a family of 7 kids and my father was the youngest of 16. Family reunions etc. are a blast and one day when we're grandparents I hope our kids go forth and multiply! Too all large families out there I say "Good On Ya" and smooth sailing! cheers Donna

Tiffany - posted on 02/01/2010

I feel I can relate to this topic aswell. My partner and I have 5 kids combined, four of them are under the age of 7. When we go out in public together people always ask me if they are all mine. I'm not the biggest fan of that question. When I explain that we are a combined family people give us the durtiest looks. My youngest was just born in December, people often say "thats the last right" I've even had people tell me to get my tubes tied!

Lindsay - posted on 01/29/2010

we get the how can you afford all these kids.. are you having more..when i say yes then you get that look like are you NUTS or something..

Ann - posted on 01/25/2010

Ello i just had to join this group after reading your message .. i to have 6 children from ages 14 months to 16 years..3 boys, 3 girls....

we've had the lot thrown at us.. like do u have a tv... bet its crazy in your house ..someone even had the cheek to use the words bet it won't be long till ya pop another one out... or asking personal details if they all have the same father ..which they have...

i do think alot of these comments come from those who are maybe a lil jealous don't you think?

Ann - posted on 01/25/2010

Ello i just had to join this group after reading your message .. i to have 6 children from ages 14 months to 16 years..3 boys, 3 girls....

we've had the lot thrown at us.. like do u have a tv... bet its crazy in your house ..someone even had the cheek to use the words bet it won't be long till ya pop another one out... or asking personal details if they all have the same father ..which they have...

i do think alot of these comments come from those who are maybe a lil jealous don't you think?

Sierra - posted on 01/24/2010

hello we have a total of 9 but we lost two then there are 13 grand kids and we are waiting the birth of two more gandkids we get stupid qa all the time like are they all yours and how do you pay for there clothing and all kids of stupid things i have even been told that the state schould ban people mike me from haveing too meny kids it rude and crazy we ahve a werid situation the ages of our kids go from 2 years old to 32 years old and the grandklds are 3 mo to 14 years old you schould see it when we all go out the qa and comments we get

Bonnie - posted on 01/23/2010

people always ask us if we are nuts, they ask how we afford it, or tell me i must have lots of patience, or they give us the i cant believe it look and say are you gonna have any more?

Laura - posted on 01/23/2010

I know what you mean. I get all those dumb questions too. I am the mom of 6 I have 3 of my own children and 3 of my husbands. I have raised them since they were in grade school when I remarried. Still, people act like you committed a crime when you tell them how many children you have. Its a lot of hard work but they are worth it.

Debbie - posted on 01/22/2010

We have 6 adopted kids and people ask are you finished?or you know you can't take them all in. I say, I don't know if we are finished, and yes I can't take them all but I can take a good many. Usually they stop right there, as they don't know what to say. Yes some people can be intrusive and insensitive.

Michelle - posted on 01/21/2010

One of my fav's is; how do you do it, manage with all those kids, I used to say you just do! i had 7 at one time, thank god they are all almost grown up. I find myself still preparing for all the kids to go back to school forgetting that I only have one going to school now LOL!

Peggy - posted on 01/21/2010

I have been through this too but I have to admit my kids have become really clever. I have a total of 9 kids 4 girls & 5 boys. One day we were at the zoo, people kept giving us looks and making comments and so on.... well after about the umteenth million time of being asked are all those kids yours my 15 year old daughter looked at the couple and said nope we were hitch hiking and these fine young people picked us up. My mouth about hit the ground. Now it has become very common around my family to make a wise crack after hearing the same questions over and over. I have learned that it is actually good for them to express themselves in this manner, just to give themselves a break from it all too.

Kathy - posted on 01/20/2010

I was working in a department store when I was pregnant with our 4th child and this old woman asked how much longer to my due date and so I told her and happily added that this was our 4th. She looked completely aghast and said "well, I'm going to go home and pray to god that you don't have anymore! Don't you know how overpopulated the world is already?!" I was so shocked I just laughed out loud. I guess that really ticked her off cause she stormed out of the store. We have 5 now.

Kathy - posted on 01/20/2010

I was working in a department store when I was pregnant with our 4th child and this old woman asked how much longer to my due date and so I told her and happily added that this was our 4th. She looked completely aghast and said "well, I'm going to go home and pray to god that you don't have anymore! Don't you know how overpopulated the world is already?!" I was so shocked I just laughed out loud. I guess that really ticked her off cause she stormed out of the store. We have 5 now.

Arlene - posted on 01/20/2010

hi i know how you feel i have 5 kids and im always getting comments on how many kids i have it gets annoying after a while

Angelique - posted on 01/18/2010

Hi. I have 6 children, all with my husband, whom I married when I was 17. I am now 36, and my kids are 17, 15, 13, 11, 8, and 4. Only one girl (the 8 year old). When people ask me if I am done yet, I tell them that the way I figure it, I need 4 more girls to catch up to the boys.