Karen - posted on 12/09/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )
Hi to All,,
My name is Karen and I am currently attempting to co-parent a 12 yo girl with Aspbergers and ADHD. I am in a fairly new relationship with a beautiful transwoman with a 12 yo child that she has half time custody of. We have been living together since June and I am having a very hard time with having a kid around in my living space and with how much time and attention she needs and deserves from my partner. I am feeling resentful when Meg is around because I and my partner seem to disapear and everything is about Meg. I am way not used to the dynamics of having a child. I must admit that I have never wanted a kid.....if a kid or a dog walked by the dog gets my attention hands down over the kid every time!!! I get that being a parent is a top priority for my partner intellectually, but living in the reality of it all of a sudden is getting very hard for me. I really love my partner, and want to work at being a parent of sorts. I am not really sure what I need to do to help this situation get better for us all. Thanks for listening!!