DoubleA - posted on 04/22/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
Me and my boyfriend have been together two years. We have a 6 month old. Lately we haven't been getting along because he refuses to talk about anything. And I've been complaining about his lack of affection towards me. He says it's not the time to talk. First it was while the baby was sleeping. Then it was not while she's sleeping. He is avoiding talking at all costs. I've been asking him to talk for the past five months now about some problems. Even asked him to go to counseling and he doesn't want to. I have a five year old daughter from a previous relationship. But he doesn't kiss me, say I love you, cuddle , hug me or anything. The last time he kissed me was the day the baby was born. I've explained to him that I need and want these things over and over. He still won't do them. He used to do them all the time and he was the one who said I love you first. And Friday's are usually our nights to spend time together.lately he's been making plans with his friends on Fridays. He ignores everything about me pretty much. We can go days without talking one word to each other and he is perfectly fine with it. He ignores all of my phone calls and never really texts me back about anything. We do live together. But when he's with me his phone is up his butt and it feels like the opposite when Im not around. I get upset and blow off the handle at times but lately I have just been keeping everything in and still the same effect. Nothing changes. There's times where I cry and he doesn't even want to comfort me or even ask what's wrong. I feel like he doesn't love me or want me anymore. He made a statement about all his pension money goes to the baby if he died. What about me and my other child? He has said things like that and about not wanting to marry me or have another kid with me or buy a house together. I feel totally horrible and have no one to turn to. He shows tons of affectionate to the baby. But I feel like he doesn't want me anymore. I don't know what to do or how to fix things. Any advice?