If the father is not Latino, is the baby?

Sabrina - posted on 02/05/2009 ( 72 moms have responded )

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My husband is white(of Polish decent) and I'm Mexican/Puerto Rican. When I fill out forms can I put that my son is Hispanic/ Latino? I heard that the race of the child is decided by the father. I know that he's latino, but he's white too.

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Melanie - posted on 02/10/2009

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I am white and my husband is Mexican.  Our children are both white and latino/mexican.  When I have to fill out any forms I check all that apply. Our children will be taught both heritages and we don't claim one being better over the other.  I have never heard that the father determines the race.  The baby is both of yours and has both of your races which is why they have the term "mixed".  The baby is a mix of you both.  by the way..your baby is so adorable! We have twins and one twin is darker than the other and we joke around that Lili is the Mexican and Liz is the Gringa... LOL...

Lucy - posted on 07/29/2009

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I never realized how many people were in my same situation until I read all these responses. My daughters' father is white (irish decent) and I am hispanic (mexican). We discussed this before our 1st daughter was born and jokingly said she would be our little "whitexican". however now it seems so much more complicated than that. Everywhere you turn, someone is asking you to define yourself. As far as I am concerned, we are all Americans since we were all born in this country. I wish all forms had the option for multi racial but I think I have only seen the option once. It's up to you. I usually check caucasian and then answer yes if they are hispanic. They can figure it out!

Gladys - posted on 02/07/2009

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I'm puerto rican and my kids are half polish. When I have to check of my kids ethnicity I always check of white with hispanic. Hey you gotta see it for what it is they are half of each. You can't disreguard one for the other. But to be perfectly honest I feel I gave birth to them so they will be recognized as latin but I don't exclude that they are white also. Hope that helps.

Ana - posted on 02/06/2009

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We define ourselves. Your child is just as much latino as he/she is Polish. One parent's genes doesn't overpower the other's. So you make the decision what sense of self definition you want to instill on you child. My sister in law has no connection to her Puerto Rican side, where as my husband totally does. It's a personal choice.



In any case, you can usually check more than one box in most forms. Or you can always just put "other"

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Latino/Hispanic is not race it is ethnicity. I think that government has no business classifying we Homosapiens (humans). Leave it to science :)

Roxana - posted on 11/12/2009

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You put other if you want. America has established a box for us to fit into and that is not okay. You will raise your child in whatever culture you select to and he does not have to be boxed into one or a combination of one because the reality is that he is a wonderful blend of many. You can not be forced to select a specific race selection on a paper or form. Just put other and have them figure it out and you are not forcing your child to have to pick one. Best of luck!

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Susan - posted on 11/04/2009

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I am Puerto Rican and Dominican and my kids father is African American so when i fill paperwork out i put Hispanic and Black.I feel like I'm a part of my children as much as they are so why should i hide their other side.

Brandy - posted on 11/02/2009

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My babies are Chicanos, so I always put of Hispanic Ethnicity and White race... that way BOTh are known.

Monica - posted on 10/29/2009

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ok, I think the kid is more from the side he born, for example if he was born in USA , then he is american, and is up to you to teach him the hispanic culture since the enviroment where he is, is all in english, so if your hubby speak another lenguage, you guys can try to teach him that other language and for the mother side spanish. If the kid was born in mexico, then he is mexican with polish decent, so he have to learn spanish for nature and if the father have polish lenguage then teach the kid that lenguage and their culture, sharing the hispanic also. :) good look with that.

Kristy - posted on 10/04/2009

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I am puerto rican and my husband is white and when my son was born they automatically had him down as a hispanic baby in the hospital... I didnt even get to choose what he was lol my husband was like how did that happen how come he is labeled as hispanic he is both white and hispanic what happened i guess they just went by what the mother is in that hospital but when i fill out forms i check other.

Ana - posted on 10/01/2009

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I always have put Hispanic/Latino and White for my 3 children. I am Colombian and my husband is Caucasian(French/Irish descent); I was always told it goes by mother's race and even if that is not the case I would still say that my kids are Hispanic :) They are being raised to know both English and Spanish and our family cultures and traditions. Hope this helps.

Cindy - posted on 09/05/2009

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my husband is american and I'm costarican, I'm check like american beacuse they are born here and american father but my daughter is almost 5 and she already knows that she is A GRINGA-TICA lol and she loves it. she already loves my country and her spanish language.

But when my son was born, in the hospital checked my son like hispanic and I ask "why?" and the nurse told me that they use the mother race, so I'm not sure.

Iysha - posted on 09/03/2009

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My baby's daddy is Norwegian/Italian....I'm Mexican. My baby is classified as White and Hispanic according to her father. I was surprised... I was going to have her paperwork say she was white.

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I'm in the same situation and I wouldn't have it any other way. As far as I'm concerned, my child has the best of both cultures. When it comes to filling out forms, I do put Hispanic. It was a decision that my husband and I made when I was pregnant.

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I agree with alot of the moms. My oldest child is Spanish/Puerto Rican by me, and African American/Mexican by dad. She is 16 and always shown her that she is both and now that she is older and looking for work she has always stated that she would mark all boxes applied to, or other. I wouldn't want her to choose between the two and I wouldn't want anyone to make her choose either. My youngest is Polish/German and although her father doesn't like her spanish, i have raised her that she is both not just one over the other.

Marilyn - posted on 08/02/2009

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He is equally caucasian and equally hispanic. But it the baby has more Hispanic features than caucasian, it would probably be easier for him to check "hispanic" when he fills out forms.

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I always mark that my daughter is white and Hispanic/Latino. I think you can mark as many as needed.

Cassandra - posted on 07/28/2009

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I am a Latina, but my son's father is of African-American descent. I put down that he is Latino but at no time do I ever deny him of his other half. I guess as he gets older I will allow to put both if that's what he wants. One thing that is for sure, your baby is just as much one as he is the other.

Sasha - posted on 07/26/2009

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If mom is latina, and she was raised in a latino culture, then that's what you're gonna instill in your child. I don't believe the father is what determines one's race. There are certain races who's genes are more dominant. But that would only determine the color of your skin. I believe you are whatever you are raised to be. I am American born to both Cuban parents (both who have white skin). My first language was Spanish, and probably the first solid food I had was black beans and rice. I speak better Spanish than many latinos living in the US, and know more about my culture than some born in their native lands. I also speak perfect English and surprise people when I start speaking Spanish. I am 100% latina, married to a 100% white American, expecting a baby boy in October. I will raise my son the only way I know how, which is how I was raised. He'll have a set of Cuban grandparents and a set of American grandparents. Just because I am American born doesn't mean my Cuban background is null. He will be raised 50-50. For those of you who have more than 2 ethnicity's, let them all be known. Now, I don't think that you should just mark the latino box, just to get benefits. I hope nobody is raising their child to embrace a culture/race just for the benefits they might get. ..

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That's a great question. I am Chilean and the father is Canadian/Metis. I think the greatest problem that my kids have faced is from other Latinos who do not considered them Latinos. But my children (ages 16 and 11) identify themselves as Chilean-Canadians, and so they are.

Rosa - posted on 07/17/2009

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When my hubby and I went to fill out our marriage license, there was a space to choose Puerto Rican, Mexican, etc. But it said you had to choose ONLY ONE OPTION. Being half Mex. and half PR, I complained to the lady behind the counter. She said there was nothing I could do about it so I had to choose. I told her that my dad is PR and my mom is Mex. and asked her which one I should choose. She said it didn't matter, to pick either one. I was outraged that they would make choose one or the other. Since my husband is full Mexican, I felt a little better choosing Puerto Rican so both would be represented on the license. Now that I have 2 kids, I always stress to them that they are 1/4 Puerto Rican and 3/4 Mexican. As long as you teach him both ethnicities, he'll identify with both. And hopefully, bu the time he's old enough to get married, they'll allow more than 1 choice. I know they're moving towards that since our nation is becoming full of mutts like us more everyday.

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yes your son is mexican. he is half of you and half you your husband. you he is white and mexican

Joyce - posted on 07/15/2009

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Latino! your baby is 3/4 hispanic and 1/4 other born in USA correct? HIspanic all the way

Vignette-Noelle - posted on 07/12/2009

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I myself grew up in Los Angeles and was always considered Chicana because I'm half Hispanic and half white. My mom is white and my father is Hispanic. On box forms I usually put "other" when applicable. My husband is white but I still consider our baby girl to be part Hispanic. For me, it's always been more a heritage thing and I totally agree with Ana Banana... "we define ourselves" and yes, it is a very personal choice.

Jennifer - posted on 07/11/2009

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I feel the same way about trying to figure out what to "label" my daughter. I am Dominican and my husband is French and Italian but it makes me uncomfortable to mark other becuase I would like to acknowledge both of our races. In the future i will mark as many boxes on the forms that apply and I'll let the bureacracy figure it out.

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Oh and btw I'm familiar with this issue since I'm South American, my partner is from Finland and our daughter was born in USA but she's still half South American & half Scandinavian and that will never change even if she goes to live in Asia that doesn't mean she's all of sudden from there...

We have to embrace both of our cultures .

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just right down all that apply when they ask the race question in most of the forms are for medical reasons and yes of course for demographic and statistics reasons... But if you are @ the doctor's and they ask that is because we as latinos are more likely to have heart conditions for example , or african americans on certain types of cancer .. and so on with all the different races they are related with some specific health issues and knowing this will help if some problem comes up.

So just check all that apply of course only from the mother and father of the child don't get confused remembering that your Mom is mixed race... his Dad is also..

Hopes this helps .

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Sabrina - posted on 07/07/2009

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My son looks like my husband, but is starting to get my coloring. So, that will make him look Latino. I always tell my husband that it will be decided by what race his wife is. If he marry's a Latina people will look at them as a latino family and the opposite if he marrys a white girl. (don't know what will happen if he marry's another race). At Church they had a multi cultural day and wanted people to wear costumes or shirts that represented their cultures. My mother-in-law wanted to know what I was gonna put my son in.? I told her an American flag t-shirt...and he did. I do think it's a little strange that here in the US we have to pick. I read an article where they said that Blacks in England don't call themselves African-English like Blacks here call themselves African-American. Maybe with all these multiculural bab's being born we can just be Americans.

Amy - posted on 06/25/2009

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I have the same problem. Except my husband is half white and half Korean ,myself half Mexican and half white. I was ready all these post and it dawned on me what box do i check?

Angelica - posted on 06/23/2009

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I just read this and find it very interesting that others have had the same question. Well duh of course you have, but it just now dawned on me. I am Mexican and my husband is white of Dutch decent. Our daughter is brown as can be and looks just like me. In my eyes she is Mexican. I do not want to disregard her dutch heritage but being that her father really doesn't know what his ethnic make up is 100% and since it is not really important to him and it is to me, I tell her she is my little Mexi baby all the time.I must also add, he thinks she was born the wrong race and thinks he is Latin on the inside! LOL, so that helps I guess.

LISA - posted on 06/19/2009

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My child is Puerto Rican, Irish and German. Mostly Puerto Rican. I teach him about all 3 of his cultures but when I need to address or mark a box on some form somewhere - I always mark it Latino/Hispanic. This will benefit him in may different ways as he gets older. Also, It is very important to make sure we are teaching our children to speak Spanish. The benefits they will feel in adulthood in the business world.

JENNIFER - posted on 06/18/2009

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NO HE'S NOT HISPANIC THE REASON WHY IS THAT IF YOUR FATHER IS HISPANIC AND YOU ARE AMERICAN WELL THE CHILD IS HISPANIC BECAUSE OF THE FATHER .

Patricia - posted on 06/09/2009

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I HEARD ITS THE MOM THAT DETERMINES THE RACE. IM MEXICAN W' IRISH HUSBAND. .. I CHECK CAUCASION, BUT WE ACKNOWLEDGE BOTH, EXPOSE BOTH.

Melanie - posted on 06/02/2009

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of course! the race of the child is whichever. I am puerto rican and my husband is italian and i always put down "hispanic/latino" but this is the way i see it.....if you put cream in coffee it's no longer black coffee...no matter how little you mix in!

Carmen - posted on 06/02/2009

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I definitely with agree with ANA BANANA. We define ourselves for what experiences we have. I say , educate her about her different heritages & she will choose for her self. My daughter is African American by her fathers decent & I am Puerto Rican/Sicilian , our families are very united, she is bilingual, but she is definitely closer to her cousins his sisters kids so eventually she will identify more with what ever side she feels more close to & I have to accept that because she is a little individual already & I am not going to impose anything on her that she does not feel comfortable with.
One day you'll be with your kid filling out a questioner & she will chose & you'll be proud no matter what.

Toni - posted on 05/29/2009

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My Husband is also Polish and I'm Mexican. I believe our little girl and future boy are just a much a part of me as they are of him. We expose her to both cultures and languages....and hopefully when she's all grown up she'll embrace both cultures.

User - posted on 05/29/2009

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u can put other or bi-racial this is found in many applications. i myself am from 2 nationalities. my mother is puertorican and my father is german and i am born and raise in the bronx ny i say i am both white/hispanic or depending how it is worded may be bi-racial or other but that way u donot deny his both/threee or ect, races, ok in my line of work when i do my monthlt reports i know many of my kids r bi-racial which is better c u then

Natasha - posted on 05/26/2009

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my mother is puerto rican and my father is black and italian but when i fill out my forms i check latino hispanic or i say other because as my mother say i did all the work and you came out me me and not your father so your more puerto rican then ahything

Jasmira - posted on 05/24/2009

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I agree - we define ourselves. I was born in Panama, my parents were born in Panama, their parents were born in Panama. Even though I'm a naturalized US citizen and only lived in Panama for my first two years of life, I'm Panamanian - a Latina/Hispanic. When people look at me and hear me speak they assume I'm Black/African American and are very confused when I tell them I'm Hispanic. I don't speak Spanish very often (something that brings me personal shame) but when I do, people are shocked because I speak so "well".



If I recall correctly the 2000 census had an option for White Hispanic but not Black Hispanic so I checked "Other". Census Reps actually came to my house to discuss what I would have preferred to have as an option. I explained that for me choosing one box over the other was disregarding and disrespecting my heritage and all the family and history it took to make me who I am.



When my oldest son was about 2 we were out and waiting for my husband who is Black/African American and a woman couldn't stop staring at us and telling me how beautiful he was. My son had a VERY light complexion with hazel/green eyes and I'm a nice tan shade. When my husband (only a little darker than me) finally arrived her jaw dropped and she said "I thought he was mixed!". I calmly told her that he is and walked away. I think she's still confused. Other people need to open their minds and realize you can't discern the ethnicity of another person by looking at them. My children know I consider them multi racial. As they get older and stake a claim in their identity I'll respect how they personally identify themselves - but remind them of their heritage! :)

Erin - posted on 05/06/2009

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I am a teacher and we have to fill out forms every year with demographics on the children - we were always told the child is what the father is. That changed 3 years ago. We were able to put what child really is - mixed, or latino, etc... not just go with what father is. You could check the U.S. census page and see what the gov. is now doing.

Graciela - posted on 04/25/2009

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I am Mexican/Guatemalan and my husband is white also. When filling out forms for my children I never hesitate to put that they are Hispanic/Latino.

Oona - posted on 04/24/2009

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I am a Neuyorican and my husband family is Italian....I have always put on everything I fill out that my daughter is hispanic/latina.....I don't let anyone tell me what my

daughter is because you'll get a million different opinions.....That is what I think and know to be true she is latina and so am I.....Just because I was born in New York and not in Puerto Rico like my mom doesn't make me less latina....I speak Spanish some people who are more Spanish looking don't speak any Spanish does that make them less Spanish I don't think so.....You know what your son is so you do what you feel is right.......

Clarissa - posted on 04/24/2009

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I know that your baby is latino and that you can put what you want on any form you fill out!!! I am half caucasion and half hispanic. I consider myslef latina and proud of it!!! In this case my children are latinos also!!!!

Catherine - posted on 04/21/2009

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My mother is Mexican, my father is American but he grew up in South America. I check multiple boxes, other, or I disregard the boxes. My husband is American and our son is "other."



Gorgeous son by the way!

Yira - posted on 04/21/2009

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Most students applying to higher educational insitutions in the past few years have shown a marked decrease in answering or checking off the race or ethnicity box at all. When questioned, most mixed race kids stated, "that unless they could write in their ethnic and/or clutural heritiage they were not intereseted in being labled or forced to choose, with such limited choices. The 2010 Census will have additional subcategories for those of us that are bi-racial-cultural-ethnic. As this country becomes more multiracial, and there is a greater appreciation for self identification, I think we'll see a lot of change.

Mi nena sabe que ella es Panamena y African American, le encanta su arroz con coco y sus collards greens. Habla las dos idiomas and has and I hope will continue to have a deep understanding, and love and respect from where she comes from.

That's the most I can stirive and hope for ...

Lisa - posted on 04/20/2009

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i think alot of the mamis out there feel the way you do. im chapina and the father of my kids is half german and half chileno - so what are my babys?? jajajaaa

User - posted on 04/16/2009

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My husband is half Filipino (his mother) and half American (father) and I am full Mexican. When a form says ethnic/Heritage I mark the other box and write in multi-ethnic. If it says race I mark the other box and write Human because I feel that we all come from the human race.

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