My 15 year old son got a girl pregnant! I have no idea what to do. I NEED HELP!! What should I do?
Tia - posted on 10/04/2012
I wish you gave more details.But,you need to help him look for a job.I don't know when he will turn 16,but for now he needs to be mowing lawns and doing whatever it is that he has to do to get money for the baby.I don't know if minors have to pay child support,but eventually he will have to.Either way,you need to let him know that if he was man enough to go knock somebody up then he is man enough to work and take care of that baby.
Don't you start buying a whole bunch of baby items because that is the mother's and your son's job.Don't baby him when he has a baby,and make sure he takes a paternity test because it sounds like you don't even know this girl and that might not be his baby anyway.If I were you I'd be pissed,but good luck with that!And whatever you do don't let the both of them live in your house.
If he wants to go stay at her house let him.But, let him know that you will not condone sex out of wedlock.There are too many parents out there who let their teen and girlfirend or boyfriend live at their house just because they have a baby.Then they end up getting pregnant again.
Tracy - posted on 10/03/2012
The best feeling for a child is to have their parents support when they are about to be a parent their selves . You may be overwhelmed at first but when they baby gets here it will be different .Helping him and the girl to save up money will for sure get them off on the right track when the baby gets here.babies are a blesssing :)
Cindy - posted on 10/02/2012
Hi Alex, I know exactly what you're going thru. My 15 yr old son is going to be a Daddy in a few days. He is wanting to move in with her and her parents. I refuse to let him because of his age. I really want him to finish school and take care of his responsibilities. We have told him we would help him with the baby if he helps himself thru school. Thats by him making good grades and passing, not when the teacher calls and says he's not doing well in school. For that he might as well get a job and buy the baby what she needs. I Love my son, but I also show him tough love. We as parents want all our children to succed, but by the childs mistakes they do it to themselves. Be happy, its a baby that has no fault. When they ask you to take care of their baby to go out for no important reason, you have to say no. Its their responsibililty to care for their own child. Showing them though love will only make them better parents. Where one eats all eat.
Whether were young or old, we all have to work to provide for the household. Don't be ashame, I'm more and sure he's not. Be happy no matter what. NEVER let someone talk down about your son.
There is alot of help for teenage parents. Push them to look. Let them feel what it takes to be parents. Let them feel out paper work and what not. But be there for them when they have questions. They are just kids, learning. We all need someone.
Wish you, your son, and your family the best.
Monica - posted on 09/05/2012
Having had two teenage boys myself (who are now adults, thank goodness!) I was always afraid for them because having had my first at 15 years of age, I know how hard it is to be a teenager and to be pregnant or fathering a child. I am glad it sunk in and they were careful. As I have been a pregnant teenager I can only help you with what I thought would have helped me back then had my parents handled the situation in a different way. I was coerced to have an abortion, which I refused as I wanted my baby and now he is a gorgeous 22 year old I am immensely proud of. I was kicked out of my house and didn't have much support at all other than my granny who was the only soul who actually helped me through that (and my boyfriend, who was 20 but just as lost as me). I guess what she did that was so special is to take me in, give me emotional support and listen to what I wanted to do, which was marry my boyfriend and have my baby. I think you should ask your son to make a decision as to how he is going to handle it, that he is responsible for this child and will have to help support this baby. Do not rush him or talk him into getting into a commited relationship with the mother UNLESS that's what he wants to do. I know it's too common to 'force' teenagers to get married or live together once they are pregnant and that is not always a good thing and of course, the support of both families will be much needed and priceless. I assure you in time everything will sort itself out and don't forget to celebrate and love this beautiful life coming into the world. All the best.
Denikka - posted on 07/31/2012
There's not really a lot you CAN do. Things are kind of out of your hands at this point.
What you do at this point is support your son in his and the girl's decisions regarding the baby. Encourage him to support her as much as possible. If she chooses to keep the baby, he needs to step up, get a job and help support the child.
Talk to the girls parents. Make sure the know what's going on (try to get the girl to tell them) and make sure they know where you stand on things. Make sure your son talks to them too, and explain that he's willing to step up and take responsibility for his actions.
The biggest thing you can do right now is support your son and this girl in their choices.
And now would be an excellent time to sit your son down and talk about sex. Even though it's *a little late* you can do your best to ensure that he never makes such a dumb decision again (aka having kids before he's ready vs not having kids at all, ever)
This is a super hard thing to deal with. I wish you and your son the best.
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