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New mom, No sex life help?!?!

Terri - posted on 10/09/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My beautiful daughter is 14 months old well since we have had her we might have sex once a month!! We are young and should have havin sex everyday.....I mean before the baby we were having it anytime that we could anywhere we could....now most of the time we fight about sex more than we have it!! I am to blame for the most part...after takin care of the baby and workin I feel like sex is a chore anymore......its like I HAVE to do it not want to do it............I dont really have anyone to talk to and I DONT wanna talk to my mother about this........so if anyone out there could give some advice or any suggestions on how to get our well MY flame lit again please I need help

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Allison - posted on 03/05/2010

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This is perfectly normal. Parents of young children have sex less than they did when they were just starting there relationship. It's no wonder you don't feel like having sex, you're probably exhausted and stressed. It will get better as your child gets older. Don't blame yourself, you are not obligated to have sex and having sex when you don't really feel like it, (I don't know about you, but I kind of get some resentment going on when I feel like I have to and I do but I don't really want to) If you have a family member that will babysit for the night or even a few hours, buy some lingerie, do something that makes you feel sexy, go out to dinner or watch a movie, relax and enjoy some time alone together and time alone together helps a lot.

Laura - posted on 11/21/2009

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hey terri aww i know EXACTLY how u feel! im in the same boot with u !!:)
we used to do it soo much b4 we had our babygirl but now i feel tired and just cant get into the mood sometimes! sometimes is cuz it hurts me down there cuz im breastfeeding so its very sensitive diwn there! so what i did i threw a peper party with my girls....got up to date with soem stuff to spice up ur sexlife!! its so much fun with ur girls having a girls night plus the stuff u buy ..ur husband goin to love it! and ull too!:) now we doing better!:) so u get ur fun too! cuz trust me ur hubs goin to feel if u want to have sex or just please im! and hell like it waay more if u have fun too!

Terri - posted on 10/13/2009

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Thank you I will give it a try lol I know that he will enjoy it!!

Carey - posted on 10/13/2009

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This is probably not what you want to hear..... It's better to give than to receive........ Maybe try pleasing him more often, it will feel like a chore, but usually guys like to give back, so eventually he'll take his time with you. Maybe it will help?

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