Middle School issues

Emma - posted on 09/19/2009

Just to update what I said before.....Caleb was finally offered an extra morning at school, which I thought was fantastic as I have had no time this year to work on my own studies so only doing home schooling with Caleb two mornings sounded great!! Unfortunatley he hasn't been very successful with his extra time and been getting suspended again, I am now a full term behind all the other diploma students in my group, he's been playing up at work aswell which makes it soooooo hard - other kids are starting to be mean to him, or exclude him even when he's being good - I understand that they may be afraid he might blow up or ruin the game, but at the same time it hurts me as much as it hurts him when he's left out like this. It also gives him the message that it doesn't matter how hard you try, you're not going to get anywhere :(

I enrolled in an online course from some American therapist, I cant remember his name right now but if you google My Out Of Control Child you'll find it!!! It is teaching how to change my parenting ways, over a four week course.....so far I've onyl been into the first weeks lot of 'assignments' as I still have so much tafe to catch up on, but all it's told me is what I've heard or tried before, or things I am already doing. I'm going to keep going though, maybe there are a few miracle steps in the next weeks that put together with the ones I'm already doing will begin to work wonders!!!!! lol, wishful thinking perhaps!!

I am taking Caleb to a peadiatrician on monday. When he got suspended from school the last time I was so upset I crashed the car on the way home, we were both unhurt, and it was only our car involved so no big worry.....anyway I went to our GP in tears and begged for help so he's now referred us on.........I still feel the same way about medication....I don't want my beautiful, happy, funny, imaginative little boy to turn into a zombie, but I also dont know how much more I can take. Thank you all so much for being here, it is such a help xxxx

Emma - posted on 06/05/2009

Quoting Tabitha:

Just an update. I spoke to the Parent/Community Liason at the School Board. I was told that I need to have a meeting with the new Principal, counselor, my daughter's case manager and her therapist at the new school to set up a behavior plan at the start of the year. I tried that at the old school and got absolutely no where. I am hoping not to run into the same problems here. I will keep everyone updated as things change. Be they good or bad. Hopefully good.

That could be very good!! I know every year when I've been asked to meet with the new councillors and guidance officers I've turned up half heartedly thinking 'here we go again' another bunch of new experts with no answers, but this year they finally have people that are making a difference! This could be the school of your dreams so go in there happy and excited about the new start and maybe if you tell them something along those lines they may think that they 'have' to do something great for you all (not because it's their job of course, but because you need to be impressed!!). And if you don't notice anything being done in the first two weeks go right back in there and complain because if we don't remind them of our children they very easily forget. Good luck :)

Emma - posted on 06/05/2009

Quoting Tabitha:

Just an update. I spoke to the Parent/Community Liason at the School Board. I was told that I need to have a meeting with the new Principal, counselor, my daughter's case manager and her therapist at the new school to set up a behavior plan at the start of the year. I tried that at the old school and got absolutely no where. I am hoping not to run into the same problems here. I will keep everyone updated as things change. Be they good or bad. Hopefully good.

That could be very good!! I know every year when I've been asked to meet with the new councillors and guidance officers I've turned up half heartedly thinking 'here we go again' another bunch of new experts with no answers, but this year they finally have people that are making a difference! This could be the school of your dreams so go in there happy and excited about the new start and maybe if you tell them something along those lines they may think that they 'have' to do something great for you all (not because it's their job of course, but because you need to be impressed!!). And if you don't notice anything being done in the first two weeks go right back in there and complain because if we don't remind them of our children they very easily forget. Good luck :)

Tabitha - posted on 05/19/2009

Just an update. I spoke to the Parent/Community Liason at the School Board. I was told that I need to have a meeting with the new Principal, counselor, my daughter's case manager and her therapist at the new school to set up a behavior plan at the start of the year. I tried that at the old school and got absolutely no where. I am hoping not to run into the same problems here. I will keep everyone updated as things change. Be they good or bad. Hopefully good.

Emma - posted on 05/17/2009

Language excused (it's nothing compared to what would be going through my head!!!) It's exactly how I felt last year when I was told Caleb would only be allowed to go to school two mornings a week, and it's how I feel when my daughter (in grade one) comes home at least once a week telling me that a boy (the same boy each time) in her class has 'gone mental'. This child trashes the classroom to the point that all the children are sent outside so that they are not injured by flying chairs, books or anything else he decides to throw and it takes at least two teachers to go in and stop him. Is he put on a part time enrollment plan like Caleb?????NO!!!!! It really makes me angry, I have an 'inside friend' or two at the school who also tell me stories about other children doing similar things who get a couple of days suspension each time.....and thats it. I though Caleb having a diagnosis was supposed to HELP, supposed to give people more understanding of how to deal with/treat him and yet it seems to have just given them an excuse to get rid of him for as long as they can. We're supposed to have a meeting every six weeks to discuss any changes in his behaviour and reassess the time spent at school, for the first year this was done (there were no changes in his behaviou) this year he has improved and seems to have only had minor instances when someone else has provoked him, he even got a certificate for working hard last week, but do you think I've been invited to a meeting and do you think Caleb has been offered more time at school because of his improvement.....NO!!!!!!

Shannon - posted on 05/17/2009

welcome to the world of odd. my daughter has been in 6 different schools. she is and was very violent or was defending herself. she is now 16 with a one month old baby and liveing 12 hours away from me. I have always had problems with my daughter more so than the boys. I love my daughter but she has caused more problems in the home than i can say. she gets so mad and vengeful that we all pay when things do not go her way. I have had only one school that dealt with my daughter the way she should of been and they new why she was there all the rest were awful and wanted to get rid of her as fast as they could and they were schools set up for children like her. It is frustrating so i wish u the best of luck inthe future the school systems are not like they used to be. the teachers are only there for a pay check it seems. Even if it is for specilal needs kids. u are not alone.