Pacifier.

Gemma - posted on 02/01/2009

hiya there.

my daughter will be 2 in march and we have just go her off the dummy. when she waslil she did have it often ut the older she got i made sure she didnt have it a lot. for the past few months i stopped her from having it in the day and it didnt bother her. it was always hidden so coz she couldnt see it she didnt want it. but now partner has started not giving her the dummy at night and she seems fine with that too.

she did have it the night before last coz she work up scared after haaving a nightmare so once she had settled a bit it was taken back off her and she went to sleep with out it.

i have known some mums that make a kind of story to get their kids not to have their dummy for example the fairies have taken it etc. if she is old enough you could do a reward chart. each part of the day (morning evening and night) that she doesnt have her dummy she gets a sticker and if at the end of the week she has done good the get her a small toy, maybe something she loves.

hope you get it sorted soon. i think i have been lucky with my daughter and her dummy lol

Tamie - posted on 01/31/2009

My son has never had one.. neither of my boys did, for that very reason. I hate the things and feel they are unnessesary but thats just me, alot of kids do have them at that age. I know from my sisters son that we just had to throw it away and be stronge, the first day is the absolute worse but if u make it through that day u will be ok. My son has also been is not a toddler but a regular bed since he was about 1, I bought a rail that attaches tot he bed, he would NOT sleep in his crib, so I had to try something, lol.

Jennifer - posted on 01/30/2009

My twin boys will be 2 on March 1st.  They only have their paci when they are in bed.  Sometimes they will find one around the house during the day and I tell them to go put it in bed.  Sometimes they will want to get in bed so they can suck it.  My ds who is 6 now had his paci until he was 3.  And I started cutting off the tips, and he gave it up fairly easy. 

I am not ready to take it away from the twins.  I don't want to fight them to go down for naps or bedtime.  

Good Luck!

Lorilynne - posted on 01/29/2009

My daughter does not use a pacifier.  She had it for the first couple of months but I'd say by the time she hit five months we didn't even have any in the house any more.  At first I used it all the time but eventually it became a sleep time only thing, then bed time only thing and once she discovered her fingers, it was gone completely.  So I never really had to deal with weaning her off, it just kind of happened naturally for us.  She still sucks on her fingers though....I'll deal with that when she gets a little older.   If you cut the tip off the paci, it won't be as satisfying and she may just give it up without you having to do anything else.

Nanell - posted on 01/27/2009

I few fun ideas on how to get your kids to give up the binky or what ever they call it.  Throw a Bye bye binky party. and then at the end tie them to a balloon and let them go.  and have them say bye. You can say that the binky fairy needs them to give to another little boy or girl. 

Loose them.  if you child has ever lost a toy it may work.  or they may look for them forever.  Cut the nipple off and throw them in the outside garbage.  Say no. 

For mine kids and ones that I have watched.  out of sight normally out of mind.  say no and me saying, oh I can't understand you with that was a good way.  Plus I gave them a sippy cup with water for the bed side at night.  In the car i have special car toys that they only get in the car.

Erin - posted on 01/25/2009

My guy still has his.  He forgets about it during the day while he is playing if I hide it after breakfast, but I still use it for naps, bedtime and the car.  I figure that is not too bad.

Kim - posted on 01/24/2009

My daughter still has her "soosie" at nap and bedtime at home but doesn't require it at either of the dayhomes she attends during the week (not even at nap time). But the second I walk in the door she asks for it. She knows that if she fusses enough half of the time i'll give in and let her have it. My older daughter stopped using her soother at 17 months because we wanted to get rid of it before the next baby arrived thinking it would be easier than trying once the baby had a soother too. She was less stubborn though and it only took a few time for her to settle without it. Good luck.

Andrea - posted on 01/24/2009

I am in same boat..Will LOVES his and wont give it up. I asked the doctor for advise, and he said just dont give it to them. I am trying to break him of that, his 3 year old brother potty trained and both of them in their own beds..

It is alot of fun at my house right now

Rosalyn - posted on 01/24/2009

It's very reasuring to hear that so many of you with babies the same age are all going through the same thing, my little girl also loves her "dummy". She doesn't have it during the day or at Nursery but in the car and at bedtime she always asks for it, I haven't been brave enough to say no yet. I had noticed that I had been offering it to her without her asking, which I have now cut out, I used to think "we're getting in the car now so she will want it" and so I gave it to her "here you go Isabella do you want your dummy", of course she always said yes. I have stopped doing this now, and instead I wait for her to ask me for it, which does seem to be cutting it down a lot. I am not really too hung up about when she finally gives up, I know it doesn't do her any harm, she gets comfort from it, and she is happy to leave it in the car when we go out, so I am hoping that she will just grow out of it on her own (we will see???)

Gabrielle - posted on 01/23/2009

I also have the sames issues with my son- i have asked daycare to start taking away his dummy, as he has both a dummy and rabbit blanket for his sleeps. A friend of mine says a week is needed and lots of patience as her boys were very upset for the first few days of no dummy. I am aiming for the dummy to be gone by his second birthday and the blanket by the end the time he moves into a bed. He only uses it for his sleep at the moment and occasionally when he has a huge tantrum.

Carolyn - posted on 01/23/2009

My daughter only gets hers as naptime but not bedtime. She loves her "pop" so much that she asks for "minky (blanket), pop, nigh-nigh) every afternoon when she gets tired. She was so good at going down at night from a very young age that she just never needed it then, so I guess I'm lucky in that aspect. She takes 3 hour naps every day so I figure I'll just let her keep it for naptime until she stops taking naps. I'm just afraid she will stop napping as well if I take it away. Her pediatrician said that with such minimal usage, it should be fine even until she's 4 or 5. But I plan to take it away by 3 at the latest.

Candy - posted on 01/22/2009

My daughter loves her papi!! She just started in a daycare setting this week for the first time. They suggested she keep it until she gets adjusted to her new routine. This puts a road block to my plan of getting her off by February. She will be 2 in March. I suggest naps, bedtime, and when you have "had it". I don't know about ya'll but I can only take so many minutes of screaming for a papi. I think mine will eventually get rid of it. If a new baby is coming soon around friends or family ask your child to give their pacifiers to the new arrival. That worked for my sister when she was trying to get her 2 year old off hers. Good luck to all of us. I personally sucked one until I was almost four. And those were the ugly big brown ones and my parents used yarn and tied it around my neck. How times have changed!!!

Daphne - posted on 01/22/2009

My daughter is in a small daycare and does not use her pacifier (she calls it bobo) at all, even when she takes her naps. But as soon as I pick her pick up, she ask for both her blankie and bobo. I've tried to keep her entertained at home until its bedtime. It doesn't work. I just do get it, lol. I am also hoping to help her get rid of the pacifier by the time she is two.

Daphne - posted on 01/22/2009

My daughter is in a small daycare and does not use her pacifier (she calls it bobo) at all, even when she takes her naps. But as soon as I pick her pick up, she ask for both her blankie and bobo. I've tried to keep her entertained at home until its bedtime. It doesn't work. I just do get it, lol. I am also hoping to help her get rid of the pacifier by the time she is two.

Louise - posted on 01/21/2009

my sons 21mnths old and he still has it and i dont plan to take it off him anytime soon
the only reason my son started with the paci is cause we had a very ruff start and i tried everything to stop him crying the paci was the last straw but when i finally found out why he wouldnt stop crying and fixed the problem i felt to mean to take the paci away.

Megan - posted on 01/21/2009

I am in the same position too, but I think by his second birthday we will try to talk to him about how little babies need them and maybe he could give his too one of them, or I have heard of people giving them to santa for little babies which is kind of out of season for our children so what about in the spring the baby animals or something make it a big deal about how nice and helpful it is for big boys and girls to give the little babies their passi since they don't need them anymore... I don't know if it will work but it is what I am going to try around March!

Courtney - posted on 01/21/2009

My son loves his "sassy" too. He has about 10 of them hid in various places throughout the house. He always has one in his mouth at home, but leaves it in the car when we get out anywhere else. I have no idea how I'm gonna get rid of it without weeks of screaming and fit throwing!!

Sinh - posted on 01/21/2009

my bug is all about her binkie...we've got her down to where she only takes it at nap time and bed time or if she falls down and get's hurt

Kelly - posted on 01/18/2009

I still allow my daughter to have her "bink" for naptime and bedtime. She knows that it doesn't leave the bed though. I just transitioned her crib to the toddler bed last weekend and it was fine. I plan on getting her an actual toddler bed this weekend, but I think keeping the bink will be more comforting to her. We are also moving in two weeks. Too many adjustments for her. I figure we'll have a "bye bye bink" party a bit before her birthday and give them all to babies who need them. That's what we did with the bottles too. Hope this helps.

Cathy - posted on 01/18/2009

My little one doesn't use a paci, but my older one did.  He "lost" it at about 20-21 months.  We got rid of all but one of them and when he lost the last one we said "Sorry, buddy you lost it."  It worked for him, but he did substitute another safety item.  When he would fuss that he didn't have it, we'd give him an item (for him it was glow in the dark Harry Potter glasses).  It could be anything...blanket, teddy, etc.  I wouldn't recommend something that will cause trouble down the road though, like something that you wouldn't want them to have later.

Jennifer - posted on 01/17/2009

Yes Conner still has his and my goal is to get rid of it over my spring break (I'm a teacher) which will be two weeks after he turns two. Right before my daughter turned two, who was also very attached to hers, (only at sleep times though,) we got rid of hers. Her routine was to throw it back in her crib after she took a nap. So one afternoon after she had thrown it back into bed, I went back in there and cut it. Yes I felt AWFUL but she understood the concept of things that break, get thrown away, and since this is the only one we had left, that was it. I then called her back in her room and told her that her nuk was so old it broke! She tried to put it back together of course and said Daddy could fix it but understood she had to throw it away. We had about 2-3 nights of long crying fits but we held firm and got through it. Good Luck!

Angela - posted on 01/17/2009

i am in the same boat.  she doesn't use it at daycare but needs it the moment she gets in the car and then at bedtime.  She naps at daycare w/o it.  She hasn't really taken to a blanket or stuffed animal..this is her comfort thing.  I keep talking about how the bink goes away when she turns 2...i don't think it is going to be fun but her birhtday is my goal.  My sister told her daughter the "binkie fairy" was going to come and get them to give them to little babies.  In their place she was given a big girl gift...she never looked back.  Hoping it is that easy for me!  Best of luck!

Angela

Ashley - posted on 01/13/2009

Logan is just as attatched to his paci, he still will sometimes walk around with it during the day. I got my older child to get rid of it by replacing it with a bottle at night which turned out to not be such a great thing. I figure for now if I limit it to just nap time/bedtime that he will give it up on his own.

Leonita - posted on 01/12/2009

My little one never had it. We offered it- she never wanted it. I dont know if being breast fed had anything to do with it or not..As she will ask for those.. she calls them bo bo's
I stopped breast feeding at 14 months as due to work my milk eventually dwindled to nothing. For two months after that I slowly weaned her.. letting her use them for basically nurturing purposes as she wasnt getting any more nutrition from what was left. When shes sick she still asks for them. Bo bo's mama, bobos... I just say no more bobos honey. Maybe ween your child slowly and give positive reinforcement for when she doesnt need to use the binki - start to limit it at nap time. If child is only using at naptime, chances are he/she will ween off by themselves before age three anyway..but you could try to change up the nap time routine a little bit, to distract her.
I work in a dental practice,so just to make you feel better, pediatric dentists recommend limiting pacifier time once a child is 2 and eliminating it by age 4 to avoid dental problems. It sounds like if you are only at naptimes, you are doing very well already :)

Jessica - posted on 01/12/2009

I don't have much advice for you since I'm in the same position.  Will only gets his binky at bedtime or during his naps.  I took it away during the day and in the car back in August.  I'm going to try to get rid of it next month.  I have Monday the 16th off and I'm going to work on taking it away that weekend.  I think I'm just going to cut a small hole into them.  I heard this works.  Who knows! 

As for the toddler bed...Will loves his crib.  He doenst try to climb out.  I'm going to hold off for a little longer.  I'll tackle that once he's off the binky!