Moms to Tots ages 2-3...how is your sex life?

Jen - posted on 04/04/2012

eh its normal for you to be irritated actually. She needs to make effort, so i would sit her down and explain sex needs to be more frequent then 1 day a week.

Fblack - posted on 04/04/2012

On the being tired front: The first thing I would do is change her nap schedule to that she's more tired at night. Get her good & worn out during the day. My first was a big napper, and not surprisingly horrible nighttime sleeper.



I used to race bicycles, which meant waking up really early for really long rides (several hours), so I was often the one that was too tired and just wanted to sleep instead of have sex...



What I would do, if I knew my wife was wanting to have sex that night, was try to take a quick cat-nap when my son was asleep, and then have an afternoon coffee. A strong one.

Fblack - posted on 04/04/2012

Thanks Jen. I am trying the "180 change" in my attitude first... If that doesn't work, we'll have to have a really big talk I guess.

Jen - posted on 04/04/2012

I think she needs to seek a doctor about hormone levels because chances are hers have dropped. The issue is she needs to realize that sex is a big part of the relationship and do her part to fix things. To often mothers get wrapped around the baby and forget about sex, and can't understand why its a big deal when its no longer to them.

Fblack - posted on 04/04/2012

I'm new here... Is that a reply to me? Here's what I posted in the poll thread:



When my wife got pregnant with our 2nd (hopefully last), we went for over a year without sex. I think it was about 15 months.



We're both 40, but I'm in the best shape of my life and still feel the urge daily... My wife not so much. I don't expect it daily, but would be thrilled to get it twice a week.



We have it "scheduled" for Saturday night, and that's it. If something comes up and we miss that chance, then too bad (and we always miss at least one saturday per month due to her cycle). As a result, we average sex 2 or 3 times per month. But it's not uncommon to go 3 weeks without.



And that's after having some long talks about me being upset with our lack of intimacy.



I think I do my fair share of housework, and I work from home so I take care of the kids before & after school (part-time daycare for our youngest). I've told my wife to let me know when she needs away time during the evening or weekends and I can watch them then too.



I recently read a book and realized that this rejection is causing me to be angry/hurt/resentful... So I'm trying to change my attitude in the hope that the passion will come back.

Jen - posted on 04/04/2012

are you just not in the mood or is it him?

Fblack - posted on 04/04/2012

I just posted about this on the other thread...



My youngest is 18 months. We have sex 2 or 3 times per month.



We used to be pretty in-tune with each other before kids.. not sure how often but it was never an issue.



It's driving a wedge between us now.

Jen - posted on 02/28/2012

Well i'm single so my sex is mostly with myself, does that count? If so, it's healthy! =D

Iris - posted on 12/25/2011

hmmm did not have this problem with any of my girls, but my husband always helped out 50% , maybe more with each of our girls... he still does to this day so I never felt tired like that ):

Kitty - posted on 10/03/2011

being fatigued can do this!!! i dontknow i went thru all this im just generaly tierd and stressed that plays a big roll to

Candace - posted on 05/24/2011

My daughter is two and a half and is a night owl which gives us absolutely no time together so i guess you can say there isnt as much as when we first got together

Cherish - posted on 05/07/2011

I have two 3 year olds and a 5 year old. Our sex life is great. We have sex almost every night, whether or not we want to cause "if you don't feed the dog, the dog will hunt" LOL! He usually wants it more than I do, but to know he wants me that much, is a turn on!

April - posted on 04/13/2011

I have a two year old and an 8 month old. Our sex life is great, we match each others sex drive. I get tired sometimes but not often. I'm glad we're still very much active after 4 years :)

Mary1959 - posted on 04/11/2011

sound like me and my hubby
our 2 are b8g9
we will try to not make any noise
but so hard
we some time go to bed room, while they watch tv

Leah - posted on 11/23/2010

My husband and I would have a wonderful sex life if it wasn't soooo much work for him. I swear I am broken!!!

Serena - posted on 09/12/2010

I have a 5 month, 14 month (yes nine months apart due to this exact topic LOL) and a 4 yr old. We usually wait until our oldest is asleep or we have had to start locking the door. Luckily our house is on the larger side and their rooms are on the other side of the house.

Kitty - posted on 09/10/2010

and that is normal for me to my kids are OLDER like 15 and 6 so things are better but for me just daily life is getting me not in the mood from time to time

Valerie - posted on 09/09/2010

I have a 3 yr old and a 8 month old, and I have never had problem with being too tired to have sex. To be honest with you the sex has gotten more exciting and more frequent now that we have kids. But I do admit there has been times when I am too tired and don't want to be touched or bothered. That's life of being a mother.

Kitty - posted on 08/31/2010

yum but it is tough and sometimes u just gotta fit it in

Chloë - posted on 05/07/2010

i have too boys one who is 3 year's and my other son is 4 months old we have sex atleast three times a week our boys have there own room luck our boys like to sleep

Emma - posted on 04/20/2010

We have a 2 and a 3 year old,
I swear our kids have sex radar, the second the thought pops in to our heads they do tag team sleeping one will wake up you get her to sleep then the other will wake up ect ect
But this never happens if we just want to sleep lol

Michelle - posted on 02/25/2010

i have a 5, 3, and 8 month old... we still have sex every night if not every other night. i think we keep it going because it really turns us both on when we have to be quite cuz the lil ones are on the other side of the wall and we dont want them to hear us. makes us think we're being sneaky haha.

Mimi - posted on 09/16/2009

i have a 3 year old and i'm 7 months pregnant and my sex life is great! my son is in his own bed so that's not a problem. and even tho i feel like a cow because i'm pregnant, my husband still finds me sexy and attractive which helps ;)

Ashley - posted on 08/25/2009

I have a 5 year old and my youngest is almost 2. Me and my husband have a great sex life. After having the boys my sex appeal has actually increased. My two boys stay in their rooms and play, and they sleep in their own beds. So me and my husband spend that time with each other.

Tara - posted on 08/21/2009

My little girl is almost two and I found that I just in the last few months have even had ANY interest in sex at all and now I can feel my hormones leveling out and I'm startng to get interested again so about twice a week does it for me! lol

Brittney - posted on 07/30/2009

I have a 3yr old daughter and its hard because she still sleeps with us. plus we have like 4 other ppl living in our household with us. so its hard to actually find the time to do anything. We can go weeks without it but then once that happens we might go days with it lol

Amy - posted on 07/29/2009

i have a 4 year old and a 7 month old and im really suffering we just don't do it any more and worried he will find some one else but i don't want to push myself im a bit stuck lol xx