How to handle a two year old in their terrible two's

Elmarie - posted on 10/09/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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My little one had very bad terrible two's. She has a temper of note and had a tantrim for every little thing that didn't go her way. Let me tell you guys, there's nothing better to get a child out of their tantrims and bad habbits than giving them a good spanking!!! I have to say, she is over her tantrims and having a little fit if she can't get her way. There's NO law that says you can't give your child a spanking every now and again when they get out of hand. And that works!!! If i say no now she leaves it!! Now she knows she's not getting away with it and that i'm the boss, not the other way around. Best way to bring any child up! Don't let them run your life

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Jae - posted on 10/24/2012

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Hello all I have decided to join the circle of moms out of frustration and to seek

Some advices on handling the terrible twos. My daughter Isabelle is 34 months old and she is

OUT OF CONTROL!!!! Let me give you some background on my Izzy. She is beautiful smart

And sharp to the point she is constantly shocking the heck out of me and my husband. Up until this month she has been a perfect little angel the most submissive child a parent can want!!!

But lately it's a war with her from getting up in the morning to going to potty to getting ready for school specifically getting dressed for school sometimes I have to take this child half naked and have the teachers dress her!!! She refused to eat anything I offer whatever I offer she says she will eat the exact thing she knows I don't want her to eat! And my god she just REFUSES to go nite nite. She stalls time like a prisoner facing capital punishment! She would say she's hungry cause she knows I will go fix her food, she'll say that her knee hurts (pointing at the scars from weeks ago from falling and is all healed), and that buys her time. So finally Ive decided that I am not going to get suckered in and I will tell her firmly "no izzy we go nite nite". This is when all hell breaks loose she will cry and scream like she is getting ran over a bus and and won't stop for hours!!!! I literally cry with her I don't know what to do!!! If I giver her her favorite toy she will throw it as far as it can go and if it didn't go as far as she want it to go he will go pick it up and throw it harder till she is satisfied! It's embarrassing to see my neighbors the next morning when the whole town heard her cry. Can't take her anywhere I have so much anxiety when her next tantrum is coming! We love her so much and we never had to do time out or whatever to discipline her bad behaviors until now and we JUST DON'T KNOW what to do. I some times get so mad I feel like I have to spank her but I JUST CAN'T SPANK that tiny butt. I mean When oh when does this end on its on or do I have to stop this?? I am already afraid what will happen when she's a teenager!!!! And you know the saying " there's no stupid kids only stupid parents" this is how I feel.....

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Carmen - posted on 01/23/2012

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My daughter is 2 in Feb and literally within the last 3 days she has turned into an absolute horror! She was very good with using her manners, picking up her toys, eating different foods etc. but now she refuses to use her manners, will not help at all to pick up her toys and hardly eats anything. I'm seriously already at my wits end because I have a 9 month old son who is picking up on all of the naughty stuff that she is doing and starting to imitate her........please tell me that she will grow out of this phase?????

Bev - posted on 01/01/2010

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Oh and btw I believe that these naughty step pads you can buy that countdown their time etc are a bad plan. I cannot confess to trying one but I believe they act as a toy and make it fun which is not what this Is all about. A simple stair or corner of a room should suffice in my opinion.

Bev - posted on 01/01/2010

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Hi everyone. My daughter is 2 and 9 months. I must confess she is very good a lot of the time, but I think it's mainly because we have stuck to our boundaries from day one. A few months ago Abi tested every boundary going, from eating dinner to going to hhe toilet. She's been potty trained quite a while so when she started wetting herself I didn't know whether to go back to rewards for going on the toilet or punish the "accidents". I tried the rewards which was short lived and replaced it with the naughty step when she wet herself. Stand by your guns, stand united and they will get it eventually. Abi is devastated when she is put on the naughty step to the point of screaming that she was scared the monster would get her (?) to starting to cough (because she knows I always ask her if she's ok when she starts coughing) but after returning her there when she moved several times the message sunk in and she knows what the naughty step is all about. We also do the "now you know why you were sat on the naughty step" reminder before taking her off and the "now say sorry like you mean it" but then we don't mention it again. Once her time is done she remembers well enough rather than needing to remind her what she did wrong. And finally the two things I find most effective when disciplining are 1) getting down to their level and making them look at you when talking to them and 2) giving them 2 or 3 warnings about their punishment rather than just putting them straight on the naughty step, because then you have given them an option to make a conscious decision to be naughty again or improve their act. This way you can monitor if the naughty step is actually working or not by the threat of it. I wish you all good luck. Every child is different. I worry that people think I maybe a harsh mother but then I think Abi is a good kid so I think these ways work for us. All I will say is whatever you try make sure you give it a fair shot, kids get confused very easily and if they see a weakness in your approach they will use it. Our kids are frightfully intelligent and manipulative. Ninja kids I say..... Lol. Best of luck x

Kristi - posted on 12/28/2009

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i have tried spanking, time outs and taking my sons favorite toys away and none of this works. i would like some other suggestions if possible. I do agree that a mother knows her child best and that we were raised in a different time and nowadays its difficult cause of societies veiws of how to raise a child the other option is to ignore the unwanted behavior such as screaming...children want our attention and they will not like being ignored and will want to do the right thing to get your attention. sometimes this works for my son but not all the time

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I agree with you. My parents spanked me and I have never been in serious trouble and I am a good person. I have my own family now but I respect the way my parents raised me. Now with my son it depends on the kind of day he is having. Sometimes a spanking will work but that is usually my last resort (but only because it makes me feel bad to do it) Some days a time out will work, some days telling him he hurt mommy's feelings will work and some days I have to just put him in his room for 10 -15 mins to let him have some alone time. As a mom you know your children the best and what works for them. Don't let anyone tell you what is right and what is wrong, only you truly know!

April - posted on 10/27/2009

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I would have to agree with you on that. My son whom is also in his terrible 2's, can get out of hand. But spanking does not work for him either, it just makes him even more angry. Plus I'm not really the kind of parent that likes to spank their child to make him understand that his behavior is unacceptable. He does get a time out for 2 min. and that seems to work for us.

Akisha - posted on 10/25/2009

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i agree with the abouve statements...My daughter thinks she is evryones mama..lol..but she knows when its business time, you let them get away with it they will be the ones spanking you when they get older ..forget a law or all the people talking about dont spank your children , there kids are probaly the ones running around all crazy and all. My mom and dad spanked or whopped us and we all new not to mess around ..so im all for the way my parents raised me becuase i have never been in trouble before..im married and 25 got my child and still scared to get in trouble..lol..

Jessica - posted on 10/25/2009

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I have done that and my son still does what he wants no matter what we say so do you have any ideas on how to get him to mind me?

Donna - posted on 10/15/2009

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I know what you mean... I have twins that are 2 1/2 and Omg!!! It is not easy...

Miranda - posted on 10/15/2009

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I hear you! Although, I will say that I think it is different for every child. My 2 1/2 year old seems to hate being sat in a corner or facing the wall more than he hates spankings. I think that for some kids spanking will work, but for others the thought of being placed somewhere they can't move for 2 minutes, is like eternity!!

Miranda - posted on 10/15/2009

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I hear you! Although, I will say that I think it is different for every child. My 2 1/2 year old seems to hate being sat in a corner or facing the wall more than he hates spankings. I think that for some kids spanking will work, but for others the thought of being placed somewhere they can't move for 2 minutes, is like eternity!!

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