Communities

life after miscarriage/ectopic

All Communities > life after miscarriage/ectopic > my baby's body after miscarriage and intervention.

my baby's body after miscarriage and intervention.

Lyndal - posted on 05/28/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

130

19

I have just had a miscarriage at 10 weeks. I bled a lot for 3 weeks or more with my baby still growing well. Then after excruciating pain I ended up in Emergency on morphine. From there I thought I lost my baby but then found out he had just died. I then had medication to try and push my baby out. That didn't work fully so I had a D&C and then became severely anaemic so had to have blood tranfusions. I had been losing clots the size of two fists twice a day for almost a week so it was no surprise I became anaemic. I ended up being in and out of hospital for two weeks.
What I find the most difficult to deal with is that I saw my dead baby on the ultrasound screen looking so peaceful but then all the intervention afterwards for him to come out of me broke him into pieces. I know this because it was an incomplete miscarriage, I have a bicorneate uterus, and on the two days between hospital stays for the mesaprosil and the operation whenever I went to the toilet and wiped myself I saw pieces of him on the toilet paper. I had no chocie but to flush him away.
Sorry for the details but I want to know if anyone else has experienced this and how they dealt with it.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms

2 Comments

View replies by

Veronica - posted on 10/30/2012

41

14

Lyndal, I lost my third angel on July 27th at almost 9 weeks. She came out naturally at home (while I took a shower), and in one piece. I don't know which I would have preferred- seeing her tiny perfection fall apart on the porcelain of the shower floor, or never having seen her at all. It all happened so fast- I only knew for a week and a half that I was pregnant, and I was so hopeful. At least you were able to see your little one on an ultrasound. I didn't have my doctor's appointment set until 2 days after I had already lost her.

Louise - posted on 05/28/2012

5,429

69

I had three missed miscarriages and each time I chose to have the abortion pills so I could have a forced miscarriage at home rather than in hospital. Obviously I was not as far along as you but I still saw the baby come away. It was not plesant and agony at the time. The last misscarriage was triplets and I lost 2 out of three this way but the third stayed behind. Unknowingly to me I carried that one around with me for a year before I found out it was still there. Like you I lost large clots and a massive amount of blood. When I went into hospital to have a D&C my consultant thought it may be a polyp but when it was analysed it was one of the triplets. It was like opening up all the old emotions all over again.

All I can say is you cant think of it as a baby because it will just chew you up. I told myself that it was not ment to be and that there was something wrong. It turned out there was something wrong I had antiphospholipidus which was a blood disorder only found in women when pregnant. The simple treatment was an aspirin each day now I have a 3.5 year old daughter and the pain of all the other misscarriages has gone away and I can now move on with my life. I hope you find peace soon, and the courage to try again one day.

Want to find out the opinions of this community?

Add Poll