9 month old with #2 on the way

Gina - posted on 01/29/2009

I Had My Daughter December 2006 And My Son March 2008 They Are 15 Month Apart,I Found Out I Was Pregnant When My Daughter Was 6 Months Old. Don't Get Worried it's The Best

Jamie - posted on 01/29/2009

My son is 10.5 months old, and I am currently preggo with baby boy #2, due June 2nd.   They will be 15.5 months apart.  We planned it that way, and we were trying to get pregnant  as we really wanted them to be close in age.  I do feel some guilt about being able to give them both the attention they deserve, but I know it will all work out.  I am excited to have them close in age so that they are interested in the same things and can be best friends.  I think it is a wonderful thing to have 2 so close in age!! 

Kelly - posted on 01/26/2009

I am in the same boat girl!  We weren't planning it, but I think the kids are going to really appreciate it.  Instant friend for life!  (or enemy, lets hope not!)  I am due Aug 1st.  Just think how much more fun they will have playing with each other and not with old fuddy-duddy mom and dad!  I have heard only good things about siblings being close in age.  In a few years, it will really take a load off of you and your husband to have something other than the two of you to keep her entertained.

Loralee - posted on 01/26/2009

Sorry for the late reply to your post. I only just joined Circle of Moms.

I decided to have my children close together as my brother and I are exactly a year, month and a day apart and are now the best of friends. I became pregnant with my second when my son was 9 months old aswell. I must say that at first I was extrememly worried about how I was going to cope. From the day we brought our daughter home, our son has been great with her. He is very gentle and we were lucky that he wasn't jealous. I think we gave him more attention during the months after we brought home  his sister than he has ever had. My daughter is 10 months old now and I can honestly say they are the best of friends. I am sure they will have their fights as all siblings do and they might not always "like" eachother but I am in no way sorry that I had them close together.

Advice...get them on the same nap schedule as soon as you can. My son still has an afternoon nap and I was able to get my daughter to nap at the same time...this gave me a chance to relax.

Enjoy it! I am amazed everyday with their relationship.

Best of luck.

Candice - posted on 01/24/2009

I have a 5yo, 2, and 9mths. I found out the week after my daughters second bday i was pregnant. I felt guilty almost the whole pregnancy, and i wish i would'nt have felt that way. My 3rd child,my son, was such a blessing. I cannot imagine my life without him, just as I felt for the others. My 2yo and 9mth now play all the time. And trust me...its great. He entertains her, she entertains him. My only suggestion is to not overcompensate for your feelings too much. I felt so guilty that I wouldnt put the 2nd child down. I spoiled her completely rotten and let her have/do whatever because i wanted her to get all of her baby time in before the 3rd was born. MISTAKE. When the 3rd came, that didnt mean anything to her. She still expected things to be the same. It was my fault for not allowing her time to entertain herself and learning patience. She got over pretty fast though and now she is so protective of the little one. And remember there are no accidents. Just because you werent planning doesn't mean that God didn't.

Kristy - posted on 01/20/2009

My older 2 kids are 18 months apart. When I first found out I was pregnant with my daughter my son was only 9 months old.. I cried.  It was very hard. But they grew up close and still are pretty close(they are 13 and 12). So we started all over with this last baby(who will be 10 months tomorrow).

I think it will all work out just fine..

Good Luck!

Lacey - posted on 01/20/2009

I found out I was pregnant with baby #2 when my daughter was about 6 months old!  My babies are going to be 14 months apart!!  I'm looking at it as a good thing because they get to grow up together and have a friend for life!!  My brother and I were 13 months and 2 weeks apart and he was way more than a brother to me!!!  Just make sure you let both know they you love them, I'm sure as they grow up they'll figure that out!!!  Good luck and Congrats!!!  Get all the rest you can...it helps!!!

Amanda - posted on 01/12/2009

My two children are about 18 months apart, and it has been the greatest blessing to watch them interact with each other...they love each other so much because they are so close in age I think.  I wouldn't have done it any other way.  When I found out I was pregnant with my son, I felt exactly the same way that you did because I didn't want my daughter to miss out on things because of how busy I would be with a new baby.  I can promise you that it is difficult at times, but it is so rewarding in so many other ways that you will look back and not think twice about having them close.  I wish you luck...we aren't even worrying about having our third at this point and my son is only nine months.  Just enjoy as much alone time with your daughter as you can right now!  You can always do special things with just her once the new baby comes anyways! 

Margaret - posted on 01/11/2009

I found out that I was pregnant again when my son was only 4 monhs old, he and his sister are a year and 12 days apart.

Christine - posted on 01/11/2009

Dont worry about that your daughter will be fine and trust me its actually nice that they will be so close in age because they do really get along so well. They play together so nicely the only thing that will probably happen is that your daughter may think she is the mommy and want to always take care of the baby, its really cute but can get very stressful at times. I think everything will be fine.

Tina - posted on 01/11/2009

hiya, my daughter was born the 3rd of march and im due again on the 18th of march this yr, i also feel very guilty about havin my kids so close together, i worry so much about wether i'll b able to give my daughter enough attension wen the other baby arrives

Christine - posted on 01/11/2009

I had my 3rd son on january 23rd, 2007 and then my 4th son on March 7, 2008. I can tell you that you should not feel any guilt and they are going to be very close to each other. Out of my 4 kids the last 2 love to play with each other. So dont even worry about it you can have mommy and daddy time with the both of them together and it will be less of a stress on you. Good Luck.

Erica - posted on 01/10/2009

There's always that initial shock :) Congratulations, and I'm happy to see you are getting excited. Your daughter will be fine and after some time, probably wont remember it any other way.

Chanel - posted on 01/10/2009

Thank you everyone for the great thoughts.  I really am feeling more confident about this whole thing and am actually starting to get excited about the new baby.

Cindi - posted on 12/28/2008

I am having those same feelings -- not pg yet but I would feel like time will be taken away from my twins if I have another baby too soon. I am just not getting any younger and feel like if I wait too long I won't want to get pg again. I would like to at least try for a boy :)
You will do great -- just make sure you make time for your daughter when the baby comes. Like you won't be busy enough! enjoy your pregnancy.

Janine - posted on 12/27/2008

My son was born March 11th 08 and I'm due with #2 in April- a little nervous, but excited for them to be best friends- every adult i've spoken to who has a sibling close in age has been best friends from day one!

Franchessca - posted on 12/23/2008

I am pregnant with number 4 and we planned on having our kids close together. We have a 7 y/o, 23 m/o, 9 m/o and I am 13 weeks. At times sure it can be hard but make sure you include your oldest. Don't jump on saying no when she is near the baby ... tell her gental and show her how to do things. Make sure you set aside time for just her and mommy / daddy time.



When I gave birth to my youngest the middle girl was 15 m/o and my husband was deployed. I did it on my own - no family help even since we live in Japan. You can do it ... you just have to believe in yourself. It may also help to get your daughter a baby doll and tell her it's her baby. I showed the youngest to the middle one (oldest is in the States) but didn't socialize them together for a while. I let her get used to the new baby even being in the house first. I don't reccomd leaving them alone in the room together where the older one can reach the new one either ... there were many times I was sitting there watching and my girl would go hit the baby. They LOVE to play together now. It was worth it completely to have them close together.



Just rememebr to beleive that you can do it and you will. It isn't as hard as some people say ... I did it by myself for 9 months. You can do it too.

Somer - posted on 12/23/2008

I am a mother of four girls, I have a 7 year old and a 3 year old then I had a baby on march 14th 2007 and then I had my next baby on march 8th 2008. I too cried when I found out that I was pregnant again, don't get me wrong I wanted four kids but I didn't think that I would have them so close together. My baby was only four months old when I found out that I was expecting again and I felt like I was robbing her of being the baby but now if I could do it all over again I would have had all of them that close. My two babies are so close with one another and I am loving every minute of it. The only thing I have to remember is that my 3rd daughter is still a baby and I shouldn't expect more from her. Last night I was holding the youngest and my husband was holding #3 and she had the her sisters soother and my husband told her that she was not the baby and to give it back, I quickly reminded him that she is still a baby and not to push her to grow up o fast. It will all work out in the end so don't stress too much your little girl is to young to be jealous and you are giving her a playmate.

Maggie - posted on 12/22/2008

I say congratulations!!!!!!! I wish I were in your shoes. At this point there is nothing that you could do (well there is but I'm assuming that you are not that kind of person); just see the positive of the situation. Your daughter will have a sibling to play with. They will grow up together. And quite frankly it's up to mum and dad, how much time each baby will spend with you guys. In the begining, it will be tough because the new baby will require a lot of attention from mummy. That should be a good opportunity for dad to grow even closer to his daughter. It will all work out. It probably won't be easy but it can be done. Enjoy your pregnancy! I am very happy for you :)

Jill - posted on 12/22/2008

I have a 2 year old daughter and a nine month old son. I felt very guilty when I got pregnant and she was only 6 months old because of the same reason....I wanted my baby girl to continue to get all of the attention and adoration that she deserved. However, when my son was born; it was not very hard to divide the attention - just demanding on your patience sometimes. She did become more independent and learned that I had to tend to the youngest first but it wasn't and isn't always easy to spread yourself so thin sometimes....but you will definitely manage. Now that they are starting to play and laugh together, I know that they will be happier having each other to depend on. The guilt is definitely gone!

Christy - posted on 12/22/2008

I found I was pregnant when my daughter was only 5 and hlf mos my daughter is 16 mos older then my youngest and let me tell you its VERY HARD but also even though it was an "accident" it was the BEST accident
because of their birthdays they are going to be in the same grade together thats going to be interesting but its so fun now my baby is nine months and I see them interacting more and how excited she gets when her big sis walks into the room yes I see lots of fights in the future but I also see a lot of love growing something I never got because my sibling and I were 6 and hlf years apart and not close at all
dont feel bad about loosing that mom time with your daughter I felt the same way even to the point of when I dropped her off at Grandmas the night before my c section I had to pull over to the side of the road and cry some big tears because I felt the exact same way
the good news is she will never think she got jipped out of that time because she will NEVER remember a time when her baby sis was never around enjoy it like I aid lots of hard work but very worth it

Faye - posted on 12/21/2008

My Kids are 19 months apart and from the very begining we invovled my eldest, so much so she used to kiss and cuddle my bump. Nursery also helped as when we had picked a name and were close to my due date they helped her to practice his name and get her really excited about having a brother.
The hardest time was being away from her when i had him but she came to visit the same day and was his first visitor.
She was a bit jealous when i first brought him home but all his visitors made a big fuss of her first.
It is very hard work to start with but worth them as they are so close now

Tina - posted on 12/21/2008

Three of my friends had the sane thing happen. One has two girls that are a year and one day apart. Another her boys are 14 months apart. the other one has a one year old and she is pregnant again. They all felt the same way as you do. Both girls who have two babies are doing well. In my experience having children close together makes them be closer later on in life. Also the younger one will try harder to do things like walk and crawl because the older baby can do it. It is normal to feel the way you do, but everything will be ok.

Lauren - posted on 12/21/2008

There are pro's and con's of both. My HTB and I are debating this exact question at the moment. My sister are only 18months apart and we love it because we have always been extreemly close and were able to socialise all the time together. I personally have decided the only con of having chidren close together is the work! :-) lol! (thus the only person who would suffer would be me!) My mum said she can't remember 'hating' it. I thought I was pregnant last month, so I had time to process these types of questions... at the end of the day, your daughter will still have you guys, she'll still love you JUST as much, plus she'll have a baby bro/sister to play with!

Get excited about having another baby and the fact that they will probably be best of friends!