general stress.... need support

Andrea - posted on 06/09/2009

First off your a good MOM... I was diagnosed as Bi-Polar 9 years ago and have been doing pretty good... lately I have been having ups and downs, so I kind of understand how hard it is to get up a do everything. I was wondering if there is programs where you live that help get depression meds for you till you can get back on your feet. They have them here in CA but I am not sure what they are called. It is like state aid, I know that it is something that you might not want to do but it might be something that could help you out. If you are in a church the preacher/priest might be someone you could talk to. They are usually trained for counseling and it probably wont hurt to talk to someone who isn't in the mix. I hope this helps and good wishes to you.

Mschelseamac - posted on 06/09/2009

You are part of a larger club than you think.



My Husband had to take a week off of work after my Father shot himself (Nov 27th/08 so just before December and Christmas!). We were just holding on until that point then we shot right into the red. I didn't find a job right away when my maternity leave ran out which made matters worse. I have my 14 month Son, my Husband, 1 dog, 2 cats and 10 hermit crabs. Really I think the only ones that don't stress me out or make too much work are the hermit crabs!

After getting my wisdom tooth pulled, then severe sprain to my shoulder the chores fell right behind. My Husband suffer from short term memory loss and has a screwed up sense of time. When I tell him to please put the clothes in the dryer an hour later he doesn't recall me saying that OR he goes to put them in the dryer 3 days later when I've already done it! If he could just put his own damn clothes in the laundry hamper I'd be happier than a pig in mud!

After the shoulder sprain, a work injury, my employer, we'll call them Mal-Wart, jerked me around a bunch. When a manager pulled me aside and told me how my injury wasn't just hurting myself but my family, co-workers, and the customers PLUS how sad my Son must be seeing Mommy come home injured I quit! I don't need that sheot personally. HOWEVER that didn't help the money situation at all.

Thankfully my Mother is in good health other than high blood pressure. But I worry about her a bunch because she is still in a war with everyone trying to settle my Father's affairs! She missed a bunch of work and is hurting as well.



Maybe all of us should highjack a plane (let's face it we cannot afford ticket ;) and make them drop us off on a nice beach someplace where our $$$ goes further! Oh to dream eh?

Rachael - posted on 06/09/2009

Dear Cheryl, You are deffenetley under alot of pressure and i totally understand why you are feeling this way :) Good on you for going to your doctor and for trying to seek help. Its so hard balancing all that a mother has to do i wonder if you are aware of the amazing job you are doing to be taking care of everyone. I encourage you to take some time out for yourself and to not feel guilty about it. Your husband needs to help out i have had many of agruments with my partner about helping with the housework. I know what its like to be the only one doing things around the house day in and day out. His support will do you wonders. Thankyou for your post as i was thinking i was the only one who was feeling overwelhem with being a stay at home mum to a toddler and never getting time for myself. I think we should both take a deep breath and some time for ourselves. Exercise is aparently a really great way to combat stress and even a walk on your own while hubby watches your child could be benefitial for you. Hope this post has helped in some way :)

Rachael - posted on 06/09/2009

Dear Cheryl, You are deffenetley under alot of pressure and i totally understand why you are feeling this way :) Good on you for going to your doctor and for trying to seek help. Its so hard balancing all that a mother has to do i wonder if you are aware of the amazing job you are doing to be taking care of everyone. I encourage you to take some time out for yourself and to not feel guilty about it. Your husband needs to help out i have had many of agruments with my partner about helping with the housework. I know what its like to be the only one doing things around the house day in and day out. His support will do you wonders. Thankyou for your post as i was thinking i was the only one who was feeling overwelhem with being a stay at home mum to a toddler and never getting time for myself. I think we should both take a deep breath and some time for ourselves. Exercise is aparently a really great way to combat stress and even a walk on your own while hubby watches your child could be benefitial for you. Hope this post has helped in some way :)

Melissa - posted on 06/03/2009

I hate to say it but you are in a really tough position. I truly do feel for you. I lost my job right after my son was born and have not found a new job yet (I am going to online school). I take care of our 15 month old son while my husband works, and plays softball. So I know how depressing the day to day life can be. Do you live in a bigger city that might have a Health Department. Sometimes they have support groups that are free or based on your income. You might want to call them. Also what about play groups where you can just get out of the house for a couple of hours and talk to other adults and you daughter can play with other kids and not need your constant attention. My mother in law also suffers from seizures, but she is on medicine to control hers. She can do almost everything that I can do and she does all her own housework. Maybe if you explained to her and your husband how you are feeling they can help pick up the housework. It is not that hard to do dishes or laundry or just tiding the house and that give you a break. I wish you luck.