How often do you and your partner have sex?

Guy - posted on 03/11/2013

Our youngest is 6 and everything was great until I was diagnosed with MS. Since 2008, there has been a steady decline. You would think its because of my MS, but NO. She is either not feeling well or too tired or not in the mood. Admittedly I would want to 3, 4, 5 times a day but now I'm lucky if she's willing to once a month.

Princessambily - posted on 11/29/2012

we used to have sex 3 times a week but now it once a month and it driving me crazy

Lisa - posted on 11/24/2012

7-8 times a week

Constance - posted on 11/07/2012

I have been with my husband 18 yrs and we have 7 children. We still have sex several times a day. I really do love my sex life.

Courtney - posted on 06/29/2012

My name is Courtney and I have been with my partner for about 4 years. We have a toddler together and a pretty steady sex drive. Lately he does want it alot more than me and I find myself getting "bored" with it? Almost like its just not as exciting as it was the night before. I don't want it to be a routine either!! But I love him and yes I def enjoy it. I'm assuming its normal?

Ellie Richardson - posted on 04/20/2012

I have sex 2 times a week

Kitty - posted on 04/09/2012

Well it is less then 4 x amonth I just dont feel like it anymore i dont understand my Sex Drive is dead almost and I dont want my marriage to Suffer...:(

Jennifer - posted on 03/27/2012

I would never have sex again if I could help it. My husband wants it all the time. He is never around (except when I have just gone to bed, how convenient), doesnt help me and pretty much disgusts me.I dont want him to touch me. He would try to have sex with me if I was on my death bed. Hmmm maybe I have other problems.

Veena - posted on 12/06/2011

Very rarely. I am expecting and have never been so horny. Have not had it in two months.

Kitty - posted on 10/03/2011

haveing my tubes tied is what i think changed me! well didnt end up being that sexual after wards.... so now after months of not giveing i'm takeing somthin to help me be more '' in the mood'' it is helping i think! just started so we will see how it goes...

Kitty - posted on 10/01/2011

we been outta touch for nearly a year and we do it once a week some times not for weeks on end ! but 2x a week i think is enough it does burn ya out!

Tabitha - posted on 09/04/2011

Used to be every day or multiple times a day, but now we're at around 4-6 times a week, usually once per day.

Amanda - posted on 07/12/2011

What is important is not how often you have sex, but whether both of you have the amount of sex you need/desire. If both of you want to have sex every day that’s fine. If both want sex once a month, that too is fine. Where problems arise is when there is a big difference in the sex drive of the couple. If one wants it daily and the other once a month, there will be problems.

Kitty - posted on 07/02/2011

sorry we just find our selfs tierd and I know i sure do

Marie - posted on 07/01/2011

We've been married 26 years in Aug. And we've grown in this area as well. Sex is GREAT!!

Alexandria - posted on 06/08/2011

My husband is away for 10 days at a time so when he is away we dont have sex lol, but definately make up for it on the 4 days he is home - normally at least twice a day!! However i am pregnant and sometimes i just dont feel like having sex, but he always changes my mind! He understand and is really good. Sometimes i go to bed early and then he just wakes me up!! Dont worry everyone .... everyone is different and there is no normal!! Just do what works for you and your partner!!

Alisha - posted on 06/08/2011

about 9 months ago I started dating/living with an old friend. I have two children of my own and he has 3. I became a sahm. In the beginning we had sex at least 3 times a day. Now, he complains "i never get it". lol I'm just soooo worn out all the time with five kids and a house to take care of. what do i do?

Christina - posted on 05/24/2011

Used to be once a month, now it's been almost 5 months :-(

Heather - posted on 04/27/2011

We try to at least 5 times a week. Sometimes we make it to 7, sometimes we only hit 3. It all depends on what's going on. But we average about 5. :)

Keiana - posted on 04/27/2011

My hubby is leaving for Afghanistan in 3 months and I'm trying to get all I can get before he leaves (lol)! But, before we found out about him being deployed we were having sex every day so it's pretty much stayed the same or increased a bit.

April - posted on 04/13/2011

Often enough LOL he can't keep his hands off me ;) haha

Stephanie - posted on 03/29/2011

I am blessed to have the best partner (in fact he was my first) we both were married before finding our way back to one another after 20 years.. SEX is the best I have ever experienced with anyone. and that goes hand in hand with love , friendship and respect ..Hot hot hot....

Stephanie - posted on 03/29/2011

ahhhh men what ya gonna do one thing i do know is that nobody wants to be rejected and nobody wants to feel nagged into doing what they dont feel like doing male or female..

Lindsey - posted on 01/13/2011

before i got preggo we had sex just about everyday, any and everywhere but then i got pregnant and he got kind of scared because he thought he would hurt the baby which i kept telling him otherwise. but then he kind of loosened up and we still had sex on the regular. after K'lynn was born i kind of lost my sex drive, i was always tired because having a newborn is kind of hectic especially for new moms but then she got a bit older and we are back at our sex life as we were before i got pregnant. AND THERE IS NEVER TOO MUCH SEX!!!!!

Samantha - posted on 11/19/2010

I have an 11 week old son and I guess you could say I'm a very sexual person. I could have sex everyday no matter how tired I am. My fiance on the other hand wont . We have sex on average 2 to 3 times a week but it seems like it's always about him and I never get to "finish" so I'm assuming that's why I always want it. I'm getting to the point now though that I don't even want it cause I'm just going to get mad about it and ruin the night. I try to talk to him but he thinks I'm just trying to put him down. I really hate men sometimes

Nikkole - posted on 11/02/2010

I have been with my husband for 8yrs total and married for 4yrs adn we have 2 babies My son is almost 3 and my daughter is 4months and we have sex at least 3-5 times a week!

Kitty - posted on 09/30/2010

NOOO shouldnt be boreing! just dont make it a chore lol

Amanda - posted on 09/24/2010

I am a lucky girl...My bf and I match each other perfectly with our sex drives...We both always want it and we have a good mix of passion, adventure, and confidence in the bedroom. And we are both giving to one another. We have sex multiple times a day if we can, and if not at least once a day. =)

Lindsay - posted on 09/21/2010

My hubby and I have been married for 12 years now, and as of today, I am going on 5 weeks since we've had sex. It's really frustrating because it's only when he wants it that we do have it. When we first got together, it was more frequent, of course, but in the last 4/5 years, it is maybe once a month, twice if I'm lucky. When I mention it, he says sex isn't that important. I know it isn't everything, but it is an integral part of a marriage. We have 2 kids, he works swing shifts, but he is home every weekend and it isn't like we have to get up early or anything most Sat/Sun mornings. I have tried everything I can think of. He likes long hair and mine was really, really short for a while. So, for the past 2 years almost I have been letting it grow. I wear clothes that I think he likes or has complimented me on in the (distant) past, etc. Other men have noticed the changes I've made, but he flat-out told me that he hasn't noticed. Not sure what else to do. I have also tried ignoring him, putting him first and everything in between. I have also tried inticing him in ways that most normal heterosexual men would have jumped at in a heart beat...

Kitty - posted on 08/31/2010

my sex life changed ALOT after my son was born took my body time to heal from my Csection but then i felt weird after i came home b/c i got my Tubes Tied!!!! soooo YES IT did change for me big time i dont want it as much and I do feel bad for my hubby since he isnt getting it as much as he wants to so now it just when ever and sometimes i need to just do it and get over with...:) and sometimes i can enjoy and sometimes i dont!!! just depends!!!!

Kitty - posted on 08/31/2010

I think we need to have it more... 1 week is ok it used to be 4x a week

Marjorie - posted on 07/08/2010

5 children and still going on strong :)

Heather - posted on 06/13/2010

my son will be 10 months on tuesday! me and my boyfriend have sex once a week if that! I am to the point where i dont even what it cause its all about him...its sex the same way everytime and getting really boring!!!LOL

Andrea - posted on 05/20/2010

My husbands excuse is that he just isn't in the mood. When he says that i hear that he doesn't want me. i have to beg for sex. when i was pregnant with my kids, i would have to push him off me cause he wanted it ALL the time and i was tired. now its the opposite. Its so hard. I'm a nympho!

Shana - posted on 05/12/2010

My daughter is 13 months old, and only these past few months, have I been interested in sex again. Everyone is different though.

Katie - posted on 04/12/2010

does anyone have the problem of Daddy "being too tired?" when i was pregnant i was sick the whole time and wanted nothing to do with sex. i pushed him away all the time! now... 10 months after our son arrived... no sex at all. atfirst we made sure we were intamate woth eachother but now... he tired, not in the mood, memphis is sleeping, we have other things to do...ect. he's pushing ME away. you can guess what kind of toll this takes on my self esteem. he's a wonderful guy in everyother way and when we do have it... it's amazing! he even is talking about marriage in our near future. but i cant say yes without knowing why i dont seem to do it for him anymore. i dont want to trap hiim into a sexless marraige (or me either) but i love him... advice?

Jessica - posted on 03/08/2010

My son turned 10 months yesterday, but if anything, mine and my fiance's sex life has only gotten better. Things are a lot hotter now than they were before. We were already having sex 5-6 times a week before the baby was born, but now it's 1-2 times a day, every day.

Kassie - posted on 02/28/2010

We have 2 kids, have been together for 9 yrs & married 5 & we've been on a roller coaster ever since kids.. Not enough right now, but I know it'll improve with time all things do. Keep your head up & I'll keep mine up!

Mindi - posted on 02/16/2010

i have an almost four month old son and we are getting back to sex like it was before we had him. he's finally sleeping through the night so we have sex about three times a week. i know what you mean about being pregnant and not having sex. when are son started moving around my bf would not have sex with me because he feared hurting him. i kept telling him it won't hurt him and the doctor says it's ok but he was afraid.

Jacklyn - posted on 02/10/2010

ugh never..he's deployed!!

Magda - posted on 11/10/2009

we do better some weeks than others but we do pretty good. the trick is waiting till all 3 kids are asleep in order to minimize interruptions

Heidi - posted on 10/26/2009

Well for me and my husband we are sure to have sex at least 4 times a week, sometimes more but never less. Our sex life is great and we both have a very high sex drive. I guess I am one of the lucky ones. I have talked to so many women on here(not on this forum as I am new) but other forums and they aren't getting any or very little. I guess I am thankful. My husband works shift work so its not always at bed time per say. Sometimes its when he gets home from work at 1am, or just before he leaves for work at 11:30pm and when he is on days then its at a normal time of night. On weekends we like to sneak in a quicky early in the morning when the kids are sitll sleeping. So for us its all good. we just always make sure we have our time even when we are tired, because for some people if they let so much time go by, then it gets forgotten and thats not so good.

Alishia - posted on 10/19/2009

Me and my huband are still young, though I'm a few years younger than him, with 3 kids between us. One biologically mine and 2 his who all live with us. Sex used to be great and intimate and all, but for months now, it's like he just gets what he wants and he's good for a few weeks. I try everything to turn his head and to make him notice me, but NOTHING works... He won't kiss on me or anything like he used to... Is there anything I can do to spice things up? Like I said I have tried everything, and the down fall is, he isn't as open to stuff as I am, he goes striaght to the point, gets what he wants, and he's done...

Olivia - posted on 09/17/2009

My son is 18 months old and ever sense i became pregnant with him our sex life has become almost no existent! It causes arguments for my husband and i because he is a very sexual person and would do it all day long if he could!!! I have tried to regain my sex drive but i dont know how to do it--- im not sure what is causing me to not want sex sense before i became pregnant i was a very sexualy person and enjoyed trying new kinky things or doing it in random places but now i could care less if we had sex or not! I miss my wild side and i know my husband does--- this has become a big issue in our relationship and has cause things to be very edgy between us! SOmebody please help??

Melody - posted on 08/24/2009

My husband is away during the week and home on Thursday evening until Sunday evening.We have sex 5 times during the weekend.My trick is that I pray Lord let my husband always want me and love me.God is able above and beyond what we can imagine.We have had times were sex was not as often.Try to find time to just be together, watch a movie and cuddle,go out to eat,write love letters and put in his lunch box. It will get better,nothing stays the same.Take care of you,when you feel better, you will get back in the groove.

Caron - posted on 08/13/2009

That how my fiance is. He afraid he will hurt the baby unless we are in a certain position. No matter how many times I tell him that he is not hurting the baby. But now that i'm starting to dialate we have decided to not have sex but we are fine with snuggling right now.

Arifah A - posted on 08/13/2009

too much sex? helllllllllllllllll no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol. as for trying to have sex while pregnant, i think we as women don't understand the fear our husbands have of hurting the baby, or cause anything bad to happen. Theres more than one type of sex... explore!!!!!!

Donna - posted on 08/13/2009

this is a strange question but is there such thing as too much sex

Arifah A - posted on 08/11/2009

Hi amy, since your baby is only 7 months old chances are both of you are still barely getting any sleep, add to the mix if he's also working a 9-5 it can be stressful, why don't you try talking to him about, and sometimes even just cuddling together makes you feel that intamicy thats achieved during sex, although not as excited it'll probably put your worries to ease

Caron - posted on 08/07/2009

My fiance and I don't really have a sex life anymore and we are still pregnant. Any help on how to spice up our sex life before the baby comes????