Is my DD the only one her age not potty trained?

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I am reading a lot of these posts and they are saying your toddlers are potty trained or well on their way. My dd is scared of the toilet. I ask her if she wants to go on the potty and she cries and says no. She does the same thing at daycare. I try to let her run around naked on the weekends and she ends up peeing on the floor or crying saying I need a diaper. I bought her a princess potty that makes music when she goes- I also have told her she will get a treat if she goes on the potty- but none of these have worked. Am I the only one? The only thing I am thinking right now is there is nothing I can do until she is ready. So I have to wait....

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Stacey - posted on 09/16/2009

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Mine is the same way. She refuses to use the potty. I am just going to wait until she is ready!

Cassandra - posted on 09/15/2009

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I'm having a hard time with my son, I set a 30 min alarm so when it goes of he knows he needs to sit on his potty chair it worked for a 1 day but then a started to give him M&M's when he went that worked for about 3 weeks, Now we are back to wetting the diaper b/c he will not were big boy pants or pull ups he cries and hides or if we get them on he takes them off. He kinda only does it when he is in the mood. I'm a stay home mom and watch for signs but he doesn't show them but he likes to watch me and his dad go potty

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I am going through the same thing with my son. He will use it once in a while but trying to get him to use it consistantly has been a challenge. I am just going to have to wait for him to come around on his own. Though with the kids his age in daycare telling him he really needs to use the potty is going to help, I think. I wish you luck. If you force it it will get you no where...trust me! lol

Lisa - posted on 09/13/2009

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no, my daughter isnt completely potty trained yet either, although lately she has been going in the bathroom on her own and using it and when she does i make a really big deal out of it..lots of praise, clapping and calling in the rest of the family to see, also i bring her into the bathroom with me when i go and so she wants to use hers too, but i'm not in a big rush..i allow her to decide when she wants to go, it really is all about them being ready, and that has nothing to do with age. my oldest son was potty trained fully by a year and a half, my 2nd was closer to 2 and a half and my 3rd was over 3 yrs old , just have patience, it will happen!

Jocelyn - posted on 09/13/2009

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I have the same problem too but i tried everything u did plus more and nothing is working. Im to the give up point of just saying she will do it when she is ready, but I think the problem is because she is not talking to let me know when she has to pee or poop.

Whitney - posted on 09/13/2009

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m&m's are the answer you have to show her what she will get out of being a big girl, my daughter was 15 months and not even talking when she was potty trained. she didn't want the big potty she wanted a little one and i had to take that same potty everywhere for her and she knew if she went in the potty she would get a sticker or m&m it really works but only reward don't just give (actually when she first started i gave her a dum dum sucker to stay on the potty until she went) and you have to take her very very often until she understands.

Pam - posted on 09/04/2009

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Your little one is not the only one this age not toilet trained my Beverley is not toilet trained and the idea is to wait till she is ready my 8 year old was 3and a bit when I started toilet training her and she was toilet trained day & night within two weeks be guided by her she will tell you. Hey you're doing an awesome job

Deborah - posted on 09/01/2009

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Hey I also have had trouble with my son learning to use the potty, resulted in us going out and spending a fortune on an all singing dancing potty that looks like a mini toilet and plays music etc, it seems to have done the trick, he is getting there slowly, I feel your frustration but im sure ur doing just fine, she will get there, of that i am sure. xx

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Andrea, my daughter is not potty trained either. She wants NOTHING to do with it. I try to get her to sit on the potty in her room, in front of the TV...nothing. I'll ask her if she wants to go poo-poo on the potty and she says "no poo-poo on the potty. poo-poo in my diaper". I'm hoping she be that one child that will just decide one day she doesn't want to wear diapers anymore.

Jacque - posted on 08/30/2009

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My son has shown very little interest as well. Not to worry when your daughter is ready she will let you know. My Nephew who is 36 hrs older than my son is now showing interest. Remember that it's not until they turn the age of 2 until they are able to control their bladder. Takes some time. I am not in any rush. I do ask and try from time to time. I figure he will let me know when he is ready.

Leanna - posted on 08/29/2009

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I have three children... my first two were girls. My oldest potty trained in about a month when she turned two. The next one I didn't have such good luck with. She wanted nothing to do with anything potty related. And I did it all! The cool chair, treats, stickers, candy, having her watch me go... nothing. What finally did it for her was me not trying so hard. Once I let her relax and stopped putting pressure on her (and me) she figured it out. In fact, she bipassed the potty chair completely and went straight to the toilet.

The biggest mistake we make as parents is comparing our children to other kids. Each child is unique in his or her own way and should never be treated as anything but special. There isn't a cookie cutter book somewhere that says a child has to reach certain milestones at certain ages or they aren't "normal". They all learn at their own pace.

And for the record, my third child was born in March 07 and although he is wearing pull-ups and will go potty when we take him. He is still miles away from being "trained."

Let your DD go at her own pace and don't be so stressed!! There's so many other great things to focus on with your toddler.

Mackenzie - posted on 08/28/2009

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All I can say is dont rush her, I know some days mine is all about the potty and then the next she will go in her panties, as long as she is ready for school, I am not going to rush her. I dont want her to have any bad experiences... Good Luck!!!

Kayleigh - posted on 08/28/2009

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dont even worry she will do everything when she is ready... my son has just started on the potty yet he still has plenty of accidents the best thing iv learnt is not to make a big deal over it! good luck!

Treasa - posted on 08/28/2009

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You are not the only one. My son is 2 1/2 and although he reconginzes everyone else in the house who uses the potty and loves flushing and playing in the big potty he hates going to the potty. He can tell me that he needs a new pamper and all that good stuff but all my family and friends say he will use it when he is ready. Gosh I hope that it soon because I am 5'11" and dad is 6'4" so I don't need to tell you how big he is already and he was born prematurely. So good luck and just try to be patient. :)

User - posted on 08/27/2009

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Dont worry they do it when they are ready. My oldest daugher who is now 12 was almost 3 and not potty trained. We went camping and she found the potty in the camper fasinating and was potty trained with few accidents afterward. So it will come just be patient. My 2.5 year old isnt super interested yet but she will.

Rebecca - posted on 08/26/2009

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My DS is not potty trained yet either, he has peed once or twice but that is it, i really do think that it just happens when they are ready, but i feel that if you push them and they are not ready, you are taking 5 steps back, know what i mean, good luck and dont get too fustrated with the whole thing.

User - posted on 08/26/2009

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You are not the only one! My son is not even considering the potty. I will wait until he is ready. I don't think causing a huge headache is worth it. The stress could cause anxiety which is also not worth it. She will go when she is ready.

Stephanie - posted on 08/26/2009

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you are definitely not the only one. my son has no interest in the potty. ive tried everything. i guess it will happen when hes ready for it too! good luck!

Kim - posted on 08/24/2009

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My son is taking his own slow time when it comes to the potty. You are not the only one.

Sarah - posted on 08/24/2009

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You know what my daughter is the same way she just will not go on the toilet or the potty and my friend's daughter of the same age is almost completly trained. But I have three other children and they have all been potty trained at different times. I am one of theose people that say they will let you know when they are ready. If you push them too soon it might be longer before they are.

So just take your time and don't worry about it she will let you know and if she is like my middle that when she was ready she did not need any pull-ups or diapers at all not even at night she woke up one day and started to use the potty and never went back with little to no accidents. So be patient! It will happen.

Amanda - posted on 08/22/2009

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No you're not the only one the hasn't gotten their child potty trained. Madison shows interest and even tells us sometimes but not nearly enough. She goes through so many pull ups its crazy. Those things are so darn expensive. I think its going to be a long stubborn road with her but we will all make it through eventually.

Stella - posted on 08/22/2009

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Hi DD's mom! how old is the li'l Pumpkin? Mine is two and she can take her self for the urine do not tell her about number 2!! She refuses flatly to go to her loo and rather does it in her panties!! it's a mess but hey what can we say? I've decided I will not rush her no matter how frustrating it can be!

Cathy - posted on 08/22/2009

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You are definately not the only one! My DS has no interest in the toilet. He does tell me when he has pooed in his nappy. He also tells me when his nappy is very wet but absolutely no interest in sitting on toilet or the potty. He used to stand at the toilet with Dad but has no interest in doing that now either. I am waiting for the weather to warm up a little and will tackle the issue again.

Andrea - posted on 08/20/2009

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I know what you are going through!! My daughter showed a ton of interested and just like that she changed her mind!! Im not gonna rush her, because before i know it she'll be asking to borrow the car! Good luck and have patience!

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