Getting frustrated

Josephine - posted on 03/21/2011

Hello Dear,
My name is Joesphine, i read about you in circleofmoms.com site and i decide to contact you hopeing that you will accept my request,if you accept my request ,please reply to my email address (joesphine.adama@yahoo.com) so that i will send you my photo and more about me, i believe we can make good friends,let distance not be a barrier but lets love connect,because love is a bridge connect far distance to be closer

Yours Lovely
Joesphine

Kristie - posted on 07/23/2009

I have 2 kids from a previous relationship with a man. I am now expecting a baby with my partner. It was irritating at first- the need to "prove" myself as a lesbian. Now, I just remind myself that my partner is the only person I'm concerned with, as far as opinions go. I know who I am, what I am, I didn't break out of the hetero hell to convince every other lesbian in the world that I'm gay. I'm happy just....being.

Chandra - posted on 07/17/2009

my wife has 4 and i have on we were both teens when we had our kids you are a real lesbian. your happy right...

Katherine - posted on 06/25/2009

It's simple, Your a woman, you have a right to marry, be happy and be a mom, you became a mother same way every straight couple did... Doesn't make you any less gay, just more determined to get what you want, which is your right as a human.

Stacey - posted on 04/08/2009

hey i had my daughter with a man too, couldn't afford any medical sollution, it's ok.

Rebecca - posted on 04/01/2009

Yes, my family, with the exception of one of my siblings, were/are all anti-gay uber-christians as well. I always knew I was, but tried REALLY hard to beat it away! The happiest failure of my life!

Danielle - posted on 04/01/2009

There are less "Gold star Lesbians" (Never slept with a man) than you think! If someone gives you a rash of shit and are rude about it then you shouldn't waste your time on them. And if you want to explain simply say that it took you a while to descover who you were. I was 25 before I relized that I am a lesbian..... I was raised in a family that being gay was wrong... So I never relized it was a reality for me until I met another lesbian.... LOL or should I say until I kissed a girl!

Jessica - posted on 03/31/2009

I understand to an extent.  I haven't had other lesbians give me grief.  Many of the lesbians in our town where with men at one point before they were able to be themsleves or find themselves so there are a few that have children with exboyfriends, exhusbands or exfiances (my case).  However, I constantly have straight people asking "How I do you have children if you're a lesbian?", or because they know I was with men in the past, "When did you decide to be with woman? - like it was a choice rather than a realization.

I wish I had other options than your two, but honestly, that's pretty much the two that I use when straight people ask their ignorant questions.  And just keep in mind, many lesbians have been with men in the past.  My mother was and she loved my father, there was just something that wasn't right (he was a man LOL).  And I loved a man, but again there was just something that wasn't right.  I figured out what I was missing could only be found in another woman.  And even though I sometimes do feel like others might not think I'm "lesbian enough" I know that I am who I am and what they think of me is nothing compared to what I think of myself!

Arie - posted on 03/25/2009

from my own partners mouth..."men is what i kno so when its over im gonna revert back". when does anybody get real in life. i have 2 kids (boy n girl) n she has 1 (boy) but because i was a confirmed bisexual that means im not allowed to write men off for good. i say do what it is you feel in ur heart and never mind what anybody else has to say cuz life is too short to spend time worrying bout people who aint worried bout you.

Kim - posted on 03/23/2009

Yes, many of us have been through this situation. I just tell people I've been divorced twice and then found a wife. Best move of my life!! They either laugh with me or leave. Those who leave...well, they are not the kind of people I want to waste my time with anyhow. Also remember, who you've crossed paths with in the past make you the great person you are today.



Be happy with who you are and who you are with (or happy alone). As long as you do this, you will be a great mom and what others say doesn't matter!

Rebecca - posted on 03/22/2009

It's helpful to know how many people have gone or are going through this. Thanks to all for your replies. :)

Claire - posted on 03/22/2009

I'm in the same situation,I have 2 children 1 aged 11 and 1 aged 9,been with my partner 4,5 years and still get quized.My life has nowt 2 do with anybody else I'm out and proud and just say 2 other people if the quiz me I tried 2 b "normal" but I couldn't do it,end of.I was also married but my partner no's all this and thats all that matters.If people can't except your past then tough on them.Good luck and keep smiling.xx

Kath - posted on 03/22/2009

YUP just tell them, being a lesbian and a mum means everything to you, you need a woman for the lesbian part of it, and a kind man for the mum part!

Angie - posted on 03/20/2009

girl you need to just be happy and who you are now... just be confident and a great mom.. forget the haters.. you know who you are....

Le - posted on 03/08/2009

yes,i too understand what you are saying. i have three kids by two different. but i do have the greatest lesbian couple, that support me in my opening of the eyes of who i really am. lol  i have tried to date some girls, when they find out i have been married. they stop talking to me etc,

 i have no intrest in men, but have been told it is just a faze i am going through. i was just to busy  being what my family. peers wanted me to be. and not who i really am. my friends and some of my family support me.  i have been out for a year or so.

                   Le