Jessica - posted on 06/29/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )
My boyfriend and I are always toying around with the idea of having a child together. I have 2 kids from my previous marriage ages 5 and 3. He has two from his previous marriage, ages 2 and 4. We both have 50/50 custody of our children so they have become very close to one another. There are times when we have just mine, times when we have just his, and times when all 4 are together. No MAJOR issues so far with this arrangement, although we've only all lived together for 5 months. Having one of our own seems crazy to many of our friends and family because we already have 4 so close in age. We worry that having a child who lives with us permanently will hurt our other children since they come and go. We also struggle with when to have one if we do. I just turned 30. I see pros and cons for having one soon and also with waiting a few years. Input, opinions, and shared experiences will be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!