Corrie - posted on 02/20/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )
We have lived in our current ward for over three years. Due to a VERY unique work situation, we were unable to attend regularly our first year, but we have since. Also because of the work we do (we work at a boarding school that is located in the community) many "old timers" in the ward are not happy about us being here because they don't like the fact that our employer built a "reform" school in their neighborhood. Anyway, it has been so difficult for us to feel comfortable at church. When some people have found out who we are and what we do we have actually seen them move seats away from us in sacrament meeting or say things like "Oh, I see" and then turn away. We didn't even meet the bishop in person until we had lived here for two and a half years. We didn't have home teachers until this time either. They just barely started coming to our home to collect fast offerings three months ago. When my neighbor (who does the same thing we do) had a premature special needs baby, the Relief Society didn't even arrange for someone to bring her meals. I've had tried so hard to ignore the people who are not being Christ-like, because there are many who are very very nice. I also think that some of this is possibly due to unintentional oversights and such. I can't believe that we are intentionally being excluded. I have never experienced something like this before and it has been a particularly difficult struggle because we relocated our family for this job and we moved away from our family and a very loving community to this. I was really hoping that our ward could be a source of support for us and especially our children. But my kids didn't even get parts in the primary program the first two years we lived here. We have tried to be as active as possible in extracurricular church activities, but our long work hours preclude this most of the time. We try to be as outgoing as possible during Sunday meetings, but it is so intimidating. Does any one have any advice?