What have people told you about your large family?

Kathleen - posted on 04/01/2013

"Are You Done Yet?" In Defense of Our 5th Child: http://childrensmd.org/browse-by-age-gro...

Jessica - posted on 04/13/2012

My boys are 9,7,7,5,3,and 8 months. I feel so comfortable now when I go out because I just star them down and give them the look.lol Last year I would get so bothered by people remarks that it would just bug the crap out of me. My life is hectic at times but hey that my life.My youngest is 8 months and for some reason I've been wanting another baby for some reason. I love my children and my last one is such a great baby that hes no trouble at all. I think its wonderful that we have this board to help with our feelings and talk to one another even though we don't know each other.

Lorraine - posted on 04/13/2012

wow thats fab how old r u kids courtney? bet u r sooo excited congrats 2 u,i would like another one baby is 5 months now so would like to wait till he is about 18 months,only thing is i will b 40 this year lol xxx

Courtney - posted on 04/12/2012

awesome to read this.....i just found out i am pregnant with my 7th, and i am watching who i am telling because as sad as it is, people r very mean if u have a lot of kids, and i dont care to deal with it. it is our choice and as long as we r taking care of our children... more power to us!

Lorraine - posted on 04/11/2012

i have 5 boys and one girl & would love another one my oldest is almost 16 and youngest 5 months,i love having a big family its great & its my choice to have a big family xxx

Ashley - posted on 03/12/2012

My husband and I have always wanted a large family and I am so glad to see such positive attitudes about it! We have three children right now and would like to have more someday. I say "keep up the good work ladies, you are an inspiration!"

Dayna - posted on 02/10/2012

Wow, I first posted a response in here almost 2yrs ago!! Wow things have changed hehe I am currently 13weeks pregnant with my 10th child so blended that's #15!!! And YES!! we still get the silly comments LOL

Dayna - posted on 02/10/2012

Wow, I first posted a response in here almost 2yrs ago!! Wow things have changed hehe I am currently 13weeks pregnant with my 10th child so blended that's #15!!! And YES!! we still get the silly comments LOL

Kay - posted on 01/29/2012

We are a blended family. My fiancé had two daughters going into this, I had one son, and we now have another son together. We both look very young. My favorite remark when we have all the kids together is, You are too young to have so many children! Just makes me shake my head. I always wanted at least four and preferrably more, so I figure we should just get used to it now. ;)

Elena - posted on 01/28/2012

It's a shame that people are so critical about us having more kids. They are our own, our own responsibility and the worst thing is that those who criticize us the most would be the last to offer anything. I have four kids and had it up to my ears about being introduced 'this is Elena, she's got four kids' like it's a crime. Another friend of mine used to joke to others 'they have no tv.' I wish people would wind their necks in and mind their own business, instead offer their support and understanding.

Michele - posted on 01/28/2012

I think the worst thing is telling people you are pregnant again, after the second pregnacy no one gets excited anymore. alot more "really, why?", and no one says "yay, congrats!" every pregnancy and child should be celebrated.

Naomi - posted on 01/24/2012

im 1 proud mummy i have a blended. we have 2 each from a previouse relationship an 1 together and i must say we get comlemented on how well we work we have 4 full time an 1 in the holidays, i have a great relationship with his ex ♥ how we work

Britt - posted on 12/18/2011

MOST people say when we re out my gosh! How does she do it! Its hard work & patience. Well worth it to me!

Melysa - posted on 11/28/2011

I love all the positivity from all the mummies of many out there the number of times we hear how do you do it is rediculus my newest answer is one day at a time I have 5 of the best children a mother could be blessed with and now study full time at uni I may be a young mum (26) and have more than the "normal" 2-3 kids but I love my life and would not change one thing even if given the chance to get a do-over and to the mum who gets told "you don't look like youve had 1 let alone ... " i get this too I usually add that I didn't even get stretch marks this usually stirs them up! at a size 8 Australian I often get told when out one on one with my kids that I wont be so lucky after the 2nd it upsets them when I say that they were right I lost an extra 5kg after him and since my 5th I just can't seem to gain an ounce no matter how much I eat :)

Deborah - posted on 11/27/2011

Loved your post, Alice. I have six: 5 boys and one girl, and I've had people come up to me in stores or restaurants and say "you're crazy!" But what's funny is if you then say "Oh? Why do you say that?" and they stammer out something like "Oh, well, I, uh, I can't even deal with my one kid." and wind up with egg on their faces. We get the nice compliments about how well behaved the kids are, and how happy they seem. The comment I hear the most is "You have your hands full!" and my reply is "There's nothing I'd rather have them full of."

Sharlene - posted on 11/23/2011

Me and my DH , have 7 between us and we always get that Qstion , We use the term 'we manange fine LOL

Elisabeth - posted on 11/05/2011

My 9 children are now adults ! Ranging in age fro 20 to 35 . 4 Girls and 5 boys. One set of twins #'s 5 and 6 (girls) I am so proud of each of them ! Lifes' path have taken them into different directions and there is never a dull moment in my life . They have blessed me with 8 grandkids (So Far) and I would never ever change anything I ever did ! People ask . Are You Crazy ? I say Yes ! But I would never change anything . Enjoy Them ! Blink, and they are grown !

Kimberley - posted on 11/05/2011

I have 5 children and have decided after problems with my last pregnancy not to have anymore but I live having a large family and I think comments like that are just plain rude.What has it got to do with anyone else as long as you are taking care of and loving your children nothing else matters.My advice to you is to just give them a little comment such as "sorry didnt realize I had to check with you 1st" or "last time I looked both me and my partner were adults and could decide for ourselves thank you "
Hope you have fun with your great family xxx

Helen - posted on 07/01/2010

ive had all this too.. the looks from people when i say yes i have 6 kids, the comments like 'your not having any more are you?' or 'dont have any more helen'. it winds me up bigstyle. it is mine and my husbands choice to have a big family. he is 1 of 4 and im 1 of 7 and we always wanted a big family. our children are loved and are very well behaved and they love having a few brothers and sisters to keep them company if they are staying in watching a dvd or something hold your head up high is what i say and be proud of our big broods!!! xxx

Rose - posted on 06/30/2010

LOL @ melissa davis i think i need to make me a shirt too like that!!! that is funny

Rose - posted on 06/30/2010

yes i am so tired of people looking or saying things, we have 5 kids and want one more in a few years but as you said no one knows how to keep there mouths shut,its not as if they are paying my bills or something

Melanie - posted on 06/30/2010

@ Carla. This gives me hope as I have the same problem. I always wanted a large family and have three wonderful s-kids, but I want my own too.

Melanie - posted on 06/30/2010

My favorite comment is the "You're too young to have that many kids" I have three s-kids and no biokids. I think part of it is that I can still pass for 18 (I am 25) and my oldest is nearly 12. I would have to have been 14 and pregnant and it just seems to offend them. Especially as my oldest 2 are blonde and pale and the youngest is dark and tan (and looks a lot like me even though we are no biological relation.)



I personally want 2 or 3 more. I always dreamed of having a large family.



What was really comical was when I was a kid. I am the result of a blended family. My caucasian stepdad is in construction and so very dark and he had dark hair. My mom is very, very blonde. You know the porcelain doll type of blonde. My step sibs take after their dad's mom and so look an awful lot like my mom at least as far as coloring goes. My brother and I share the same coloring as my dad and so similar (though for different reasons) coloring to my stepdad. When we went out their were the usual how do you deal with such a large family. But my absolute favorite were the Melanie and Chris look so much like their dad (meaning my stepdad) and your two look just like you (referring to my step sibs) Hilarious. Especially when we explained the family dynamics to them. The looks on their faces when my mom said well thanks but the dark ones are mine and the blondes are his.

Ginger - posted on 06/29/2010

My friend tells people that she gathered all the neighbors kids to go shopping with her... and someone asked her once if she knew what caused that... her reply "Ya and it feels good too!!!!" Shut that lady up in a hurry. I have 9 and have had them all in tow plenty of times! (15 yrs span)

Erin - posted on 06/11/2010

I have been married for 15 years (this coming December) and we have 8 kids. The oldest one is my step son, but we have had him since he was 8 years old and his BM hasn't seen or talked to him once. So I call him mine. Therefore, when people ask me if they are all mine, I say "why yes!" Then they comment that I don't look old enough to have 8 kids and I say, "Thank you!" When they comment about my size (I am slightly underweight and tall) "You couldn't have possibly given birth to one, let alone 8!" I say "I run around after 8 kids all day, what do you expect?"

My (least) favorite was when I was pregnant with #6, and a lady asked "Don't you think there are enough people in this world?" My reply was "Not NEARLY enough good ones!" She closed her mouth and walked away.

Michelle - posted on 06/09/2010

I get the exact same thing and love that I found somewhere that it's understood. Definitely at Walmart people just stare that I have three in the cart, one walking and one on the way. Mine are 6, 4, 2, 1 and due in a couple of weeks. I love them all, am not sure I'm done and am tired of saying "yes they are all mine," "I don't know if I'm done," and "yes I know where babies come from." My husband and I couldn't have them every 18 months if we didn't know exactly how the process worked.



People always ask me how I do it. Honestly, I don't know how I do "IT" but truthfully, I don't know any other way and I don't mind the controlled chaos that is our lives. I think they don't know how they would do it because they've never had to. My husband and I are watching a new Disney show and the parents have 4 kids. When asked why they had their 4th kid, they commented that 3 was for quitters. That's our new slogan whenever some makes a comment to us, we say 4 is for quitters. We are both very competitive and coach sports, so it works for us. But, it's not for everyone. I don't think people mean to be rude though, they just don't understand.

Karen - posted on 06/09/2010

I totally understand where you are coming from! If people cant say anything nice than they should keep their comments to themselves. My husband and I have been married over 20 years and we have 6 children together. Oldest 20 years...youngest 3 yrs. When we go out to eat people stare...waitress think "Oh Great. When I go out alone with them...I get asked "are they all yours" and even get asked " do they all have the same father!" One lady even told me I was cursed...I replied.."No, I am blessed". Instead of taking it personal...play the game with them...LOL.. Reply back...."yep..all mine but different dads"...than watch their faces! LOL!

Angela - posted on 06/05/2010

It's don't bother me anymore. They always say gee you have your hands full. I sure do but, I love kids and it don't bother me a bit.

Erika - posted on 06/03/2010

i totally understand you! i have 9 kids, 6 boys and 3 girls. you should see the looks we get when we go out. i used to not say anything to people who said rude and intrusive things but now i let whatever comes up, come out. if their statement is rude i come back something even ruder. yes it's juvenile and everything but i'm tired of people who dont have to take care of or pay for my kids thinking that they can just say anything and get away with it. i love my large family and i'm happy for anyone who is not afraid to have as many babies as they can take care of. congrats jessica on 5 beautiful boys.

Adrienne - posted on 06/02/2010

I am preg. with my 4th-and what a diff. I see with responses to my new preg. Even my long time doctor seemed off put. There are no more sincere congrats.

Tricia - posted on 06/01/2010

We have a very large, blended family, some Cacasian Folk, Mexican, and some like me who are a blend of everyone. Before I married into the Mexican side I always thought I had a pretty close family, I never realized how close family can really be. I feel so blessed to have a large family, even though I only have the 4 of us in my home, since I take care of my 88 year old grammy part-time, I have family around all the time, and I love it. I always say that I was lucky before and now I am learning more about new cultures, new countries, I feel so loved and enlightened now! So those who do not have large families may really be missing out, in my opinion.

Rebecca - posted on 06/01/2010

As a mother of 5, I have gotten used to the questions and staring. I find most comments commical. There are some comments however that are very rude and unjustified. I once had a woman tell me she had 4 kids, but they all had the same daddy. My kids and I stared in disbelief. She walked off before I could say that they do all have the same dad.

I think there are 2 types of mothers out there. The ones that can handle kids and the ones that don't. I love my kids! We have a good time together. When we are all out in public my 5 generally do better then another mother's 1. Kids are a blessing from God. I say keep going. I'm hoping for 2 more in the future. :-)

Melysa - posted on 05/31/2010

when walking into the shop one day i had one guy count out my kids they ignored this as i count them all the time(it is faster) but i was amazed that someone could be so rude i have heard them; you don't look old enough to have one; do you know what causes it; are they all yours; do they all have the same father; are you still with any of their dad's; have you heard of t.v.; so when is the next one?; how do you cope with _ (depending on how many i have with me at the time); and it is always the same i have 3G and 2B between 7&1/2years and 14 months they are loved and wanted yes i know what causes them no i am not having anymore, tv is not as much fun(this usually stops them) i am 25 no there are no twins i am married to their father and they all look in part like him and quite often i have oh say oh i have more at home/school/preschool i wish their mothers did a better job raising them maybe the world would be happier if mothers raised their children to be more accepting of others

Nancy - posted on 05/30/2010

We get asked alot about our 5 kids "You know what causes that dont you?" My hubby usually replies "Yes, adoption" we adopted four of them. That usually makes people feel stupid for being jerks about it.

Julie - posted on 05/29/2010

i had 4 then married for the 2nd time and had one more
now all we get is.. time to stop... please tell me your not having anymore .......
we take care of all our family we don't ask for any help so why do most people think they can have there say over that we do

Carla - posted on 05/29/2010

Oh I've got comments, stares, scowls. I have polysystic ovarian disease and was told I couldn't have any. I am the proud Mom of 6 boys and a princess-- Nate 16, Sara 14, Jake 13, Alex 11, Zach 9, Max 2.5, and Nick 10.5 months. My kids are a blessing and my life would be empty without them. They each bring something different out in me as a Mom. Zach is being evaluated for autism, high functioning and can be a challenge but he's worth it a million times over. I am so glad to know there are other people with large families. :)

LUPE - posted on 05/27/2010

I have 5 kids of my own and my boyfriend has 2 of his own... so we have 4 teenagers around the same age.... will they ever learn to get along.... or will they just push and push

Lisa - posted on 05/27/2010

We have 4 children, (I gave birth to all), I get the questions about them being all mine, the big gaps in ages threw people off, kinda funny. The children are 13, 7, 4, and 9 months. I also get asked if we are finished having kids? I would like to have another one but hubby don't want anymore, lol. We also get stared at when we go out to eat, and get groceries, I don't let it bug me. I love my kids and wouldn't change anything for the world.
I like when people ask how we afford to feed them all, I like telling them with food....the same way you feed yours.

Joy - posted on 05/26/2010

I have the same problem when I tell people we have 6 kids. They look at me as though I have 2 heads or something. We have a large, blended family. My husband and I each had two children when we met and had two 'surprises' in two years. Although we are not having any more children--at 42 it's safer for me, my last pregnancy was rough--people stare when we are all together.

Kassidey - posted on 05/26/2010

I have been getting rude comments lately too. We are a blended family, soon to become a medium-large family. We have 3 boys - 8, 5, and 1 (2 oldest are my stepsons) and we have one baby (unidentified) on the way. I am showing some now so people often make comments like "Don't you have enough?" and "Wow talk about bad timing. You should have waited a few years." Those comments have even come from family. I just ignore it or tell them we are happy so its none of their business. That might seem a bit rude but so is what they are saying.

Stephanie - posted on 05/25/2010

okay so with the territory it comes daily. My husband and I have 5 children girl, boy, girl, boy and girl twins. The oldest is a spit image of me. brown skin brown hair brown eyes the rest of our children are olive complected with blondish hair and blue or hazel. If I do not have my oldest with me I get asked things at the store like, oh are you babysitting which I have learned to reply yeah for 18 years. or oh how sweet a friends and i say yeah she just came by and left them that one always gets them to jaw drop. The point is we cannot curb and for some woman they cannot even raise a cat much less consider 5 children. I think as long as your children know that they are loved by you you can teach them that some people are overwhelmed with how brave you are as a mother lol. Good luck

Stephanie - posted on 05/25/2010

I just tell people that the Bible says to be fruitful and multiply....who am I to argue with that

Sherry - posted on 05/22/2010

Ohhhh, my. What a blessing to read all these posts :) ..... I have been getting these types of comments since I was pregnant with our 4th child. " what are you going to call this one? quits?" There are so many things that I can relate to in previous posts it is crazy......I am talking word for word comments , amazing ...... my response was almost word for word also !!! LOL , We had moved from our home town when I was preg. with # 4 , then 4 and 5 were born while we were away. We were visiting (back home) with our 5 children and an aquantance says " Oh Tom do you think that you could leave the poor woman alone?" ..... well he didn't even have time to open his mouth, I said " did you ever consider that I enjoy making babies with my husband?" I thought that she was going to drop dead right on the spot. You know we have moved back to the area (home town) and this woman has never once commented on the size of our family. :) Imagine that. We have 8 living children now and are not sure if we are ready to say that we are finished. This is an area that for us takes lots of prayer. I have heard people say that "you will know when you are done having children" , I do not think that that will ever happen to me. Actually , it seems that the people that make that comment do not have any more than 3-4 :) ....... I can identify with almost everyone of you. I told my husband years ago, " you may as well tell them, YES they are all ours" cause they are thinking it anyway , LOL We call ourselves the modern day Waltons/ Adams family hahahahahah

Shelly - posted on 05/22/2010

we get it all the time , i have 5 kids n have my daughters friend with us a lot , so when people make there comments iv lernt to say yes thay are all mine n im just going to collect the other 3 from mums haha just love the look on there faces xxzxxxxxxxx

Amy - posted on 05/22/2010

I have nine. I love going out to eat and watch the reactions of others, especially when their kids are acting up and mine are behaving very nicely!

Cara - posted on 05/21/2010

We have four currently (2 bio 2 adopted) and have only told a few close friends that we are in the process of adopting two more because of the negative comments we have gotten in the past. When we became foster parents we got enough to last us a life-time! Our 3 boys and one girl are 3 1/2 years apart and I wouldn't trade them for the world. If we feel like we can add to our wonderful family and it is in God's will, I don't see how it is anyone elses business. I have learned to let a lot of things just roll off my back. My new saying is that if it doesn't effect my eternity (or my childrens'), I'm not going to worry about it.

Cyndi - posted on 05/21/2010

I understand what you are going through, except our negative comments also come from our family. We have 4 children and want one more, but the comments we get from our own family and friends make it seem as if we are doing the wrong thing by having a large family. I mean we don't get government assistance, we don't have other people raising our kids, and we don't have anyone else pay our bills, in short we support and provide for our family ourselves, so why should it matter if we have one more child. What really got me was the other day when we mentioned to my sister in law about us wating one more the first thing she asked was "Dont ya'll like money"? I was apalled. Of course she has one child and thinks life with just him is so hard, I sit back and laugh when she begins to talk about her "struggles" with one child. What I don't get is why sholud it stop becomig my husband's and my decisions, and start becoming everyone else's.

Elisabeth - posted on 05/20/2010

I also have 5 boys, and 4 girls. They are pretty much grown now, the youngest is 19. I still get "how did you do it ?" Honestly ? One day at a time ! When they were all small and I always had at least 6 or more with me, I would get that ??? I would just smile and say "Which one should I not have had ? That really shuts them up !

Maria - posted on 05/20/2010

I have to admit that I never set out to have as many children as i do. Don't get me wrong I love kids I just never saw me as being capable of handling so many. After my first I figured I was done. Well, god had way more planned then I could have imagined. My second child was a complete surprise. Then I married my husband and inherited his three children. That gave us five girls all living with us and I consider them my own ( I don't believe in step since I'm raising them). We would always get comments like are they all yours? How come those three look so much different then the other two? Are they foster children? You have your own drill team or soccor team. The funny thing is is that people usually think that the girls I gave birth to are the foster kids...people are so dumb! I just tell them they are all ours and when the girls ask I tell them that it's no one's business. Now we get even more stares because we just took custody of my husband's brother who is a 6 foot tall 200 pound 14 year old boy. We are quite the mix!

Mindy - posted on 05/19/2010

Bobbi, God Bless You and your family. If I had been with my current husband, we probably would have had 6 children or more together. There are people who cannot have children and there are also people who do not want children and have abortions. It's too bad these two types of people cannot connect so everyone walks away happy and a child gets the chance to be born.