my 8 year old is out of control, what can i do?

Stephany - posted on 01/19/2012

i am having the same problem i he is way out of control. i have talking everything from him hes been grounded and its like nothing fazes him.

Sarah - posted on 10/28/2011

well ground him take everything away from him for example first time asked " get off of him/her or you are in trouble" for more tha one time asked
" i have told you more than once to not do that now go up to you room" and don't let him play video games or watch t.v. something major to discipline him!

hope this helped
go moms!:)

Yesenia - posted on 02/25/2010

I am going through the same thing. The only difference it's my boyfriend’s son. His mother really has no contact with her son/ daughter, and he really acts out with the other kids in the house, the animals, and with me. I know that you have to be consistent w/ the punishments and enforcing the rules.



I give him consequences for his actions. I remind him that by making a bad choice there is a consequence. You'll have to explain the making choice part. I used this on him; you knew hitting the girls was going to hurt right? He said yes, I said we'll that's a choice by still doing what you did knowing that it would hurt the girls. So I said you know by hitting them you’re going to get a punishment for making a bad choice. So his punishments change (they'll know what to expect when they do something wrong, so change the punishments)...like raking the rocks, cleaning the trash cans (including the big one's), pushups, running around the block with them blows off steam for them and you get a work out, anything you know they dislike. Remember to enforce the consequences, it will take time for them to learn you’re not going to let up and a punishment will come for making a bad choice.



I also cut out (for the whole week Mon - Fri and I put parental controls on my channels too) the TV, video games, computer time, and anything that has violence in it...’cause it give the kids ideas and they are like sponges right now, well I took it out and he's improved. He wasn’t trying to do what the people were doing on TV, video games, online, or movies anymore once I took this out during the week. The other kids will hate you for it, but you will see improvements.



I also recommend talking to your child’s teacher, see if there is something going on. Ask to come in for a day just to supervise. I did this and it was like he knew I was making sure he wasn’t doing anything bad, but that you’re paying attention to his every movement. You just have to make sure your child understands his teacher still has control while you’re visiting in school. They’ll think they can do something and you will stop the teacher from enforcing the rules. He tried this, and soon realized I wasn’t going to stop his teacher…



I hope this helps…

Cindy - posted on 02/25/2010

you have to show him who is the boss of the house, he is so big and he undersatand fine.
If he is not good use time out, take his favorites toys and put away for a couple of days, etc.....
My daughter start to say bad words or not nice like butt, fart that she is learning with her friends at school, she is 5 and I was tired about it and I told her that she is not listening to me when I say "no more!" so I will use hot sauce, everytime that she use a bad word I will put it in her mouth, ask me if she is using bad word anymore? and if dhe does, I will use the hot sauce...

Cheryl - posted on 02/23/2010

try to figure out if there is some anger built up somewhere and he is trying to release it in a negative way or maybe at school he was picked on by some bully, or there is the famous answer, he wants attention and negative attention is still attention, you may need to search the www on this one I have girls and I hear boys play rough I only had 1 brother so no way to tell if its a brother thing, most likly it is....hang in there, this too shall pass but probably not anytime soon may if its a brotherly power thing