Taffany - posted on 11/30/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )
I have been a member of the church since 1999. I was baptized and then had something very tragic happen in my life. One of daughter died. I moved to Ohio in 2001 and I moved into one of the best wards I had ever been in. We felt welcome for the first time since my husband and I became members of the church. My husband is from Ghana, Africa. I had my son and we needed to move a bigger place. It put us in a new ward. The new ward I was to be in was now meeting in their own new bulding. I had seen how the people in that ward would look at my kids and my husband and I did not want to go. I was told my then RS president to give it a try it may be my time to shine and help theses sisters and brothers over come what they were going through to be better people. I did give it a try we had never felt more unwelcome then when we were in that ward I was talked about so were my kids our HT and VT never came and visited with us we were not included in ward activities my kids were never told when primary activities were get the picture. So when were were ready to get our own house and moved it put us yet in another ward.
I did not go to the new ward I felt like it was going to be the same as the old ward was. Then the RS president came to me and she was a convert and talked me into coming back to church. For a while we did. but then I got really sick and could no longer come. I had to have serveral surgerys and we since then and not being able to go to church I have been left out of a lot of things even though they no I am home bound at this point. I can not drive and husband is not active in the church at all as feels that they are way to judgmental. That is how I feel now. Several things have come back to me that people have said about me and about my kids who are all special needs in some type, friends that I had before are no longer my friends because I am not active any more. I do not want to raise my kids in a church that is very judgmental about looks and where some one is from or that are different then what they are. I feel if Heavenly Father wanted us all to be cookie cutter people he would have made us all the same. He did not and that was is so great about us we are all different. That means I can be my own individual person and be happy with it, but because I am not like them I seem to not be good enough for them.
I am really thinking about leaving the church my opinion on this is if the church was really interested in being there for me and my family, then they would be trying to do there best to come and talk to me however my VS teachers never come even when I was active and my HT come maybe once a year if I am lucky to be graced by their presence. Because I am not in the same income status as they are I am not good enough for them to come and see me but they are students just like I am I just do not have parents that bail me out like they do. Has anyone else gone through this or can someone help me with what I am feeling. I really do want to part of the church I love what the church teaches but I also teach my kids to be honest and be upfront with people and if the church is not that way why should I take my kids there to learn a value that I am not teaching them.